girls are u willing to date loner guys

[joe45]

what do girls think of a guy 24 yr old who has no freinds or very few more like aquintances type of ppl he talks to. are you or would u be willing to date one of these guys. what do u think of em. he talks to ppl and is freindly but just doesn't have friends with which he hangs out with.
i now you can get a lot of informatin from a guy just by talkin to his freinds and observing his speech toward him and his freinds, but what happens if he ia more like a loner.
i perosnally am a quite person-sometimes i jsut have nothing to say and don;t wanna hurt someones feelings that why i am quite and that was just how i was raised up.

trying to make more freinds though he just its hard-i voluntter one a wk now talk to ppl there and talk to the occasional ppl at school if i see em around.
i want to eat in the cafe but doesn;t seem right just to join into somebodys group when i just now one person out of the 6 ppl in the group and that one person is just a casual aquintance there. and i don;t want to eat alone in the cafe as nobody does , so i eat at the benches at school

 

[sfalexi]

I'm not a chick, but I don't understand why any chick would look at your social circle before deciding whether to date you or not. You don't tell them "I'm a loner", do you? If not, we all get dates when we're just 'out'.

Alexi

 

[joe45]

well for one they could think ah why doesn't this guy have freinds? maybe hes weird or something. maybe hes some up to no good . b/c wit freinds u can tell something about a person and when someone has nobody well its like a mystery and some gals are kinda of scared of that mystery

 

[DeathDealer]

I can relate to you. As I used to be one a couple years and even though I have a couple true friends (true friends, talk to you about emotional things and well.. you know the feeling) And there are girls that may date loners. For some reason, the girls that have dated me initially turned out to be whacked out and loners themselves too...except most of their friends are GUYS.

Avoid the Attention H0s, at ALL costs..It's like the AWs were out looking for loner boy prey because they're more vulnerable and easy to control than a guy that has friends who can support him.

/drama

 

[Brad324]

I understand your problem. Though I do have a few friends, they're all from high school and live far away from me, so we pretty much stopped hanging out. In high school friends were easy to come by, but now it's like... you have to have friends to make friends.

I'm convinced alot of the DJ techniques can be applied to having good friends to hang out with. If you're intimidated by people who are popular or "too cool", then you'll never hang out with popular people. Confident guys want friends who are confident. Needy guys end up with other needy friends, and you end up sheltering eachother from having a real life. I know this from experience.

Whenever you get an invitation to a party or any opportunity to go to a social gathering... just go. Who cares what anyone thinks. Just be there and talk to as many people as possible. Guys with girlfriends, or guys who are trying to impress girls will be forced to talk to you or the chicks will think they're *******s. (Unless you're a known loser or dork or something... I'm assuming you're just a "nobody" that no-one really knows much about or cares about)

It's easy enough to get another guy's MSN or phone number if he's in your class. Whenever you need to ask for homework assignments, just ask one of them. Start up converstations *****ing about how much of an ass the teacher is, or talk about different chicks in the class. If there's one thing that causes guys to bond, it's talking about chicks. If you know what you're talking about (and you should, by reading the DJ tips), then you'll be seen as socially competent and you'll find it alot easier to hang out with these people at school. One of the best ways to get people to want to be friends with you is to make friends with an attractive girl, just for the purpose of being friends. When you introduce an aquaintance to this girl, introduce him as "a good friend of yours" and tell her something about him. People want friends who will help them get chicks. And he'd probably return the favour if you asked him to introduce a chick to you.

Now this is all just theoretic, but I've been picking my brain with this for a while, trying to come up with techniques to build a social life from basically scratch. Help people meet chicks, and they'll see you as an asset to their life. But just like meeting attractive women, don't come on too strong, or come off as needy or desperate, or the guy will think(realize) that you're a loner.

 

[LADawg49]

Not always true

Not always girls will not go out with loners. It depends on your mindset. If you are confident, more girls will go wit you whether u have 0 friends or 100 friends. If anythin women might respect you more that u have a mind of your own, and that you don't allow a group of people to control your life.

 

[englishcrap]

Re: Not always true

I concur on this point. It all depends on the mind set. I myself have a very a few close circle of friends, 4 of them. When I meet a girl I make it a point that I am very choosy when it comes to friends and am not the person to be your mate just because you happen to have bought me a drink. With this mindset in place..I dont see myself as a loner..I enjoy my own solitude and am very picky about the friends I hang out with.

This gives the girl the impression that you not just any old bloke but different.

Originally posted by LADawg49
Not always girls will not go out with loners. It depends on your mindset. If you are confident, more girls will go wit you whether u have 0 friends or 100 friends. If anythin women might respect you more that u have a mind of your own, and that you don't allow a group of people to control your life.

 

[thefonz]

She MIGHT go out with you knowing you have no friends (under non-loser circumstances)......but if you don't hang out with other people what are you guys gonna do? You just gonna hang around the house all day? No. You're gonna have to go out and spend money on her. Girlfriends aren't everything. There's gonna come a time when you start to get sick of her being around you all the time and you're gonna think "Damn, I gotta get some guy friends." Why do you think the bible emphasizes being a social person so much?

 

[skeeloo]

doesnt matter if your a loner or not as long as your cool. but i dont think shell keep up with the guy if he doesnt have a single friend. common Atleast you gotta have two good friends.

 

[RoeCyris]

something i learned here that i have found to be very true is that girls like having thigs to do with a guy. What i mean is that most girls don't just like to sit around the house they want to go places to show off the guy and be shown off by the guy. This can be a problem for loners b/c they LOVE sitting around the house and watching movies, listening to music, playing games, and whatever. A typical girl will only put up with that for so long, if at all.

So to answer your question about yourself, yes you will have trouble. I'm not saying it's impossible, im just saying that, as you probably know by now, its harder. It cuts your pool of potentials down drastically, kind of like smoking does (but some people thing smoking is cool, very few people think sitting on your sofa for hours is cool).

 

[KillingTime]

I have ZERO friends and never go out anywhere, but somehow my confidence is through the roof lol... I got the ****y/funny thing down perfectly, I can talk to anyone no prob etc.... but I never really leave the house, just can't figure out how it's done haha.
I get looks and get girls talking to me and coming and sitting with me at college but that's about it, I have no clue how to have a life.