Girls claim "I haven't had sex since" (....)

[The Decay of Meaning]

While talking, girls quite often (almost all of them say, for instance):

"Jeez, I haven't got laid in two weeks" (hinting that she wants sex)
"This is the first time I've been at a boys house since my ex and I broke up"
"I haven't had sex since I broke up with my boyfriend"
Also, a girl that lost his boyfriend because of suicide claimed she hadn't been with another guy than me since he died, even though it went about 3 months before we met, and 2 months before we got committed to each other.And this was a very sexual girl.

etc.

Also, if they somehow ditch me or something (which has happened from time to time), it's always "I don't want any other guy either, I don't know what is happening with me, but I don't even want to be with a guy physically".

For instance, the girl with the suicide issues said she couldn't be with me because she needed to deal with her ex who died and couldn't be with another guy in that process. I found it a bit strange since we already were.

Practically all the girls I've been with says that they haven't had sex with another guy since the breakup, and I am the first. Is that
just standard replies from girls? It seems a bit strange that they all say this.

 

[Die Hard]

They're all lying... Some of them might actually be telling the truth but the great majority of them is just lying to you. If this really happens so much to you, it might be that you possess certain personality traits that make them think this lie is a good way to win you over (that it works well on you in particular, whereas it won't work that well on other guys)

Or you just attract girls with this particular "sex-issue"...

 

[The Decay of Meaning]

If this really happens so much to you, it might be that you possess certain personality traits that make them think this lie is a good way to win you over (that it works well on you in particular, whereas it won't work that well on other guys)

Let us say that is true, why would they think that?

 

[tafakna]

Obviously if that happens a lot to you, girls are just molding themselves to fit your behavior. Just by raising this question shows that this is a big deal for you. They are saying THIS because you're asking.

If you don't ask, and just let them open themselves by not judging them, you will find the true answer.

The usual board cynicism apart, suicide causes long-term relationship issue to the spouse. Three months without sex is NOTHING for someone who lost their partner to suicide, and just doubting that shows that the real issue here is not them.

Sorry if this sounds too direct...

 

[The Decay of Meaning]

They are saying THIS because you're asking.

Never mentioned it or posed a question about it. Ever.
That is why I find it so odd.

The usual board cynicism apart, suicide causes long-term relationship issue to the spouse. Three months without sex is NOTHING for someone who lost their partner to suicide, and just doubting that shows that the real issue here is not them.

Well, I met her on the dance floor after several years and we just started dancing and touching each other immediately. It was only later that night she told me.

So it didn't seem like she had any confusing thoughts about being intimate with a guy.

The thing is that she said afterwards when things went downhill that she couldn't be with me anymore because of that incident. It was no problem when things went great between us, at least not a major problem. And besides she had (and she admitted this on her own) used him as an excuse before.
So things are not that clear cut.