Girlfriend wants something (ex: hicky, kiss) do you give it to her?

[shark]

If your girlfreind likes kissing on the necks and hickeys, and hints at it and even comes out and asks you for it..do you give it? THis happend to me and I resisted a bit, and then kinda gave in but did it very short and not as good as she wanted..and i told her that i was going to do it that way purposly. And maybe she'd get lucky and i'll really hook her up in a few days.

I told her if she demands stuff like that, then I can demand w/e i want and she got the idea i was talking about a simple blow job (she never gave me one yet). She said it was diffrent b/c yeah we were in public kind of at a party and there wasnt a good time for it, but then she went into not taking things to fast..i kinda got pissed and asked what she meant b/c if she thought a ******* was going to fast for 3 months or so i'd be pissed and turned off...but she corrected me and said it's just bad timing and place.

How should I have handled the situation?

 

[Royal Elite]

You should handle this situation by not being a bit ch. If you are worried about is it OK you are bing a bit ch. When did she become your mother with the right to tell you how to act. The only time a woman has power over a man is if he gives it to her and the very second you do that you are no longer a man. If this becomes a persitent habit she will begin looking for a man who is a man!

MAN UP!

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

Depends on the place... plus don't give hickeys on the neck... it looks like a white-trailer-park trash kind of thing... give her one on her stomach or chest covered by her shirt... plus you might enjoy that more.

You could of told her to wait for a more private time/place, so she could enjoy ir more for herself

Peck on the cheek/lips is a fine public thing

Making out should be private, or when you are at a party, and no one cares. (PEOPLE HATE WATCHING!)

Hickeys on the neck is okay too, if you are at a party, and if no one around you cares (But like i said... its trashy looking when you see a big red dot on your neck).

Hickeys on the body should be private!

 

[nishbuk]

Man...It's simple. You have to turn these things into a joke. My GF really liked kisses on the hand, so when she told me that she wanted them I was like, "Oh cool! Now I know exactly how to get you to do what I want!"

It was a big joke, she laughed, and the issue never came up again. Then, I only used the thing she liked SPARINGLY. If they like something, great. But if you do it too much, then it's loses how special it once was, and you'll just be supplicating by doing it too much. It's just like my attitude about giving compliments:

"Every time you give a compliment, it makes it that much less special".

THAT is why we use compliments sparingly.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by MikeS
Depends on the place... plus don't give hickeys on the neck... it looks like a white-trailer-park trash kind of thing... give her one on her stomach or chest covered by her shirt... plus you might enjoy that more.

This is a good point. Also it is a way of marking territory. If she gives you one, you're obviously marked. If you give her one (on her neck) she can show off your mark. Hell, you might as well take a piss on her leg to mark your territory.

I don't give hickeys on any place other than between her breast or on her inner thigh. Those spots tends to make them have fond memories of me. If she wants to show those off, well... Hmmmmm..... I haven't run into one of those types of women since high school.

 

[Marlimus]

"Never give a woman exactly what she wants."
-David Deangelo, Double Your Dating

If I were you, I would have told her that if she wanted a hickey, she had to do something for me first.

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

Originally posted by Marlimus
"Never give a woman exactly what she wants."
-David Deangelo, Double Your Dating

If I were you, I would have told her that if she wanted a hickey, she had to do something for me first.

Or... pretend to kiss her, put your face near her neck hold it there for a few seconds, and .... and... and.... give her a hug, or peck her on the cheek

that would make them want it even worse. (a good thing)