Girlfriend went to vegas

[Don_Jaime]

Ok fellas. Its been a minute since I have posted since I am DJing and enjoying life. Have gotten my own place which feels AMAZING. I also got into a relationship with this girl that is from Mexico. I love Mexican women, more specifically Latinas. I made this girl my girlfriend last week because I do enjoy spending time with her and she is submissive and knows her role as a woman, and lets me lead. I took her to her sister's house because she was spending the week with her. I told her I would pick her up this weekend we are currently in. She messaged me a few days before thisher english is not great yet so dont think I am dating a ****in ten year old haha)

"papi! =) I not will be here saturday because I will go to Las Vegas! and return the monday! ok? so Not pick up me ok my sister will go with me to San Bernardino , see you monday because I will talk with you! bye! =) "

I was like Vegas! I know what happens in Vegas. And it always stays in Vegas too. I personally see that as a red flag and am debating what to tell her. I want to be firm and direct with her telling her that was unacceptable. I almost feel like just breaking up with her. She acts like a good girl with me and have not had any problems arise up in the relationship besides this. I am upset she went to vegas and never asked me before she went. I am going to straight up tell her that I think that it was disrespectful that she did not even call me up and ask me if I thought it would be alright to go.

Either way, I know I can't control her actions, BUT I want to be the one in control in the relationship. I do not want her to think that she can just do whatever she wants in our relationship. I AM NOT a doormat. How do you guys think I should handle it?

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

Seems kinda corny to be mad at a girl for going on vacation without asking your permission.

I'm all for men being men, but once you cross into that "controlling" realm, it just makes you seem weak and insecure.

If she didn't give you notice in the change of plans, I could understand you having an issue. But you said she told you a couple days before Saturday that she'd be leaving town. So the issue isn't short notice as much as it is that she didn't ask permission. Which would be a normal expectation if you were her father.

 

[Don_Jaime]

ya I understand what you are saying, but honestly, I have been played a few times before and it is not fun. I am not mad so much that she told me a few days before that she was going to vegas. I am upset at the fact that she WENT to vegas. Comon guys if your girl went to vegas without you, how would you think and feel about that? We all know vegas is sin city...

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

ya I understand what you are saying, but honestly, I have been played a few times before and it is not fun. I am not mad so much that she told me a few days before that she was going to vegas. I am upset at the fact that she WENT to vegas. Comon guys if your girl went to vegas without you, how would you think and feel about that? We all know vegas is sin city...

Well if you had bad experiences in the past then I can understand your opinion. I'll just say that if your girl is the type of person who would f**k around on you in Vegas, then she's the type of person who'd f**k around on you in your hometown too. It's not like Vegas makes girls into wh0res. Those chicks out there were wh0res before Vegas.

I hope for the best though. Maybe other guys will see it differently than I do.

 

[Scion]

Well if you had bad experiences in the past then I can understand your opinion. I'll just say that if your girl is the type of person who would f**k around on you in Vegas, then she's the type of person who'd f**k around on you in your hometown too. It's not like Vegas makes girls into wh0res. Those chicks out there were wh0res before Vegas.

I hope for the best though. Maybe other guys will see it differently than I do.

no, Vegas doesn't turn girls into *****s but alcohol and the ability to not get caught can make things "just happen"

 

[horaholic]

Yes, Vegas DOES turn girls into hors. Dont kid yourself. Not ALWAYS, of course, but Vegas is the place to unleash your wildside without consequence.

 

[Kailex]

Ok fellas. Its been a minute since I have posted since I am DJing and enjoying life. Have gotten my own place which feels AMAZING. I also got into a relationship with this girl that is from Mexico. I love Mexican women, more specifically Latinas. I made this girl my girlfriend last week because I do enjoy spending time with her and she is submissive and knows her role as a woman, and lets me lead.

Good luck believing that.
Latinas and submissive do NOT go together in the same paragraph. Maybe if she was raised by an old school hispanic family where the structure is still set as the man being the sole provider for the family and the woman being the homemaker... maybe.

But don't rest on your laurels TOO long.
I've just seen people make the mistake of THINKING they were being submissive... and then caught off-guard later on.

I took her to her sister's house because she was spending the week with her. I told her I would pick her up this weekend we are currently in. She messaged me a few days before thisher english is not great yet so dont think I am dating a ****in ten year old haha)

"papi! =) I not will be here saturday because I will go to Las Vegas! and return the monday! ok? so Not pick up me ok my sister will go with me to San Bernardino , see you monday because I will talk with you! bye! =) "

I was like Vegas! I know what happens in Vegas. And it always stays in Vegas too. I personally see that as a red flag and am debating what to tell her. I want to be firm and direct with her telling her that was unacceptable. I almost feel like just breaking up with her. She acts like a good girl with me and have not had any problems arise up in the relationship besides this. I am upset she went to vegas and never asked me before she went. I am going to straight up tell her that I think that it was disrespectful that she did not even call me up and ask me if I thought it would be alright to go.

Wait? You only been in a "relationship" with her as girlfriend/boyfriend and she's supposed to ask you if she can go to Vegas???

What if this was a trip she had planned in advance? I mean you said you guys were only official for the last week... I don't know how long you two have been seeing each other though.

I don't know, but I can see her telling you that she's going beforehand... but asking???

Either way, I know I can't control her actions, BUT I want to be the one in control in the relationship. I do not want her to think that she can just do whatever she wants in our relationship. I AM NOT a doormat. How do you guys think I should handle it?

Are you sure you want a girlfriend or a puppy?
Do you want her to sit when you say SIT? Want her to roll over and do tricks for you too?

You say your issue is the fact that she didn't ask you for permission... were you supposed to sign a permission slip for her? Like you said, you two have only been official for a week and I'm pretty sure this is something she had planned in advance.

If you're going to be this paranoid about someone who has given you absolutely no red flags in the time you have been seeing each other and this controlling... then you have no business being in a relationship.

And if it were my girl hitting Vegas, I'd be thinking about all the places I'd be going on my own while she's over there and all the fun I could be having while she's not around.

 

[BigJimbo]

She is too old for you. Vegas is for older women. Hell, even Canada lets teenagers gamble. Dump her.