"I just moved here from Florida."

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My girlfriend and I talked about sex last thursday and it ended with her saying she will tell me when shes ready.

I feel like i failed because of how the conversation ended and completely powerless over this now because she decides when it happens.

I dont want to bother her about it but i also am not going to wait 4 months or however long it could be for her to be "ready".


Next time we are messing around Im defenently going to try stoping and starting and teasing her to get her to want me more and hopefully lead to wanting my d1ck in her but I dont know how well that will work.

Other than that i feel like im forced to play the waitting game.

anyone whos been in this siuation let me know what you did.
(shes a virgin by the way)
 

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I think that you're giving her too much power. From things I've read on this site I'm positive that you're supposed to try to be the one in control, apparently woman like that for some odd reason.

I'm not anywhere close to experienced though, so you don't have to take my advice :p.
 

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I am in control of the relationship but I cant tell her we are having sex right here and right now. This isnt something that I have control over as far as I see
 

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That's what I mean. You aren't in control in a sense that she's saying no till she's "ready." To be honest with you, unless you're planning on getting married, there's no point to relationships without sex. If she says no I think I would move on.
 

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Ill wait till june 1st, first day of summer I think. Its kinda a long time but this girls cherry is worth the wait. If not then no biggie I will have the entire summer ahead of me.
 

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good things come to those who wait..be patient with the pu5sy, especially a virgin one
 

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If she's a virgin then give her time. Just make her feel really comfortable with you rather than find you so sexy she wants you to bang her then and there. The whole sexy thing doesn't work with virgins, unless they are sluts. Get her comfortable around you and being able to talk to you about anything. Just be careful to keep up the attraction and don't make her think of you as only a friend.
 

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I think you got it plec.
Confortable and more intimate conversations might be what iv been neglecting to work on.

It could defenently speed this wait up.
 

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faiNt` said:
I think that you're giving her too much power. From things I've read on this site I'm positive that you're supposed to try to be the one in control, apparently woman like that for some odd reason.

I'm not anywhere close to experienced though, so you don't have to take my advice :p.

No, no...don't force a virgin. Encourage her but make her comfortable and build trust more and more. I wouldn't worry about it. Sex isn't that big of a deal if you really like her.
 

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faiNt` said:
I think that you're giving her too much power. From things I've read on this site I'm positive that you're supposed to try to be the one in control, apparently woman like that for some odd reason.

I'm not anywhere close to experienced though, so you don't have to take my advice :p.
Yes, the man should be in control! Virgin or no virgin, don't force it. You should have kino'd from the get go. Now you have to give her more reason for her to f**k.

Good luck with that.
 

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john paul said:
Theres plently of kino nismo. shes a virgin but Iv gotten her to do everything else.
I'm glad the kino's there.

You can only respect the fact that she's a virgin. There will be a time when she puts out, but once again, she's a virgin. After viewing the responses so far, Plec07 had the right answer to your problem.
 

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She attempted to mindfvck you by telling you she will decide she is ready. If you hang around and keep asking her when she's ready, you will eventually lose her. What you need to do is get your power back and you can do that by making her really horny and then not giving her what she wants. Create sexual tension and then just stop without going further until she is begging you to fvck her.
 

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Kidd said:
She attempted to mindfvck you by telling you she will decide she is ready. If you hang around and keep asking her when she's ready, you will eventually lose her. What you need to do is get your power back and you can do that by making her really horny and then not giving her what she wants. Create sexual tension and then just stop without going further until she is begging you to fvck her.

Thats what i had in mind in doing next time accually.

Glad to know you think its a good idea too.
Shouldnt be that hard, she gets going pretty quick with not much work.


Ill post on here how she handles it if you want to see how it turns out.
 

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"I'll let you know when I'm ready"

"OK, great. Call me when you're ready."
 

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