"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girls & complaining

diceman

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Hi. There's a girl that i'm kinda into. She texts me every now & then & we have a 20 min text convo every so often.

Lately, she's always leading the convo to her hating her job. She'll say she doesn't like it there, it's depressing & leaving it open for me to respond.

I either just leave it there & don't reply, or i make a joke of it (ie. say for her next job she could do (something ridiculous) that references something brought up earlier in the convosation). Even then though, she eventually brings it back to "i dont like my job" territory.

I know the fundemental rules with girls - never try to solve their problems or tell them why they shouldnt feel the way they do, so i'm avoiding that.

I also know that they are emotional creatures, & is she trying to share her emotions with me? This is obviously something important to her at the moment, so how do i respond?

This is mainly with our text talk. When we see each in the flesh i keep the time fun & this stuff is easily deflected.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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El Payaso

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You're not even banging her. You're merely her emotional tampon. A tool to dump all her emotional worries and thoughts on. When she's done, she throws you away and takes a proper pounding from the alpha who doesn't listen to her emotional whinings.

Cut her off and tell her you have work to do. Simple.
 

Reckoning

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Don't be an emotional tampon, just tell her "oh, that sucks, I hope you find a better job soon", and REMAIN ALOOF from there unless the changes the subject to more interesting things other than her problems. If she doesn't, you never had a chance anyway.

You ARE supposed to listen to a girl you're interested in when she tells you about her problems, but it's just beta stuff if there's nothing..physical going on between you two.
 
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