"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
girlfriend putting on weight
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Suggested statements:
"Man, I hate fat women".
"It really sucks when a fat girl sits next to me in class because she's so fat and worthless".
"Look at that stupid fat girl. I feel sorry for any girl's boyfriend when she starts putting on lard".
You also might want to try finding a naked picture of a fat woman and sticking it on your dartboard. Play darts with your girlfriend regularly. Then, around 2 weeks later, suddenly switch the picture with a naked picture of your girlfriend. If she asks about just mutter a few things and scowl. It's usually the best response.
backbreaker
Master Don Juan
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I hold myself to a pretty high standard and I demand a girl that holds herself to that standard. If she can't, then she doesn't deserve me... being in resionably good shape at least, is one of them
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
just start parking the car further from things to make her walk without realising it
start taking walks with her , tell her you enjoy the fall weather
this should help
Sweetcheeks
Don Juan
I agree with frisco, start engaging in ACTIVE DATES.
Try rock climbing, hiking, canoeing, etc. This will bring the two of you closer together, as well as help her shed those extra inches.
Although my girlfriend is in great shape as a personal trainer, I had a talk with her about my expectations for her.
Loving a person for who they are is one thing, but attraction works on SEVERAL levels. The reality is, PHYSICAL ATTRACTION is a significant factor.
If my girl gets fat, I just won't be as inclined to get it up for her. And that would be HER FAULT, not mine.
brucevangeorge
Banned
shell get the message.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
comic_relief
Master Don Juan
None of this insulting bs. It just hurts feelings and you don't want any hurt feelings.
then she can get as fat as she wants.
or how about you date a girl with some self control.
ie; first date, take the girl for ice cream. watch carefully how many scoops she orders + drinks + the method which she eats.
PeoplesChamp
Don Juan
I say download Bloodhound Gang's "You're pretty when I'm drunk", get her over to your dorm room, bust out a sixer of Keystone Light (or whatever the devil it is you freshmen are drinking these days), down it and tell her about how you are suddenly getting really horny.
bbestar
Banned
like there toys, use that excuse to pinch her "How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I've gone through this experience with a couple girls, so I hope my advice to you will be helpful with your relationship.
1.) Like the above posters said, don't hold a double standard. Even if you've got 3% body fat and a 39 bpm resting heart rate, you've got to watch what you eat and how you act around her.
2.) Try picking one of her body parts you particularly like and praise her for it often. Tell her you never want to see that body part change, that it's perfect, etc. She'll instantly start working to maintain it.
3.) If this doesn't work, start pointing out fat girls and talking about how much they gross you out, how their weight is indicative of their self-worth, etc. Hopefully, she'll take the hint and start working out.
4.) PRAISE HER PRAISE HER PRAISE for any work she does to get back in shape. When she passes on dessert, tell her you're proud of her discipline. When she gets back from the gym, take her to bed and ravish her before she gets to the shower. Tell her you like when she comes back from the gym all sweaty. My personal favorite is to say "that's so sexy" when she talks about going to the gym. The point is, if you don't show that you're happy with her efforts to get fit, she probably won't keep working on it. But if you praise her for it, she'll naturally begin to connect her work towards getting fit with your libido. She'll understand your desire to see her fit, and act accordingly.
If none of this works, launch her. I'm very serious about that. Gaining weight can be a sh!t test, she's testing how much you'll put up with before you leave. If you've done all the stuff I've mentioned and she STILL isn't losing weight, you need to send the strong message that you do not accept laziness from girls. If anything, it will build up your reputation for selectivity among the 299,999,999,999 girls in the world.
Lack of inactivity is one thing and bad food is the other. It wouldn't serve any purpose of them taking a walk only for her to pull him on the way for Baskin Robbins for some ice cream (and you know how chicks love to eat ice cream.)
Someone on this board once mentioned this and I think it was a great idea. Tell her that you think that you yourself is feeling slugish and is gaining some weight. Then ask her to join you at the gym and to help you motivate you into shape. Hopefully this will motivate her to excersize as well after all if you keep in shape, what does it say about her if she doesn't?
After a couple of weeks at the gym praise her for her figure that she has really "toned up"(chicks never like when you imply that they need to lose weight but toning up is a nicer way of saying it)
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.