Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Girlfriend of 4 months sex issues
- Thread starter andybonse
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Becoming scarce means to be less available to your girlfriend. Be busy with other things.andybonse said:
How often do you initiate texts/calls with her? Are you initiating more than she is? Are you being needy?
Also, dont see her as much. When you see someone all the time, things are bound to get a lil stale because of over-familiarity.
Better, but won't resolve the issue. Again - become less available, (by doing something you actually want to do) and the time you'll have allocated to this activity becomes the time you're most definitely not available to her.andybonse said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Senior Don Juan
Good alpha and fun creates dopeamine hits = panties wet
Good beta creates oxytocin which is the comfort/bonding hormone.
Bad beta or bad alpha = no respect and dry *****.
Your only 4 months in, so get to know her more. Track her cycle (without saying shyt). Good beta on her pms week (the week before she bleeds in pms week) and good alpha as you approach her ovulation (which is about 14 days give or take a few from day one of bleeding).
If you plan on keeping her, cut her some slack and rev her up some. Hit the gym and improve your sex rank and create some dopeamine hits.
Epi
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.