"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girlfriend more popular than i am...

Blackhole105

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She's not in a higher social class or anything,we have some friends in common. She just has a lot more of them simply. It's probably just because I'm more of a quiet guy.

It never really bothered me until today when she asked me if i wanted to go to a local show her friend's band is playing in. She's seems like the type of girl that would be attracted to musician/artist type, so I'm a just a little worried she might ditch me for one of these many guy friends.

Maybe its not a big deal, but it's starting to bother me because all I read here is that social proof is the most important thing to a girl.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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smooth guy

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Stop chicking out and thinking too highly of your gf just because she knows people you don't.

Go to the show and be open and social. Talk with her friends and joke just like you would do with your friends
 

SparkleMotion

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Read. Read. Read.

Stop placing value on the number of friends in your life. Instead place value on the strength/value of the relationships that you have with your friends.

Blackhole105 said:
She's not in a higher social class or anything,we have some friends in common. She just has a lot more of them simply. It's probably just because I'm more of a quiet guy.
Do you like being "a quiet guy"?

Blackhole105 said:
It never really bothered me until today when she asked me if i wanted to go to a local show her friend's band is playing in. She's seems like the type of girl that would be attracted to musician/artist type, so I'm a just a little worried she might ditch me for one of these many guy friends.
You are being very insecure about the issue. Why would she leave you for one of these guys? You're way more of a man then they will ever be.

Blackhole105 said:
Maybe its not a big deal, but it's starting to bother me because all I read here is that social proof is the most important thing to a girl.
Yeah it's important. But just because some other chode has social proof, doesn't mean that you can't have more social proof then the. Bust into the show just chatting to everyone, just be friendly. Talk to her friends like they are your friends as well.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Blackhole105 said:
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It never really bothered me until today when she asked me if i wanted to go to a local show her friend's band is playing in. She's seems like the type of girl that would be attracted to musician/artist type, so I'm a just a little worried she might ditch me for one of these many guy friends.
Thinking like this may affect you in such a way that possibly the next time she may not envite you along.
 

LostAndConfused

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Why not meet some of her friends?

Or why not spend all your time hanging out with your mutual friends and go out with your own social circle from time to time? You control your social life, not your girlfriend.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Don't worry about her guy friends. Worry what her actions are showing you around her guy friends...

Don't be insecure that she may leave you for one of them... Just make friends with her friends.
 

Poonani Maker

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dude, so many of these popular chicks don't even know how to spell, I mean look at their myspace pages spelling bare as bear and miracle as miricle. So many chicks as soooo fvckin stupid and will have to rely on a MAN to get them through life. Be that Man, improve yourself, and make the better life for her to rely on. The problem is that she may never run outta funds, because there's so much wealth in this country that her cashflow may not be stopped until she's in her early thirties, either by her daddy or her satellite guy friends.
 
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