girlfriends man... girlfriends

[CrzyBadBoyDJ]

so me and this girl have been going at it for about two months now. I never really got much into the "love-like euphoria" state of the relationship until recently. Me and her went to see the "day after tomorrow" tonight and the way she was touching me and being close was just making me like her even more. BTW we've already ****ed 3 times but that was like a month ago.

But when we left the theater and we got to her car, she stopped to get her keys and i went for a kiss and got a short peck and then she went to open the door but I forcefully closed the door and gotten closer and said, no lets just stay her for a minute. But she insisted and we got in the car and left. I was alittle pissed about that because she's leaving for 10 days to go home to see her dad in illinios. And I haven't seen her in about 5 days and just wanted to spend some time being close to her before she left. So when we pulled up to my apartment, she said that she wasn't coming up and that she had to get up early tomorrow for work, so I kissed her again and after the third or so kiss, she stopped and pretty much acted like she really wanted to go home and not be there with me for a moment.

It never used to be like this though, over time she gets less and less into making out. She still calls me everyday sometimes twice a day. Sometimes when we talk she doesn't listen to me. Like she'll completley zone me out like if she's laying on me watching tv and I'll say something, sometimes i'll have to say her name like 3 times to get her attention.

But then again, the other week we were watching a movie and my house and I started to rub her in her genital area and got her aroused enough to tell me to **** the movie and goto my bedroom where we had the most intense make out session of them all and lots of drysex. I guess she was on her period.

Is this a normal occurance for a relationship man? This is my first major relationship. Any pointers would be great.

 

[Grey Fox]

Well at first you the euphoria part kicks in and that means a lot of sex. Usually the longer you are with a girl like that the less sex there is, and if you get married to her, you can kiss sex goodbye. To prove my point I want you to drop her cold for about 2 weeks, then become available again. Out of fear she will bang you to keep you hooked, then for two weeks I want you to be as easy to find and get to as water in the ocean. And I garuntee you no sex in those two weeks. You are letting one girl take control of the relationship. Hell she didn't even want to kiss, she just wanted to see the movie and leave. I'd say start shopping around for a better girl who isn't just going to lure you into the relationship with sex and then make you go cold turkey.

-Grey Fox

 

[Hollowpoint]

Intense drysex? WTF? Normally I get notified if she's on her period....

You likely aren't being agressive enough, you didn't even REALLY figure out if she had her period or not....

 

[CrzyBadBoyDJ]

Damn, thanks for the info guys.

 

[Jvesti]

It sounds like you need to slow your roll bud, you were too all over her like a hot rash and that put her off. You need to step up your game a few notches.

So you have a choice:

1. Be a smoothering wussy in love with her, let her disrespect your time over the phone by ignoring you.

End Result: You get your heart broken, she holds back sexually more and more as you push more and more then she either wants time off or friends.

2. TAKE A STEP BACK, make less smothering sexual advances, take your busyness in life up slightly, don't put up with disrespect for your time, detach yourself from any "instance" where your time isn't bein valued, this will cause her to respect your time more.

End Result: She values your time, respects you, and knows the value of you kissing and touching her BECAUSE you aren't doing it every 3 seconds.

The choice is yours

 

[CrzyBadBoyDJ]

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