Girlfriend that likes to go to the club

[Maverack]

Hey guys. So I've got this girl I've been seeing for almost half a year now. Anyways, every saturday night we hang out together. The thing is, she always seems to want to go to the club. Granted, she wants to go with me, but still. It seems like that's her only idea of fun.

I used to go clubbing a lot when I was younger and I think she did too, but now that I'm in my mid-20's I would rather do something else on my nights. Especially now that I'm with someone, I was hoping I wouldn't have to spend time in nightclubs anymore. Like the only reason I used to go was to pick up chicks, but now that I'm with one, why would i want to go? She is 24 if that makes any difference.

Is it just me or is going to a club with a girlfriend a bad idea? I mean all night she's saying hi to all of her guy friends.

Another thing that I noticed is that if your girl is attractive, you're getting tested by other guys(who have liquid courage) all night long. It's almost like I feel like I'm getting ready to go into war every time I enter the club with her.

Another big problem for me is seeing girls that I know, who also happen to like me. Then when they see my girl they start trying to either mess with her head, or just sabotage our night in general.

In short, I honestly don't want to go clubbing with her, but whenever it's the weekend that seems like all she wants to do. Then I feel pressured to take her. I also feel like whatever other plans I make that night are going to disappoint her and that she'll be sulking all night because she'd rather be in the club.

I know she used to be a bit of a party girl, but she seems mostly settled down now to me, except that things like this make me think twice about her.

 

[jonwon]

Hey guys. So I've got this girl I've been seeing for almost half a year now. Anyways, every saturday night we hang out together. The thing is, she always seems to want to go to the club. Granted, she wants to go with me, but still. It seems like that's her only idea of fun.

I used to go clubbing a lot when I was younger and I think she did too, but now that I'm in my mid-20's I would rather do something else on my nights. Especially now that I'm with someone, I was hoping I wouldn't have to spend time in nightclubs anymore. Like the only reason I used to go was to pick up chicks, but now that I'm with one, why would i want to go? She is 24 if that makes any difference.

Is it just me or is going to a club with a girlfriend a bad idea? I mean all night she's saying hi to all of her guy friends.

Another thing that I noticed is that if your girl is attractive, you're getting tested by other guys(who have liquid courage) all night long. It's almost like I feel like I'm getting ready to go into war every time I enter the club with her.

Another big problem for me is seeing girls that I know, who also happen to like me. Then when they see my girl they start trying to either mess with her head, or just sabotage our night in general.

In short, I honestly don't want to go clubbing with her, but whenever it's the weekend that seems like all she wants to do. Then I feel pressured to take her. I also feel like whatever other plans I make that night are going to disappoint her and that she'll be sulking all night because she'd rather be in the club.

I know she used to be a bit of a party girl, but she seems mostly settled down now to me, except that things like this make me think twice about her.

I take girls clubbing all the time.

there is nothing better then walking into a bar with some hot girl on your arm and having all the afc look with there mouth open has she grinds her ass on your crotch when some RnB comes on, hey its fun, i love it.

I was out with a young hot 21 year old blonde, dam she can grind and dance sexy, just thinking about it is raising my blood pressure

But it took me a while to get there.

Something tells me there is something else at play here, are you being honest to us>?

Exactly why dont you want to go to clubs with her?

Are you a controlling guy?
Do you have jelousy issues?

Come on be honest here, there is nothing wrong with going to a club with a chick, if you like clubbing.

Clubbing is not about 'meeting' some girl, i enjoy clubs has i like the music, the drinking the atmospher of a good club, chicks are a bonus not a reason to go, you can get women anyway, you dont even need to step out of the door either.

Ok so what is going on?

Sure it's not because you have some esteem issues and you dont want or cant handle the potential competition from other men?

I think at the start you should encourage her to go with her mates, that will give you the night off!

I dont mind girlfriends going clubbing, sure there going to get hit on left right and center, it's probably pushing things, but then again, there replace-able.

 

[DjVelvet]

Seems like she's leading rather than you do. You are supposed to bring her to fun places, other forms of action dates. Exposed both of you to more varieties of fun.

In fact, i regard a girl whom loves clubbing as a red flag (Not the quality girl you may want). If you are treating her as a FB and you are getting the pu$$ies, why not?

Try suggesting going somewhere different next weekend. Some healthy daytime activities like picnic/walking or cycling. Cut the night routines. If she's not going to do anything but clubbing, i will suggest you saying "Cool, I going out with my friends to XXXX <except clubbing>, catch up with you some other days".

 

[ducaro]

oops, you better watch out! she is 24... pretty much an Attention craver... you'll need to take the lead and say NO! at which point things WILL begin to fall apart..

or

face it she is young.. she still wants all the color and stupidity that goes with being a early 20 year old.. you'll just have to wait till she out lives it..

 

[dietzcoi]

I don't see a girl who wants to ALWAYS go to the club as a good LTR candidate. You may have to drop her, or live with it, as other posters have said.

However, I must say I am again sorry to see some posters on here making every excuse they can think of to defend the woman and in some cases attack Mavarack for his point of view.

Listen, to all you Oprah types, the man has a right to decide what he likes and doesn't. Don't make him feel insecure just because he does not like going to the club every weekend. Jeez.......

Dietzcoi

 

[KontrollerX]

Compromise is the mark of any happy relationship.

Some weeks you should go to the club with her and some weeks she should do what you want to do.

Its just that simple.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

I think Velvets right when he says she's taking the lead as far as night time activites goes. You don't like going to clubs anymore because for YOU it was all about banging chicks who you pick up and dance with there. (90% of guys do this. You're perfectly normal.)

What is it for her though? Ask yourself what it's all about for her.