Girlfriend wants to go to vegas.

[ayedidher]

Ok a little background , i fell for a girl over the net. Almost 4 years, she found out about my age 2 years ago .left n came back i'm meeting her next week. I'm 18 shes 22. Yes i know its ****ing weird haha.

I always got rid of girls as fast as i could i just couldn't seem to let go of this one. So i know its not infatuation.

She texts me saying can you come to vegas, then before even waiting for my reply she texts again saying oh **** you cant. I ask why and she goes on about my age, i doubt she does not know about fake ids. I told her i couldnt come anyways because i have to go back to Dubai and finish up some stuff for entrance to university in UK.

I like that she asked in advance but it seemed that she already had the answer to her question.

Vegas is sin city. What happens in vegas stays in vegas, she says shes going with her family & in mid august when i go back to dubai. I do want to ask her if any other friends are going, but i do not want to seem insecure in any way.
I do not want to be controlling or show that I am worrying, very bad characteristics to have haha. But i am worried. Vegas is not where you go to relax, there's nothing else to do there but to go out get smashed and do some clubbing.

Also It would seem better to let the relationship progress so that I would have some trust built, not RIGHT after we meet. I will probably have a holiday so i could ask her to postpone it so i could go with her in dec saying that i really wanna go to vegas too ... that could work, would it be bad to bring that up?

My gut feeling says that even if something DOES happen, the drunk excuse will pop up or she might not even "remember" it. She has ALOT of love for me and broke off a wedding after getting her dress to wait another year for me, this was because i went to UK last summer and refused to meet her because i had a gf. Her ex 8+ years relationship noticed her falling since i got back in contact again, mind****ed her convincing her that i would never come, 2 years, im finally there and still refuse to meet her, so naturally she took the proposal ...

Someone please help, i have no clue on what to do with this issue, its VEGAS, its not somewhere where you can lay on the beach and just relax you will get smashed, you will go all out and **** happens in vegas.

I sincerely apologize for the long post. Thank you if you bothered to read it, and please please do, it would mean a lot to get any reply to this situation

 

[cordoncordon]

First, let me get this straight....you two met when she was 18 and you were 14??? I mean, how could she not know you were 14? There is robbing the cradle, and then there is this. Very odd.

But anyway, now in the present day. I would not worry about her going to Vegas. And this is coming from a guy who goes to Vegas 10 times a year or so. First, she is going with her family. Trust me when I say this, the odds of her going there and hooking up with some random guy with her family there are pretty low. Vegas is a lot of things, and if people want to go there and get into trouble, either the innocent kind or more serious, they can, but I really doubt she is going to do that with her family there.

I think though that you need to evaluate what is going on with YOU. You are 18. 18! And you are acting like this is a do or die for the rest of your life with this girl. I look back at when I was 18 and all the girls I have been with since, and any relationship I was in at that age is SO unimportant. I mean its like a drop in the Pacific ocean unimportant. Quit worrying about things and just relax and have fun with your life. You are way too young to be this intense over a girl.

 

[ayedidher]

Sorry about the confusion lol, met her when i was 15 she was 19. Online, lied about my age said i was 24 she found out when i was 2 months away from 17. Just rechecked messages she didn't mention who shes going with. Yeah i do stress too much, but ive already had about 10 girls. 4 of them this year hahaha. None of them i give a **** about all i wanted was to get rid of them as fast as possible when i was done with them. When my senior year started i made it clear to her i was going to have fun this year she could do the same, its really useless to try long distance. I really want to try it with this girl. Never trusted anyone in my life, so i do freak out a lot but i never show it and play along, which she obviously likes lol. So can i ask her who shes going with or would that seem too insecure/needy ... The only thing im worried about is if she comes back and apparently forgets what happened there due to too much drinking thus not being able to confess lol. So what do you think man, and thanks for reading haha

 

[alxrose04]

Well it's obvious you have feelings for this girl and there's nothing wrong with that. Naturally, you're going to be a little worried about her going to Vegas as any guy would. But let me tell you something, this is a very important situation in your life and you are about to grow.

You let your own demons inside of your head mess with you and drive you crazy or you can you can be cool about it, wish her fun and that you'll see her soon . I'm not going to lie to you, it's a SCARY feeling and that's because you are making yourself more vunerable which is necessary for growth.

Don't play the blind fool, but control your demons and tell them that it's going to be ok, and that there's no one out there in Vegas that does like you do! Scary I know! But you're going to come out better.

And as a side note, I wouldn't worry about the worst case scenario because your 18. There are SOOO many more girls out there. Trust me, you will love again. Haha