"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Girls acting wierd

illmatic1005

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im 16 and it goes like this...

Almost 95% of the time when i meet a new girl(not ugly) i talk to them and make them laugh. I dont act like and AFC or a jerk i just let it flow. when i talk to them for a short while they still are attracted to me. then after another short time ..they start to act shy and intimidated. i also catch them looking at me when i see them. Then in a joking tone i say something about what they are gonig and they laugh and say 'oh i didnt know hehe" but they still do it and sometimes walk past me and try to act like they didnt see me. (not in a mean way tho)

i can tell they are shy and intimidated whenever they are around me but when they are talking to other people they are loud and fearless.

Does anybody know why they become intimidated and shy only around me and is that a good or a bad thing?

Stanks
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Ask them out on a date and then you'll know.
 

blinkwatt

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Ask for numbers and arrange a date,you will learn to filter the phonies in time.
 

illmatic1005

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thats not the answer i was looking for but o well

i cant ask them out or whatever because i am just too busy with school and soo much work the only time is the summer or week long vacations....

any other way that you already know why they act shy and intimidated?

Stanks
 

KontrollerX

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Its a good thing.

Means they like you.

Same thing happened to me and the girl really really liked me so I know. :D
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Qmanchoo

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It's very simple. Happens to me on occasion, I have a girl at work that is the exact same way.

She's attracted to you but thinks you're value is higher than hers. Because she thinks your value is higher she's naturally more tentative and unsure about what to do around you as to not "make a mistake"

she probably just "doesn't knwo what to say"

Girls are guys are very similar, really, they have their differences but it's not like we are 100% and completely alien. Emotions are real, we share them but express them differently. Social situations and social interactions carry different but definite contexts, expectations, and pressures. People react to different sitautions by withdrawing or getting defensive if they are unaware of what to do or not experienced.

My advice? You need to keep talking to these girls and make them feel more comfortable over time and eventually they will warm up to you. You have some good natural game going on so keep it up, people won’t usually just LOVE you the SECOND they meet you (and if they do usually they are F’in crazy or socially starved)...or want to hang out and be friends. Give it time, keep working your stuff man.
 
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