diplomatic_lies
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See other girls.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Girlfriends fake attitude. and other guy.
- Thread starter choychoy12
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
PuertoRican_Lover
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Stop it get out of this mentality that it is your fault!!!!!!!!!!!!! Blame her for disrespscting you!!!!!Originally posted by choychoy12
....Once the disrepect started happening, like she started hanging with this other guy, behind my back, i let it pass a few times.
But now I've realized that it was my fault to begin with,
You explicitly stated "NOT" to see him and she does it anyway!!!!!!!
Male friendsd should only be present if the B/f (you) are there!!!!!!!!
Do some covert reconnaissance and see what is up!
choychoy12
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Hey guys.
SO this is whats happenign! Just during this after noon! I yelled at her. I told her I was pissed off!
She ended up with, Lets **** it, i dont give a **** about this, i'm over this **** now.
I replied with "I dont give a **** anymore either".
She told me that i made her feel like ****..
I replied with "I really really dont give a ****".
She replied with "Dont ever talk to me ever again".
...............................
She ends up sending me this huge email about, how she cares and she doenst want things to end like this etc...
and she wants to know what i'm all pissed off about.
I tell her everything, that i'm pissed off at her disrepecting me with this guy and that i'm not into her fake attitude.
she just responds like she's so innocent and she really didnt have an idea that i was annoyed at those things.
She just tells me that this other guy is just a good friend. And that whenever she's pissed off at me, she just hangs around him alot to catch up?? Because when she's not pissed off at me, she's always around me.
She also explained that the reason she messages him alot is to give him **** because he's so gullable and he's really easy to bag and tease.
She also explained that, because she knows that nothing will ever happen and that there really good friends. is why she hangs around him so much..
Do you guys think that she's still bull ****ting?? And that there is something goin on between her and this guy?
and she also says she doesnt even realize her fake attitude.
I dunno things are pretty weird now, she was saying things like, Do you not want me to hang aorund this guy, or do you want me never to get close to any guy. And she told me, that the last time i got pissed off at a guy that was getting close to her, They became really really distant.
I told her she can do whatever she wants. ANd that from now on, we just need to be honest about how we feel.
But after our heated discussion, she just end up with saying that she still likes me and she wants to be with me. And that she was close to dumping me, during the time we were letting each toehr know that we didnt care.. because she said she was in a rage of emotion?? But then when she calmed down and thought about it, she really did care and decided that it wasn't true, she didnt want to break up.
What I've realized is, from now on I'm going to put her at a lower prioirty. See my friends first, see other girls, go out and do the things I want first. Instead of attending to her everytime she calls me or whatever.
And let her know that I'm out with this other girl. Or i'm out doing other stuff with my friends.
I guess let her know that i'm busy.. .
Do you guys thinks its right to be soo honest with her from now on? Tell her whats bothering me patiently... Instead of being pissed off and trying to forget the whole thing.
I also told her, that ever since we started dating I pulled away from my female friends out of respect for her.
And the reason I got pissed off was I expected the same from her as well.
advice?
SO this is whats happenign! Just during this after noon! I yelled at her. I told her I was pissed off!
She ended up with, Lets **** it, i dont give a **** about this, i'm over this **** now.
I replied with "I dont give a **** anymore either".
She told me that i made her feel like ****..
I replied with "I really really dont give a ****".
She replied with "Dont ever talk to me ever again".
...............................
She ends up sending me this huge email about, how she cares and she doenst want things to end like this etc...
and she wants to know what i'm all pissed off about.
I tell her everything, that i'm pissed off at her disrepecting me with this guy and that i'm not into her fake attitude.
she just responds like she's so innocent and she really didnt have an idea that i was annoyed at those things.
She just tells me that this other guy is just a good friend. And that whenever she's pissed off at me, she just hangs around him alot to catch up?? Because when she's not pissed off at me, she's always around me.
She also explained that the reason she messages him alot is to give him **** because he's so gullable and he's really easy to bag and tease.
She also explained that, because she knows that nothing will ever happen and that there really good friends. is why she hangs around him so much..
Do you guys think that she's still bull ****ting?? And that there is something goin on between her and this guy?
and she also says she doesnt even realize her fake attitude.
I dunno things are pretty weird now, she was saying things like, Do you not want me to hang aorund this guy, or do you want me never to get close to any guy. And she told me, that the last time i got pissed off at a guy that was getting close to her, They became really really distant.
I told her she can do whatever she wants. ANd that from now on, we just need to be honest about how we feel.
But after our heated discussion, she just end up with saying that she still likes me and she wants to be with me. And that she was close to dumping me, during the time we were letting each toehr know that we didnt care.. because she said she was in a rage of emotion?? But then when she calmed down and thought about it, she really did care and decided that it wasn't true, she didnt want to break up.
What I've realized is, from now on I'm going to put her at a lower prioirty. See my friends first, see other girls, go out and do the things I want first. Instead of attending to her everytime she calls me or whatever.
And let her know that I'm out with this other girl. Or i'm out doing other stuff with my friends.
I guess let her know that i'm busy.. .
Do you guys thinks its right to be soo honest with her from now on? Tell her whats bothering me patiently... Instead of being pissed off and trying to forget the whole thing.
I also told her, that ever since we started dating I pulled away from my female friends out of respect for her.
And the reason I got pissed off was I expected the same from her as well.
advice?
MindOverMatter
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LolFolllow the Puertorican rabbit!!
Choy, I think you're heading down the wrong path here. What you're doing is extremely selfdestructive and you're already moving there. I think you ended this the way she wants you to end it. Leaving everything in a mess and making her feel that you can't handle her having a male friend on the side.
ENOUGH of this honestly crap you keep mentioning. Look, saying all this to a woman just shows her how weak you can really be. She is the enemy (for now), so why show her your weakness??? If you wanted to break up with her, you should of said something like.
"hey, I believe we should take a break"
"why?"
"Cause i'm not feeling a connection between us"
"why would you say that?"
"Because if there was a connection between us, you would know why"
"Wait I don't understand"
"Not expecting you to, I just need some time off"
In this convo, there's no cussing and you guys aren't kids who are upset with each other. You are in control of the conversation and you are in control of the out come. If she agrees with you on the break then all the the better. But if not, like you say she is then this will leave you in a MUCH better position because you're the ONE that REJECTED her first because it is her and not you.
I think you guys are past the point of return so I wouldn't bother dealing with this chick again. It would save you some stress if you were to just cross her out completely rather than having her as a low priority friend.
ENOUGH of this honestly crap you keep mentioning. Look, saying all this to a woman just shows her how weak you can really be. She is the enemy (for now), so why show her your weakness??? If you wanted to break up with her, you should of said something like.
"hey, I believe we should take a break"
"why?"
"Cause i'm not feeling a connection between us"
"why would you say that?"
"Because if there was a connection between us, you would know why"
"Wait I don't understand"
"Not expecting you to, I just need some time off"
In this convo, there's no cussing and you guys aren't kids who are upset with each other. You are in control of the conversation and you are in control of the out come. If she agrees with you on the break then all the the better. But if not, like you say she is then this will leave you in a MUCH better position because you're the ONE that REJECTED her first because it is her and not you.
I think you guys are past the point of return so I wouldn't bother dealing with this chick again. It would save you some stress if you were to just cross her out completely rather than having her as a low priority friend.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Choy - do you notice the vengance in this woman?? Am I the only one that sees how spiteful she is???
"When I'm mad at you I run to him? HUH?? WTF??? This is bullshyt!!
Why not run to one of her GIRL friends?????
Don't trust her!!! I know woman of this spiteful mindset and when mad theywill fvck other guys just to get back at you!!!!
Her anger is held inside and she is spiteful!!! She knowingly went against your word to spite you!!! To show you that you DON'T control her and that she can do whatever she wants!!!! A sp called "liberated" woman!!
Live your own life and do your own thing!!!
"When I'm mad at you I run to him? HUH?? WTF??? This is bullshyt!!
Why not run to one of her GIRL friends?????
Don't trust her!!! I know woman of this spiteful mindset and when mad theywill fvck other guys just to get back at you!!!!
Her anger is held inside and she is spiteful!!! She knowingly went against your word to spite you!!! To show you that you DON'T control her and that she can do whatever she wants!!!! A sp called "liberated" woman!!
Live your own life and do your own thing!!!
choychoy12
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Guys, are you reading anything I'm writing?
SHe already agreed on staying with me???
She already said, she is willing to give up this guy, to be with me..
She already said, that she's given up one of her guy friends once, and she is prepared to do it again, so she doens't lost me??
Where does that come out as, I'm being weak? If something bothers me, like another guy? What am I supposed to just keep it in, cause i'm scared of showing my weak side? I'm going to be pissed of on the inside anyway. I might as well tell her right?
I dunno i think you guys might need to read it again. It just sounds like you think this girls an evil ****...
One thing i do realize is that yes, it does leave us in an awkward situation and yes she does realize that i get like that.
I think its up to her to figure out whether or not she likes me enough to stay with me, and not dis respect me again. Because if she does, then we'll definetly be over.
But for now, she's decided that she wants to be with me.
I've also decided, to not see her so often and if she messages asking what i'm doing, to just let her know i'm out wiht my other girlfriends...
SHe already agreed on staying with me???
She already said, she is willing to give up this guy, to be with me..
She already said, that she's given up one of her guy friends once, and she is prepared to do it again, so she doens't lost me??
Where does that come out as, I'm being weak? If something bothers me, like another guy? What am I supposed to just keep it in, cause i'm scared of showing my weak side? I'm going to be pissed of on the inside anyway. I might as well tell her right?
I dunno i think you guys might need to read it again. It just sounds like you think this girls an evil ****...
One thing i do realize is that yes, it does leave us in an awkward situation and yes she does realize that i get like that.
I think its up to her to figure out whether or not she likes me enough to stay with me, and not dis respect me again. Because if she does, then we'll definetly be over.
But for now, she's decided that she wants to be with me.
I've also decided, to not see her so often and if she messages asking what i'm doing, to just let her know i'm out wiht my other girlfriends...
choychoy12
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Hey guys..
I did it! I realize that yes, i dug myself a hole, which i have been noticing lately, she's been acting very distant and treating me with no disrespect, even more of a fake attitude.
So a few days ago i called her and said, its time we go on a break..
she answered with well we might as well just break up then..
i'm like is that what you want..
she said well if were going to go on a break then we might as well break up..
i just said.. i dunno whats been happening lately, whether or not its this other guy, but you've been treating me like ****..
and just said, i dunno whether or not you want to break up or not, regardless i want a break, i need some time for myself.
and i just hang up.
she ended up messaging..
"I know if we go on a break the hances r so high that we wont get back together and if i wanted to break up i would of done it the other day, sorry if i've treated you like ****, i'm going out now, so talk to you another time i guess..
I dunno what she wants.. but regardless i've decided to move on with my life, happy with a girl or not girl...
and just go out and do the things that i enjoy.. better myself and my career..
What do you guys think?
I did it! I realize that yes, i dug myself a hole, which i have been noticing lately, she's been acting very distant and treating me with no disrespect, even more of a fake attitude.
So a few days ago i called her and said, its time we go on a break..
she answered with well we might as well just break up then..
i'm like is that what you want..
she said well if were going to go on a break then we might as well break up..
i just said.. i dunno whats been happening lately, whether or not its this other guy, but you've been treating me like ****..
and just said, i dunno whether or not you want to break up or not, regardless i want a break, i need some time for myself.
and i just hang up.
she ended up messaging..
"I know if we go on a break the hances r so high that we wont get back together and if i wanted to break up i would of done it the other day, sorry if i've treated you like ****, i'm going out now, so talk to you another time i guess..
I dunno what she wants.. but regardless i've decided to move on with my life, happy with a girl or not girl...
and just go out and do the things that i enjoy.. better myself and my career..
What do you guys think?
MindOverMatter
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Bro, your relationship is more dead then Van Damme's film career. The only mistake you made was saying you wanted a break, should have just dumped her. She doesn't care enough about you to convince you against it, she wants to go see other people. Break things off and move on.