Girlfriend Woes

[PISTOL_WHIP]

*Long Post*

 

[edmond]

***** whipped

How can she be your GF when she cant forget her "ex" BF ?

 

[wayword]

shes talked about how even though her ex.bf had a really large penis, mine is much better.

Lmao, fuggedabout her dude, she's still sprung on his large dong. You know DAMN WELL she'd fug him in a heartbeat if he wanted to. Dump that ho already.

 

[PISTOL_WHIP]

Lmao, fuggedabout her dude, she's still sprung on his large dong. You know DAMN WELL she'd fug him in a heartbeat if he wanted to. Dump that ho already.

You're wrong. I do believe that she doesnt like him and theres not a chance in hell they'd get back together, but thats not to say that shes not over him.

Anyways, Im not going to get rid of her at the drop of her hat, we've invested a hell of alot into this relationship. I want to move over there and she is going to be the primary link for that move. Without her, I may not be able to live out my long term goals. But its not just that, I also believe that we do love each other, however cliche that may sound.

 

[wayword]

^ Pull your head out, dude.

Anyways, later she tells me that her friend is visiting from europe and this guy was friends with both her and her ex. So they are all going for dinner together when this guy returns with a few other people. I just dont understand why my gf would go ahead with that if she hates her ex.

Because she is obviously still obsessed with him. And she doesn't hate him, she hates how he dumped her - since she actually still wants to be with him. His HUGE PENOR is the TROPHY here, you are merely a consolation prize for the meantime.

I guarantee you she will get drunk and fvck him again within the next few months, if he's at all willing and she hasn't already...

 

[edmond]

cause she says

Must be true then, cause she says so:crackup:

 

[PISTOL_WHIP]

^ Pull your head out, dude.
Because she is obviously still obsessed with him. And she doesn't hate him, she hates how he dumped her - since she actually still wants to be with him. His HUGE PENOR is the TROPHY here, you are merely a consolation prize for the meantime.

I guarantee you she will get drunk and fvck him again within the next few months, if he's at all willing and she hasn't already...

LOL. I love the bluntness I've got to say. :crackup:

However, the dinner thing is because her friend who is visiting suggested it and wants it to happen. I'm just cant understand why my gf wants to go through with it. I don't thinks its because she wants to get back with her ex. Maybe its to cause a bit of drama though, I dont know.

But we're both clear about cheating. She's been cheated on in the past by this guy, so she knows what it feels like. Why would she cheat with this guy when she wants to be with me. It wouldnt make sense dude. Seriously, if I ever got the inclination that she had cheated then I'd trhow her to the curb and Im sure she knows this.

 

[luapmandragon]

You're wrong. I do believe that she doesnt like him and theres not a chance in hell they'd get back together, but thats not to say that shes not over him.

Anyways, Im not going to get rid of her at the drop of her hat, we've invested a hell of alot into this relationship.

Its not about what you believe or don't believe cause that doesn't change facts. How much more time to you want to invest into a losing investment? Dude I don't even pretend to know much but even I can see you are being incredibly stupid.

Even if she isn't doing anything like you believe she is absolutely treating you like crap and disrespecting you to your face. How can she love you if she disrespects you??? You need to let your testosterone out and realise that you should act like a man and let her know her behavior is unacceptable. Don't be a complete **** about it but no matter what she'll probably think you are being over bearing since you let her do whatever the hell she wants.

1. Cut off all ties with her ex-boyfriend. If she really hates him and dislikes him then she'll do it.

2. If she talks about her ex-bfs you talk about your ex-gfs and if she gives you crap call her on her friggin hypocrisy.

3. Tell her if she can't do these basic things then you can't be together because its obvious she doesn't love you. If she says thats not true then tell her to explain it and why you can't do the same things she does and get away with it.

For god's sake man I try to give my women whatever they want but I don't let them give it to me up the ass.

 

[Eternal]

For god's sake man I try to give my women whatever they want but I don't let them give it to me up the ass.

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

Pistol_Whip, it is obvious you care about her. But with any LDR, there needs to be a huge amount of trust. She is showing NO reason for you to trust her. She is going to hang out with her ex (even if a mutual friend is there) so there WILL be contact, they go to the same school, and she always talks about him.

You know how girls complain how certain guys are jerks, yet they still go and get their rocks off with them? This girl is going to go do that. It's not a 100% lock, however, but I would put it in the mid 80's.

She's always talking about his adventures and whatnot, so if you still care for her, make a great adventure that she'll never forget. There are plenty of inexpensive/free things you two can do that would be great. However, tread with caution.

 

[wayword]

You know how girls complain how certain guys are jerks, yet they still go and get their rocks off with them? This girl is going to go do that. It's not a 100% lock, however, but I would put it in the mid 80's.

In fact, when a girl starts byching about you to other people, you know you're starting to set your hook in good...

Anyways, it's GAME OVER dude, go spin some more plates. Stick a fork (or a HUGE KAWK) in her, she's DONE! :crackup:

 

[PISTOL_WHIP]

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

Pistol_Whip, it is obvious you care about her. But with any LDR, there needs to be a huge amount of trust. She is showing NO reason for you to trust her. She is going to hang out with her ex (even if a mutual friend is there) so there WILL be contact, they go to the same school, and she always talks about him.

You know how girls complain how certain guys are jerks, yet they still go and get their rocks off with them? This girl is going to go do that. It's not a 100% lock, however, but I would put it in the mid 80's.

She's always talking about his adventures and whatnot, so if you still care for her, make a great adventure that she'll never forget. There are plenty of inexpensive/free things you two can do that would be great. However, tread with caution.

Thanks for sensible replies so far.

First of all to the dude 1 post up, she doesnt really have any ties with him anymore apart from she may bump into him once in a while. Secondly, I may ahve bee exaggerating how much she talks about him. I'd say she brings up the guy in conversation once every two months, maybe less. I'm just pissed because the other day when she talked about him in the hall ignoring her.

To the guy above, I still dont think shed ever cheat on me with that guy. Its just not going to happen. This girl isnt an air head. I just dont buy it. Plus, she spends alot of her time pining over me. Since I made this post she has left me a message asking what Im up to and she wants to talk.

We have had a great time together so far. I get the feeling that if we ever split up, she'd go on about me to her new bf because we've had some awesome times and long may they continue. Its just the whole LDR thing means that we are biding our time and things can go a bit stagnant.

 

[whistler]

To be harsh but honest...

Once you play the integrity card (even in your own mind), it's all downhill.

 

[squirrels]

*Long Post*

Im in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend.

every so often she brings up her ex-boyfriend in conversation.

she bumps into him every so often.

she feels the need to unload her anger ... on me

she hangs up on me.

hey are all going for dinner together

Shes rubbed salt in my wounds

shes talked about how ... her ex.bf had a really large penis,

he started her smoking and I HATE chicks that smoke.

I am worried that she isnt completely over him

she can dish out the crap to me, but she can't take it back.

I cant accuse her of anything incase she gets upset. Its like walking on eggshells,

her best friend. I simply hate her.

Now Im thinking of moving in with my gf next year

what do you guys make of this situation?

What's the phrase I'm looking for? I believe it's...ROYALLY FVCKED.

Does this really make you HAPPY? Is this how "love" should feel? People make up this imaginary feeling called "love" to describe the feelings they enjoy from being close to each other, and even if it's gone, the concept remains in place completely without context and forces people into disasters like this relationship.

All you can talk about here is the things you HATE about this girl. Why are you staying with her? Is there anything you LIKE about her? And don't give me the "love" bullsh!t...what has she got going on that you like so much, that you're willing to put yourself through this masochistic self-castrating torment for? I swear, her pvssy better taste like a pixie stick for you to be this head-over-heels for her.

Her insecurity is so blatant.

I think someone else's insecurity is even more blatant.

She still thinks about her ex all the time because you're acting like a pvssy and not giving her the masculinity she needs from a man. Grow some balls, dude.

 

[PISTOL_WHIP]

Once you play the integrity card (even in your own mind), it's all downhill.

What do you mean?

 

[BlackJackal]

Man charge her to the game man. Meaning dump her. She still wants that dude and the situation you're descibing sounds like the same old song. It doesn't matter if she says she hates him. Hate and love are related because they are both STRONG FEELINGS. And since there is distance in the mix...well do the math.

Charge it to the game, and let her go.

 

[BlackJackal]

Must be true then, cause she says so:crackup:

:crackup:

 

[PISTOL_WHIP]

What's the phrase I'm looking for? I believe it's...ROYALLY FVCKED.

Does this really make you HAPPY? Is this how "love" should feel? People make up this imaginary feeling called "love" to describe the feelings they enjoy from being close to each other, and even if it's gone, the concept remains in place completely without context and forces people into disasters like this relationship.

All you can talk about here is the things you HATE about this girl. Why are you staying with her? Is there anything you LIKE about her? And don't give me the "love" bullsh!t...what has she got going on that you like so much, that you're willing to put yourself through this masochistic self-castrating torment for? I swear, her pvssy better taste like a pixie stick for you to be this head-over-heels for her.



I think someone else's insecurity is even more blatant.

She still thinks about her ex all the time because you're acting like a pvssy and not giving her the masculinity she needs from a man. Grow some balls, dude.

Dude, you've mixed what I said about her best friend with what i was saying about my gf.
I was talking about her best friends insecurity. She sucks, I dont like her.

I started this thread for sensible advice regarding my girlfriends flaws, not what I love about her.
I havent said anything good about her here because I wanted to highlight the bad things that have been happening.

There are plenty of great things about her. I wouldn't be with her if I didnt think she was cool. And, yes, she is cool, shes a great friend aswell as a gf. I'd be here for like an hour if I wanted to list the good things about her and I'm not subconciously putting her up on a pedastal. I didnt lose my virginity to her because I wanted to get laid, I waited for what I thought was the right person, thats how cool I think she is.
The things I've listed are the problems that I feel may in the long run jepordise our relationship and I wanted advice on how I should deal with the situations arising.

[edit] and to the guys telling me to dump her, please dont waste your breath. I aint gonna kick her to the curb for talking about her ex. Its certainly an issue, but getting rid of her would be overkill x1000. Dont think i wouldnt think of dumping her if she was consistantly a ***** to me or kissed another guy or something because I would. But these flippant suggestions of getting rid of her are getting boring. I'm not retarded, I can gauge the situation, Im just asking for sensible advice.

 

[skip2mylou781]

how in the world did HIM and HER end up in the same school??????

the problem in your case is not what she is doing or what she is not doing. It is not a static situation, becase you will NEVER know for 100% what is going on with her and him overseas, and everything is always changing, so while she says she loves you now, spending a dinner with her ex bf and getting drunk later (its college, the 3 of them WILL go drink after dinner), she might start to doubt her feelings for you ever so slowly.

YOU CANNOT DO ANYTHING ABOUT THIS

so, your REAL problem is, you are in an UNHEALTHY relationship, jsut as someone else said - is THIS what love is supposed to feel like??? Is it supposed to be that horrible feeling in the pit of your stomach??? You are not happy, and that is the TRUE problem

 

[wayword]

However, the dinner thing is because her friend who is visiting suggested it and wants it to happen.

Again, you are believing faulty chick logic here.

She excuses it on just going along with a friend.

Truth is probably more like she is using that friend as an excuse to have a pseudo-date with her ex and maybe win him back...

Look dude, I DARE you to post your story HERE and see what everyone tells you!

Or just read a few...hmmm this one sounds a bit familiar (remember, girls are ALL THE SAME):

she phoned me back an hour later and told me she was going out with her ex boyfriend and friends for the night

this summer I was stuck at work, and she went back to her home town for a party where i knew her ex would be. She admitted she had ran into him there but barely talked to him, I had a strong gut feeling she wasnt telling me the truth. Most recently I left town for two weeks, and discovered she was talknig to another ex before she went home on msn through the message history as i found his phone # recently written down by the computer at home, and discovered she was asking where he worked and talked like she may meet hime there and that they should hang out and talk, and mentioned that i was out of town to him. She told me she went out with here parents to a cetain resuratnt on friday of that time (the day after she talked to him) and later found out that was the place where her ex worked......I read the next days messages in which my gf said "hey where were you, i was going to drop by tonight to see you but you werent there anyway call me"

she says her and this particullar ex only were together for a month and are still friends

 

[squirrels]

[edit]I can guage the situation

Then gauge a way to fix it.

I hate people who come to forums saying, "Give me good advice, but only if it agrees with what I already decided I want the answer to be."

Your options are simple:

1) Grow some balls and stop b!tching and moaning every time your girl mentions her ex, and maybe be a man once in a while so she looks at YOU the same way she looks at him, or

2) if it really bothers you that much, or you think she's cheating, end the relationship.

I can tell why she's still thinking about him:

-You're always focusing on the negative
-You're clingy, insecure, and whiny...aka WHIPPED, even your choice of username says that
-You're stubborn and refuse to see anything that disagrees with your perfect reality.

If she was having good times with YOU, he would be the FURTHEST thing from her mind.

Sorry, bro. Tough love. You have to really look at what YOU'RE bringing to this relationship, or no change SHE makes is going to make you two happy.