I underwent a huge fitness change for the first time in my life (lost a lot of weight, gained a lot of muscle) and right now I'm sitting at the strongest I've ever been and I'm getting attention from gorgeous girls that used to be way out of my league. It's been kind of surreal, to be honest, maybe I'm just not quite comfortable with it yet. Anyway, along comes one of the top gorgeous cardio bunnies at my gym and compliments me on my weight loss, and I decided to ask her out for coffee.
Fast forward a month and now we're in a relationship. She's fit as **** and absolutely gorgeous. We have great chemistry together, the sex is fantastic, she loves the passion/ambition I bring to the table, she loves that I'm an artist, and we really get along and connect. The only problem is that she's 24 (I just turned 25), and (like a lot of high value, HB9+ girls at that age) she tells me that I'm the youngest guy she's dated in a long time and that she usually dates men 5-10 years older than her. Her reasoning behind is more of the same that I've heard before from other girls, that men in their twenties usually are still figuring **** out and take longer to mature. While it's encouraging to know that my best years of game are ahead of me and it's only going to get better as I get older, I can't help but focus on the here and now.
Honestly, sometimes it can feel a little intimidating if I dwell on it - the guys she's used to dating have around a solid decade more of life experience that I do. I want to be able to take her out to all of these places but I'm working on figuring my own **** out - finances are tight right now and there's no way that I can compete with a 32-35 year old financially that has his life in order. I've got my own condo downtown and I can pay the bills - which isn't bad for a 25 year old - but I don't have a ton of spending money right now. I can see it playing out both ways, I can see this situation being an inspiration to me to work harder and be more aggressive with my life (because admittedly I'm not pursuing a lot of my ambitions as hard as I could and I can see her inspiring that) but I can also see myself beating myself up over it and losing my frame of confidence around her and it hurting the relationship.
I know some of you guys have been in this position. In your experience, did being in a relationship with a girl like this push you to get your **** together and be more proactive (i.e. a positive influence) or did it phuck with your head?
Fast forward a month and now we're in a relationship. She's fit as **** and absolutely gorgeous. We have great chemistry together, the sex is fantastic, she loves the passion/ambition I bring to the table, she loves that I'm an artist, and we really get along and connect. The only problem is that she's 24 (I just turned 25), and (like a lot of high value, HB9+ girls at that age) she tells me that I'm the youngest guy she's dated in a long time and that she usually dates men 5-10 years older than her. Her reasoning behind is more of the same that I've heard before from other girls, that men in their twenties usually are still figuring **** out and take longer to mature. While it's encouraging to know that my best years of game are ahead of me and it's only going to get better as I get older, I can't help but focus on the here and now.
Honestly, sometimes it can feel a little intimidating if I dwell on it - the guys she's used to dating have around a solid decade more of life experience that I do. I want to be able to take her out to all of these places but I'm working on figuring my own **** out - finances are tight right now and there's no way that I can compete with a 32-35 year old financially that has his life in order. I've got my own condo downtown and I can pay the bills - which isn't bad for a 25 year old - but I don't have a ton of spending money right now. I can see it playing out both ways, I can see this situation being an inspiration to me to work harder and be more aggressive with my life (because admittedly I'm not pursuing a lot of my ambitions as hard as I could and I can see her inspiring that) but I can also see myself beating myself up over it and losing my frame of confidence around her and it hurting the relationship.
I know some of you guys have been in this position. In your experience, did being in a relationship with a girl like this push you to get your **** together and be more proactive (i.e. a positive influence) or did it phuck with your head?
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