"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Girlfriend pissed at me. I don't give a ****

Desert Fox

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Guys here's what going on:

My GF who is pretty cool but sometimes can be a huge b1tch asked me to hang out with her dumbass friends tonight.

I said I had **** to do but she is sly and came to my room to see if I was there (I said I had to do important work) only to find me in my shorts watching the office :D

So I was like oh how was dinner. She just yelled "IT'S ONLY 8:00 JACKASS!!!! WE DIDNT LEAVE YET"

then stormed off. I went back to watching the office. Later she came online and talked to me about why I don't like hanging out w/her.

I simply said I don't like doing boring **** liek shopping w/your dumbass friends who I have no interest in getting to know. And basically this led to a potentially long ass discussion about how I don't care about people and she though I cared and all this bull**** that I fortunately cut short to a 10 min chat fest. 10 min too long...I know :\

Anyways, I've never really done this before because in high shcool I was also the go-to guy for listening to people's problems and ****, but I've had enough and although I know this was the right thing to do, it feels awfully weird. Lemme know what you think guys. WWJD? better yet, what would you have done?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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ready123

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in trying NOT to be the guy w/ no backbone, you jumped to other extreme and turned into a straight up azzhole. that's a noob mistake

and common sense says you don't gotta piss your girl off and lie to her to make your point
 

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shudda kept it to shopping that you hated, or whatever else they were doing. you've just cussed out all her friends which she wont thank you for. dating women is in reality more like dating a gaggle of them, but there is only one you get to take home. especially when they are younger and havent developed their set of personal boundaries etc.

they are really really social creatures so, the opinion of the group will matter to her. imagine now if she goes back and shares with them what you said with her mates. when you f-up next time, they will all be straight in there to remind her that you were never any good to start with and they dont know why she's with you. On the other hand, if you keep them sweet, be polite etc when some dude in the club tries to come onto your girl when you aint there, her mates will protect her.

So what i do, is always make a point of being nice when i see them. But like you, avoid the awful girly stuff they do. But i say its because it's girly stuff and no dudes are gona be around to keep it interesting. Not that her mates are a bunch of retards.....
 

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Alright thanks for the tips guys. Def a noob mistake.

I guess I was too brutal with this gal and her loser folks. I'll probably just laugh it off if I meet them and ruffle their hair...treat them like little kids/brats but not like scum of the earth. I can't stand those ditzy fukers but I will put up with them for those few minutes I may see them.

COOL
 

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the best advice that i think i can give you is BE HONEST bro.


instead of saying "i got real important sh*t to do". just tell her "hey , i really am not down for goin gout with blah blah, im chillin in tonight".

saves a lot of BS IMO
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Desert Fox said:
Guys here's what going on:

My GF who is pretty cool but sometimes can be a huge b1tch asked me to hang out with her dumbass friends tonight.

I said I had **** to do but she is sly and came to my room to see if I was there (I said I had to do important work) only to find me in my shorts watching the office :D

So I was like oh how was dinner. She just yelled "IT'S ONLY 8:00 JACKASS!!!! WE DIDNT LEAVE YET"

then stormed off. I went back to watching the office. Later she came online and talked to me about why I don't like hanging out w/her.

I simply said I don't like doing boring **** liek shopping w/your dumbass friends who I have no interest in getting to know. And basically this led to a potentially long ass discussion about how I don't care about people and she though I cared and all this bull**** that I fortunately cut short to a 10 min chat fest. 10 min too long...I know :\

Anyways, I've never really done this before because in high shcool I was also the go-to guy for listening to people's problems and ****, but I've had enough and although I know this was the right thing to do, it feels awfully weird. Lemme know what you think guys. WWJD? better yet, what would you have done?


It sounds like you are tired of this girl and you are ready to move on. Why do you still call her your girlfriend?
 

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Yeah if you have to lie to get out of hanging out with her friends then its time to next her.
 

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k listen bro, you messed up by lying. why must you lie? if you truly dont like shopping then stick to it, by lying you are portraiting yourself to someone who is scared of his girlfriend, im sure you're not.

secondly, tell her straight up you dont like to shop especially with her friend. thats something SHE does on her OWN time with HER friends, you dont need to string along. you got your own **** to do.
if she gives you additude, just let her yap. girls can go for days if you respond back.

i would have simply said to my girlfriend "listen babe, imma just relax at home ,you go out with your friends and have fun, when you come back, we'll cook somehting together and who knows what else **WINK WINK"

try to keep your cool, you gotta make things work. if she questions you why you dont like to shop with her, just tell her nicely its not her cup of tea, try not to give a reason, (like saying who you were before and how you used to listen to ppl's problem) keep it blunt, tell her its not your thing. you would rather do something else.

thats it,
 

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Let her be mad its no big deal. Just tell the truth and get over it.
 

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I appreciate the hits guys.

I've told the truth in the past but it was all bull**** and arguments. Basically you can cut out the part from my story about her finding me and getting pissed. She would just get pissed on the spot.

anyways I am going gto break up w/her tomorrow and say I am bored of our relationship and it's been nice knowing her. I am just so goddamn bored.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Sometimes you have to hang out with your girl's friends and just suck it up. You'd probably want her to be cool around your's if she had to be, I'm sure.
 

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Mavrick said:
Sometimes you have to hang out with your girl's friends and just suck it up. You'd probably want her to be cool around your's if she had to be, I'm sure.
Very true man. But I guarantee you if any sane man was in a room with those crazy b1tches for more than 10 minutes they would commit suicide.

Anyways I am meeting her tomorrow by the coast and I will break it up w/her early morning.
 

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you did the right thing by doing what YOU wanted, and not just doin what she wanted cos she's a girl, but the way that you did it, you could have done it smoother man and you could have saved yourself lots of bullsh!t.
 
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