I'll keep it brief. We've been dating exclusively for a few months, she's completely into me, tells me she loves her, always wants to see me, etc. We have sex often and hard and on multiple occasions she's said it's the best she ever had. I'm pretty sure I'm getting her off (based on breathing, moaning, and her wetness), and she certainly says I do. We've met each other's parents, and I figure in her future.
That being said, she recently told me that she thought I was being too dominant sexually. I tell her to dress up in lingerie, or tell her that I'm going to eat her unconscious, that kind of thing (I don't tie her up or call her names or anything, although we do talk dirty). She's always done it with a smile and never complained, and I DO think she's just as sexually-charged as me. But now she tells me that she's been wanting to tell me about my domineering behavior for the past month. She says it's almost to the point where she doesn't want to have sex. She says in the past her boyfriends have adored her, held her hand during intercourse, put their arm underneath her back, etc.
I'm not sure what to think. She's definitely damaged (not badly, but more than I thought when we started dating), although she seems to have coped with it well. I don't have hurt feelings as much as I feel like the past couple months where she's felt this way have been a big lie. As far as I'm concerned, it's like glorified masturbation if it's only me enjoying it. I definitely want her to enjoy sex. By the way, after she told me, she and I "made love" perhaps more along her style. She was wet and she got off, and I certainly didn't mind it.
My question: if everything else is going fine, is this as big of a deal as I think it is? She says the millions of other things I do far outweigh this, but for me, sex is a big deal, as is sexual compatibility.
Quite frankly, this has never come before, so I look forward to anyone who might have tips or experience. I'd like to work this out with her (and she seems sure we will).
Thanks
That being said, she recently told me that she thought I was being too dominant sexually. I tell her to dress up in lingerie, or tell her that I'm going to eat her unconscious, that kind of thing (I don't tie her up or call her names or anything, although we do talk dirty). She's always done it with a smile and never complained, and I DO think she's just as sexually-charged as me. But now she tells me that she's been wanting to tell me about my domineering behavior for the past month. She says it's almost to the point where she doesn't want to have sex. She says in the past her boyfriends have adored her, held her hand during intercourse, put their arm underneath her back, etc.
I'm not sure what to think. She's definitely damaged (not badly, but more than I thought when we started dating), although she seems to have coped with it well. I don't have hurt feelings as much as I feel like the past couple months where she's felt this way have been a big lie. As far as I'm concerned, it's like glorified masturbation if it's only me enjoying it. I definitely want her to enjoy sex. By the way, after she told me, she and I "made love" perhaps more along her style. She was wet and she got off, and I certainly didn't mind it.
My question: if everything else is going fine, is this as big of a deal as I think it is? She says the millions of other things I do far outweigh this, but for me, sex is a big deal, as is sexual compatibility.
Quite frankly, this has never come before, so I look forward to anyone who might have tips or experience. I'd like to work this out with her (and she seems sure we will).
Thanks
