"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girlfriend not as hot on sex.

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Saw her today and ****ed her, she was telling me how much she missed me, she had a bad family issue with her sister and spent some time telling me about it.

Idk if this is a test, she told me I always pick a bad movie when we were looking, so I said ok no movie then, then she says you aren’t going to watch a movie with me in a sad voice, she took back what she said and said it was only one, I don’t like this though to be honest, kind of rude but I didn’t let any of it show.

I picked the movie, which wasn’t good, she kind of liked it and I started messing around with her.

She was on her period but she sucked me off till I came all over her, so successful.


I’m wondering if comments like that about movies and stuff are **** tests, what’s the best way to pass those, I could tell her attraction was way up. But I don’t want to give it away, she still isn’t being as well behaved as I’d like
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Saw her today and ****ed her, she was telling me how much she missed me, she had a bad family issue with her sister and spent some time telling me about it.

Idk if this is a test, she told me I always pick a bad movie when we were looking, so I said ok no movie then, then she says you aren’t going to watch a movie with me in a sad voice, she took back what she said and said it was only one, I don’t like this though to be honest, kind of rude but I didn’t let any of it show.

I picked the movie, which wasn’t good, she kind of liked it and I started messing around with her.

She was on her period but she sucked me off till I came all over her, so successful.


I’m wondering if comments like that about movies and stuff are **** tests, what’s the best way to pass those, I could tell her attraction was way up. But I don’t want to give it away, she still isn’t being as well behaved as I’d like
She’s probably just being playful re the movie thing. Next time you could say ‘Ok you choose the movie but if it sucks no more movie choosing privileges for you hahaha.’

Not everything is a test by the way. If you see it as such you’re going to end up spending more time trying to decipher her every action rather than just enjoying dating and the sex.
I think some of the more sorted out guys here can help you around what is most likely a test and what isn’t.
 

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I don’t think there’s something weird I just think she feels too secure and sometimes she has ****ty behavior, taking awhile to text back, feel taking for granted, hot and cold
She has it locked in the back of her head you aren't going anywhere so no longer feels she needs to try.

Many women get complacent around the 8 to 12 month mark and they feel you will be around forever and they stop trying. This is usually when the **** tests begin.

First 6 months she is on her best behaviour. Wants to be the center of your attention. She will put on an act to make you believe you have found the perfect girl.

Around the 8 month mark comfort sets in, and you slowly starts to test you. Usually the first tests are denial of sex. See how you react. At this point most guys stick around and hope the ship rights itself.

She notices you put up with it. Tests become more frequent. You are now dealing with the real her. The good behaviour starts to errode.

12 to 16 month mark suddenly she is disrespecting you. She is demanding. She refuses to compromise and everything is your fault. You wonder what the heck happened to the sweet fun girl from last year.

You are at the 11 month mark. Sounds like she is **** testing you.

Is she disrespecting you? Picking fights? Denying sex?

If so check that behaviour now.
 

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She has it locked in the back of her head you aren't going anywhere so no longer feels she needs to try.

Many women get complacent around the 8 to 12 month mark and they feel you will be around forever and they stop trying. This is usually when the **** tests begin.

First 6 months she is on her best behaviour. Wants to be the center of your attention. She will put on an act to make you believe you have found the perfect girl.

Around the 8 month mark comfort sets in, and you slowly starts to test you. Usually the first tests are denial of sex. See how you react. At this point most guys stick around and hope the ship rights itself.

She notices you put up with it. Tests become more frequent. You are now dealing with the real her. The good behaviour starts to errode.

12 to 16 month mark suddenly she is disrespecting you. She is demanding. She refuses to compromise and everything is your fault. You wonder what the heck happened to the sweet fun girl from last year.

You are at the 11 month mark. Sounds like she is **** testing you.

Is she disrespecting you? Picking fights? Denying sex?

If so check that behaviour now.

She is denying sex, sometimes she reads my messages and answers hours later, when you say check in what way.

The thing that annoys me most is reading of texts then not answering or about 6 hours later with something unrelated.
 

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If this isn't night time or work hours, and she used to be different, you have your answer. Sort of limbo because you know what's going on but can't act on it without a ton of self doubt.

It is work hours sometimes, but she could say one word especially when she reads it. She never used to do this

When I text too much she does this it seems, I feel like just calling her out on it.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Stop texting too much. You should let her initiate generally.

This is such a confusing thread because she is being sketchy but also you have culpability lol, hard to advise

Yeah I agree I do start texting too much I just don’t like he ignoring getting back to me later is fine, but I know I shouldn’t be texting so much, that’s her job
 

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She is denying sex, sometimes she reads my messages and answers hours later, when you say check in what way.

The thing that annoys me most is reading of texts then not answering or about 6 hours later with something unrelated.
If she is denying sex and taking up to 6 hours to answer texts, time to withdraw all attention. All of it
Get busy. Dont call or text or answer her calls or texts for a week or 2. If it was me id dump her in my opinon.

When they behave like this the no longer value you. Time to put your valuable time and attention to someone who appreciates it.
 

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