"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girlfriend with a male roomate?

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All of the above, plus castrate theother guy.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Tyson420 said:
Head over there, meet the guy. Stay the night with your G, then **** her, make sure he hears that **** too.

He'll know not to try any ****.
:up: this is the way to do it. Feel free to chat up with him, he might actually be a cool guy. And if you guys are buddies it will decrease the chance of him doing anything with your GF. Unless he's a low, no-morale duche.
 

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Looks like this may have been much ado about nothing. The guy appears to have flaked on her and gone with another option. Now my gf has to actively go through the hassle of finding another roomate instead of relying on one of her guy friends. heh.
 

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Serg897 said:
Very briefly - My new girlfriend of perhaps 2 months says she is thinking about getting a new roomate, who happens to be a guy. She is getting my opinion and reassuring me its okay - but that she wants to know what I think before she decides.

Her current roommate sucks and is causing her problems, and she says that they are setting ground rules.

Im leaning strongly in favor of trusting her (and I've already sorta made this decision), but I would be lying if I said it didnt bother me.

Discuss!
The real question is, why would she want to get a male roomate? She should know that it is not a good idea, for the most part, unless he's gay.

If you trust her, and are satisfied with your answer, then I wouldn't put too much into it. The real concerns are, is the roomate prepared and ok with you spending a lot of time there? If he's an afc from the past who has an agenda, I can already see the trouble to com.

Why does it bother you? Is there something particular about this one guy, or is it because he's a guy, in general?
 
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