Girlfriend switches things around on me

[young_gun]

Before I get into this, I just want to say that I have a great relationship with this woman, we get along great 98% of the time, and I feel like we communicate pretty well with each other. However, there is one thing I've noticed that I can honestly say I have no idea how to deal with.

I called my girlfriend on the phone tonight and talked with her for about 10 minutes. Her roommate was in the room, and I felt that she was talking to her roommate equally as much as she was talking to me. I felt it was kind of rude, and she noticed that I was a little upset about it, so I said something about it. She turned it around on me and something something to the lines of "OK, I'll make sure to keep you separated so you don't get all pissy like this again", in a really sarcastic tone, like it was MY fault that she did something that annoyed me and I communicated it to her. I just wanted a little respect while we talk on the phone, I didn't expect her to shoot back some wise-ass comment back at me. And then she got into this discussion of how I've been acting weird over the past week, ALL OVER SOME STUPID BULLSH1T.

How the f*ck do you handle this? Is this just something all women do that I'm not aware of (or completely forgot about while I was single)??

 

[Allaia]

It's not kinda rude, it IS rude.

Just tell her to call you when she's ready to give all her attention to you. I don't get women like that. Not all women are like that. Even if I am pissed at my BF, I wouldn't be rude to him. There's no need for that.

At times I wonder if I should be a man instead of a woman.

 

[DavenJuan]

some people may think thats not that big a deal. some may think its rude. in your case you thought it was rude, expressed yourself, and she turned it around on you.

your best option at that time was to tell her that she can call you back. you let yourself get upset, verbalized your emotions, and she responded as if you were making a mountain out of a moehill.

dont let yourself get upset over such trivial things, because in this case, her response was far more worse than the original issue.

 

[WesCottII]

The issue here is you being so womanised upto the point where you "get upset", because your g/f is talking to another person.

Personally, I'd think "Fvck this" *phone down*. WHEN she rings back, she gets told "You were having a conversation with someone else". No room for discussion or debate.

 

[DonGorgon]

Ah yes the early signs of trouble... There is another dude peaking her interest. She has started the process of disconnecting you..

SOLUTION!?

Stop all communication with her for 4 days then on 5th day flatly say you wee busy.. oh and go get you 2 other women cause your gonna need them soon.

 

[tick37]

You're too damn available to this woman. How do I know this? Because while she has you on the phone, she's talking to her roommate. Stop being up her butt. If she wants to talk to her roommate then politely let her go. Then let her call you when she starts to miss you, but tell her you're busy at the moment. Tell her you'll call her back as soon as you get a chance. You've got to control the frame here, not her.

This is what women do when you're too available. They lose interest. Don't wear out you welcome.

 

[Juan_Man]

Your relationship just got real! Don't expect perfection. Work things out.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

If that happens again you say: "Hey I gotta go i'll call you later."

How to handle this? You just ignore it and move on.