Girlfriend Still Has Feelings for Ex

[Boriskabob]

So when I came into the relationship, I kind of knew I was the rebound. She had just gotten out of a long and arduous relationship with this guy who was a complete a-hole to her. I had been her friend for 2 years, and we realized we were attracted to each other so we started dating. We've been dating for a little over a month now, and I can tell that she still has feelings for her ex. Big realization when we were drunk and camping together 2 nights ago and she texted him while laying down with me saying something like "I love you with every fibre of my body". I was too drunk to do anything about it and left early in the morning without talking to her. I haven't spoken to her since, which is kind of normal in our relationship, because we don't spend every day together. So I get home and phone up our mutual friend and ask him if he knows about any of this, he says yes, and says that she told him that she still has genuine love for her ex, and he does, too.

Now, I really like this girl, and would hate our relationship to end this way because one, it makes me look like "that other guy" that didn't mean anything to her; two, the sex was/is amazing; and three, I want to be able to win over her heart to prove that I'm better than the a-hole guy.

So do I talk to her and make her choose between me or him, even though I'm pretty sure she likes him more that she likes me; or do I just break things clean off without giving her a chance to change?

Thanks

 

[Boriskabob]

UPDATE: We are now **** buddies

 

[Tiguere]

Don't do this to yourself. Stop it now before the sex gets you more emotionally attached. No fb with her.

 

[Lucifero]

Don't do this to yourself. Stop it now before the sex gets you more emotionally attached. No fb with her.

Let the kid make his mistakes.