Girlfriend problem

[Mr.meh]

My girlfriend has a pretty strong personality. She can be pretty sweet, but she does not take **** from anyone. She pretty much broke down all her old boyfriends. (It's funny because she does not look tough at all)

I am by no means a "badass". I was pretty clumsy and accident-prone as a kid. But I believed in the concept of self-improvement and thus ended up being a decent guy. I think she liked me because I loved making fun of her and was not afraid of saying things other guys would never even think of saying to her.

Fast forward a year or so,

I feel like the "old" me is coming back. She pretty much makes me feel like a dumbass most of the time. She makes me feel as if the effort I have put into improving myself was a total waste of time. She criticizes me constantly. (My forgetfulness, my bad driving, my bad grades etc etc.)

I don't know man. I just got into a huge fight with her and needed to vent. I wrote a much longer and much more detailed post but it sosuave messed it up somehow. lol. Ah well, feel free to give me any sort of feedback.... I just need to get it together somehow...

 

[Crazy Asian]

^^ Chris Brown dat hoe!!

 

[Crazy Asian]

The simplest option would be to forget about her.
But I know you wouldn't like that or else you wouldn't be writing this.

I personally think it's good to have a strong girl that can push you.
I remember I went out with this girl that motivated me to become a better person. It's not like I was trying to improve to "impress" her, but she just somehow brought out the best in me and made me do things that I never thought I could do.

But from the sounds of it, it seems that this girl is disrespecting you.
I know a lot of guys on here will come and tell you to next this girl.
But I think it can work.
I don't like to just run away when every little problem comes up.

There is a reason she is picking these things out about you.
But we need a little more info.
On like what happened in the past up till now?
and how is she criticizing you?
like is she joking about it or does she get pissed?

 

[KontrollerX]

Since you are here for input presumably here is mine...

Begin looking for new talent on the side and once you have established that the new girl is better than the current insultive dead weight cut the dead weight loose and look forward to a brighter happier future.

 

[3countriesPlan]

Ya dude, reimpose yourself on her then while you are doing that, find a girl who wont criticize you. There are many out there.

 

[Captain]

My girlfriend has a pretty strong personality. She can be pretty sweet, but she does not take **** from anyone. She pretty much broke down all her old boyfriends. (It's funny because she does not look tough at all)

I am by no means a "badass". I was pretty clumsy and accident-prone as a kid. But I believed in the concept of self-improvement and thus ended up being a decent guy. I think she liked me because I loved making fun of her and was not afraid of saying things other guys would never even think of saying to her.

You've become complacent. You can't let your game slide when you get into a relationship.

Fast forward a year or so,

I feel like the "old" me is coming back. She pretty much makes me feel like a dumbass most of the time. She makes me feel as if the effort I have put into improving myself was a total waste of time. She criticizes me constantly. (My forgetfulness, my bad driving, my bad grades etc etc.)

I don't know man. I just got into a huge fight with her and needed to vent. I wrote a much longer and much more detailed post but it sosuave messed it up somehow. lol. Ah well, feel free to give me any sort of feedback.... I just need to get it together somehow...

Forget about her. Leave her. You shouldn't be taking this ridiculous criticism from her. Leave her and she will at least respect you a little for having the balls to end it.

 

[DonGorgon]

She is cheating and has very little respect for you.. next

 

[Mr.meh]

Sorry for the late reply guys. Been busy with finals and such. Thanks for the feedback

We eventually figured things out but did get into another fight recently.

I understand the notion that "nexting" is the only way to gain some respect in this situation. But, I also agree with Crazy Asian. I don't like turning my back on the issue at hand. We have both invested so much in this relationship and it would be a shame if we just let it go. Even if I do eventually end up leaving her, I would still like to evaluate myself and make sure this sort of thing does not happen again.

I have always been sort of distant. I have this "whatever" mentality that always seems to attract the ladies. This is not always a good thing however, it is as if I am "disconnected". I think this is why I am so clumsy and forgetful sometimes. Simple things like driving directions.... forgetting to turn-off the lights, picking up after myself at her place. It may seem trivial but it drives her crazy. I am afraid that she thinks she cannot depend on me (except for the sex part of course hehe)

I just don't know how to fix this. I am starting to realize that this kind of behavior will piss off other girls too. Old habits die hard I guess....

Right now she is suggesting that I keep my stuff (clothes etc) at my own place and I drive my own car (instead of hers) when I am around. She wants me to stay but keep our things separate. She says that its just the way she is wired. She can't stand my frequent incompetence and keeping our things seperate will probably improve our relationship.

Meh.. the highs are so high but the lows really suck... I'll see how this works out..

 

[KontrollerX]

"She pretty much broke down all her old boyfriends. (It's funny because she does not look tough at all)"

"Fast forward a year or so,

I feel like the "old" me is coming back. She pretty much makes me feel like a dumbass most of the time. She makes me feel as if the effort I have put into improving myself was a total waste of time. She criticizes me constantly. (My forgetfulness, my bad driving, my bad grades etc etc.)"

A woman's past is almost always an indicator of what her future will be like.

To put it another way...

You can always know how your relationship with a girl will progress if you find out how she treated her boyfriends before you.

The problem of course is guys always think they'll be the exception, that their obviously awesome because the girl is with them now but eventually the bullsh!t always starts and the same thing happens with you as happened with the past guys.

At the point the bullsh!t starts up emotionally weak guys are far too invested to do the right thing and do a takeaway breakup because they fear the b!tch won't come back and so the relationship continues on its downward trajectory until the girl relives all her previous disasters with you and the relationship ultimately ends...badly.

So congratulations bro this is right where you are headed.

Your stubborn refusal to do the right thing which would be a takeaway breakup with her for bad behavior and your over investment in this disaster waiting to happen is exactly what is going to ultimately do you in and put you right on the pile next to the other ex boyfriends of her's.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=155594

You need to break up with her and then follow Metaphysical's "So you just got dumped" guide to regain your power over her and get a newfound respect from her and have her be putty in your hands basically.

"Right now she is suggesting that I keep my stuff (clothes etc) at my own place and I drive my own car (instead of hers) when I am around. She wants me to stay but keep our things separate. She says that its just the way she is wired. She can't stand my frequent incompetence and keeping our things seperate will probably improve our relationship.

Meh.. the highs are so high but the lows really suck... I'll see how this works out.."

Bipolar high highs and low lows are no way to have a relationship nor is putting up with constant nagging about what a worthless incompetent piece of sh!t you are.

Don't you have any pride or self respect at all?

Dump that b!tch!

Bro we all know how this movie is going to end but when you find out remember the ending well so you don't relive it again and again and again with new girls.