Girls and Instant Messaging

[Panda 2000]

How do you view dating birds in relation to instant messaging (programs like msn, yahoo messenger etc.)?Do you view it as an assett or an annoiance?
I personally go to a great extent that girls I am dating and interested in don't find out I use any kind of IM program, although I use msn messenger.
Why? If the chick is your girlfriend and you're both online, it's almost as if you must talk to her. And even if you don't, chances are she'll talk to you. And I don't really like useless chattering over IM with girls, I feel it hinders progress more than it helps it. And from my friend's experience, who communicates with his girlfriend over msn, it leads to the girl leading interest sooner, because you're talking too much. And over the net. The only way then is to block her, and I don't like blocking people on IM.
Discuss.

 

[Happiness Renewed]

If you block her, she will find out. Most of them know about sites like mess.be and msngeeks.com.

 

[justsomeguy1984]

yeah dude, just don't tell her your SN or even that you use an instant messenger.

 

[ScrewIt]

Theres no point in lying about it, theyh'll find out eventually.
and there's no point in blocking someone unless you're paranoid about letting thme know your online....or that person is really annoying.

My bro's in a relationship and he and his ltr gf uses aim, long distance relationship. He barely goes online so no problems there. And when they do talk usually he doesnt respond for a long time, cause he goes online and does other things like laundry or tv.

So an ideal solution is -

dont go on instant messenger at all
or
go on

 

[WhitePimp]

I know how you feel. I hate talking to chicks on IM because it forces you to come up with bull**** just to pass time and I'd rather talk to friends or look up other stuff than worry about talking to someone I'd rather see in person anyway. I usually give them an old screen name of mine that I go on occasionally so I dont have to bother with my normal one

 

[DeathDealer]

Instant Messaging is a step below Email in terms of communication.

I only use IM to relay useful information such as: So what time is that movie starting or You ready for me to come over?

Girls on the other hand, use IM especially to "friends" in a very talkative way like a phone. There's really nothing wrong about IMing to the girl you are interested in or in a relationship - if she wants to talk.. talk.

But keep it limited like phone conversations.

 

[PRMoon]

I'll keep sayin it if I have too, I'll never be completely sold on internet "dating" I mean if this person is good enough for you to waste hours upon hours talking to over your computer then she's obviously good enough to at least have a decent phone coversation with this person, or at least meet them in public. Besides why waste so much time on the internet when you can be out and about meeting girls in bars or at clubs or wherever. Sure the locations I just mentioned were age specific, but there was chat and what not availible when I was in highschool and sure I'll admit to getting caught up in that whole chat craze on school nights but I'd say 75 or 80% of my good work happened either on the phone or face to face.

I think the internet is an okay way to find new ideas and maybe just maybe meet someone you could have a future with. But I find it to be an inhibitor when it comes to socilization because you don't have any accountability. You don't have to worry about being embarassed, you don't have to worry about how you're dressed, you don't even have to worry about the appearence of the person you're talking too becuase they either send you a picture (which may or may not be them), you don't get a picture at all (in which case your mind constructs a pretty flower of a woman in your mind to accompany the ephoria you feel conversating with this person, or you already know what they look like and A. you don't want to be seen with them so an artificial relationship is sufficient for you or B. It's someone you do like but you just don't have the balls to step up and ask them to meet with you in actual reality.

I'm a big fan of good time usage when it comes to women and I just don't see the reward from spending all of that time.

If you need someone to meet you some where CALL THEM, or at least use a text messanger. Technology has defeated the need for computerized instant communication.

Is there an echo in the room? because I think I can hear myself saying this again in about a month or so.