knglerxt said:
How often does this really happen? Keep in mind that I'm only referring to girls that are complete strangers, not some girl you already know. I'm talking about places like the bookstore, library, grocery store, etc. Some place where people don't go to meet other people.
What are some of your theories on this? Are guys that have experienced this just "lucky"? Or are they lying about it? Or is there such a thing as a vibe or aura some people give off, regardless of their level of physical attractiveness?
I'm a good looking guy, yet this has never happened to me. I get looks, but never some girl striking up a conversation or anything. It seems to me that most people are focused on themselves when they're out and about or are just too afraid to approach a stranger.
Well before I started reading a practicing a lot of DJ material I was so AFC that I probably did not even notice that a girl was interested in me.
But as of late it has been happening a lot more often for me and to tell the truth it has got me baffled why it happens. I guess I put off a vibe but I am still somewhat inexperienced in how to handle them approaching me.
Tell me if you think this girl was trying to hit on me.
I was in my favorite coffee shop about four nights ago, it has a bar section with network cables so people can sit at the bar and plug their computers in and use the INTERNET for free. The rest of the coffee shop has tables and chairs with no INTERNET or power plug-ins.
I went in there and found a table with two chairs and sat down. I saw this women out of the corner of my eye, she was sitting at the bar with her laptop and some guy was talking to her. I was writing in my journal and occasionally scanning the room. 15 minutes later I give the room another scan, she is still talking to this guy, smiling and laughing.
He leaves and she got up to order a drink or something at the main counter. Now I get a look at her ass and I am impressed by it. I make a mental note to myself that she is hot. I go back to my writing in my journal. I never made eye contact with her at any time.
She gets her food and walks back to her computer. Suddenly she unplugs it from the INTERNET and picks it up and walks over to me and says, "is this seat taken?" the one that was empty on the other side of my table. I say, "yes go ahead and take it". I honestly thought she wanted to take the chair away with her. So she plops herself down and spreads her computer out on my table and begins to eat and type away.
I think to myself WTF is going on here, is this a joke someone is playing on me. There was lots of free tables in the shop.
Anyway she takes out her phone and holds it up as if she is trying to read a number off of the screen but I think she was positioning it so she could take a picture of me with it.
Who hasn't tried to sneak a picture of someone with their camera phone, you end up holding it really still and awkwardly vertical, and thats what she was doing. She was holding it there pointing it at me for a good 10 or 15 seconds then she put it away.
After about 5 minutes I go up and left, it was just so outside my reality that I didn't know what to do. I never said anything to her but when she saw me getting up to leave she smiled and said, "Have a nice night".
I am really not used to women doing that kind of stuff around me. The strange thing is I must be putting of a vibe or something because I have many women staring at me these days, trying to catch my eye.
I told this story to a friend of mine and he started calling me a wuss and stupid and telling me all the things I should have done and I am certain that those thoughts are going through everyones mind here as well, but as they say, hindsight is 20\20. If you are put in a situation that you are not expecting to have happen you would probably freeze as well.
It's so easy to IMAGINE what you would do afterwords. I am being honest with you guys as to the whole story and my reactions.
