"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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cablecow15

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Can sometimes be a early warning sign of how many issues a girl has lol

I was fooling with this one girl for a while , and the dog was nuts , annoying wouldn't listen barked all the time , pissed on the floor would bark if I touched the girl

I was watching that dog whisperer show the other day and he said " the dogs behavior mimics that of the owner" or something along those lines. It struck a chord in me , because this girl had so many hidden issues that were easily apparent in her dog.

she was messy unorganized and had a chaotic schedule and life
she clearly was not over multiple of her exes , and many other problems
all in one way or another voiced themselves through her dog

and even if this all seems nuts , bottom line is , if a girl cant control her dog , good luck on her controlling other aspect's of her life as she should

now am I saying drop a plate if her dog jumps on you ? lol no but beware , I like to arm myself with everything I can , but take it with a grain of salt
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Realistically the girl was more or less trying to mirror you. If you seem like the crazy unpredictable type, then she used the opportunity of utilizing her dog to do just that. Mirror you. Dog training is not easy, a lot of great people have dogs that can't be handled, not everybody has the time or money to train them. Training a dog takes dominance anyway. Are you trying to find a girl that will make you her b!tch? If anything, you have found yourself a very passive girl. So train her, as well as her dog. If you know what I mean.

Good luck.

-Scars
 

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That a woman has a pet at all -- is a warning sign. Pets are for kids/families. Adults pet their mates. Then you could categorize the warning according to the type of pet: big dog = insecurity, tiny dog = entitled, cats = unfeminine and overcompensating, reptiles = . . . . you get the picture.
 

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training a dog is one thing , letting it be out of control and making no effort to stop it is another , the dog would bark constantly , and she would just sit there , drove me nuts , plus she had a lot of issues that i didnt fee like listing


scars , im very confused by your post , I don't see how shes mirroring me , i have none of the problems she had , and we weren't in a relationship she was one of my plates that i spent to long on and should have dropped much sooner than i did

Im no longer speaking to this woman , but just looking back over the situation im trying to notice hints at her hidden faults , so i don't waste my time again
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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