"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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today, i was talking with a friend of mine and he told me my girlfriend's been recently seen smoking in the school's backyard.

she's spent the last year getting mad at me because i drink too much and smoke too much pot and now she smokes cigarettes. i mean, i drink and smoke pot because it's fun, but she's smoking cigarettes, which is just to make others think you're "mature" or something. i'm sure she didn't tell me, but wanted me to know. what can i do? i now feel like sh1t, because it's my fault if she's started smoking and i don't want her to pick up such a bad habit because of me
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by Criminal Mind
Why don't you set an example and stop then? It works both ways, you can't expect someone to not shout when you're shouting.
it's different. i'm not smoking to impress people, i'm smoking because i enjoy it. how do i know she's not trying to impress me?

she would have started in middle school or in her freshman year, as everybody, not in her senior year... moreover, she's always been against it...
 

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Originally posted by Criminal Mind
That's not the way she sees it. Smoking is smoking is smoking is smoking.
c'mon i just smoke pot on an otherwise boring saturday night... i'd never touch cigarettes... i mean, what's the point of smoking something that will ruin your health BUT won't even get you high?!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Originally posted by Jay-X
c'mon i just smoke pot on an otherwise boring saturday night... i'd never touch cigarettes... i mean, what's the point of smoking something that will ruin your health BUT won't even get you high?!
lol how can I argue with that?

Look, just sit her down and tell her you're concerned about her. Ask her why she's doing it and hear her response straight from her mouth. Then decide what to do then.
 

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Originally posted by Criminal Mind
lol how can I argue with that?

Look, just sit her down and tell her you're concerned about her. Ask her why she's doing it and hear her response straight from her mouth. Then decide what to do then.
ok, i'll do that, thank you and let's cross our fingers
 

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maybe you should stop kissing her, and tell her he breth smells like an ashtrey
 
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