Girlfriend losing interest

[Hogwild]

If your LTR girlfriend is displaying lowered interest, do you guys have specific go to moves that will help her become more interested? Girl seems bored. Just withdraw or are there very specific things/words/displayed actions/senarios one can do? Thanks

 

[SAYNO]

How long have you two been together and when did you first notice it?

 

[SAYNO]

Cheat

Yea for some reason that seems to always work! :crackup:

 

[Vantagepoint34]

If your LTR girlfriend is displaying lowered interest, do you guys have specific go to moves that will help her become more interested? Girl seems bored. Just withdraw or are there very specific things/words/displayed actions/senarios one can do? Thanks

Seems like she broke up with you already. Nothing you can do.

 

[Hogwild]

How long have you two been together and when did you first notice it?

Couple months ago. About 4 years. Haha cheating

 

[Igetit!]

If your LTR girlfriend is displaying lowered interest, do you guys have specific go to moves that will help her become more interested? Girl seems bored. Just withdraw or are there very specific things/words/displayed actions/senarios one can do? Thanks

Here you go,check out this thread here.....


http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=156533


You don't have to read the whole thing,just skip down to reply #14.


It's no guarantee,though. If she has at least SOME interest left and hasn't started avoiding,flaking,or making excuses to not spend time with you,you should be able to slowly start raising her interest back up again.

 

[Hogwild]

Here you go,check out this thread here.....


http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=156533


You don't have to read the whole thing,just skip down to reply #14.


It's no guarantee,though. If she has at least SOME interest left and hasn't started avoiding,flaking,or making excuses to not spend time with you,you should be able to slowly start raising her interest back up again.

Thanks, and I just seen a post talking about LI women. I understand they may not be worth time, but was still curious about an approach that was not srtaight to next.. Thanks bro

 

[nismo-4]

It's time to cheat. Things are going south, and she's going south on another man.

Case closed.

 

[JohnnyStorm]

Is anything else happening in her life right now that could account for it? How do you feel the relationship is going? After 4 years you must have some idea about whether you see a long term future with her, which would determine whether you want to continue with her or not.

"Less interest = Give up and move on"--- This is clueless advice for real world relationships....

 

[Cremasta]

I'm hoping you're particularly perceptive, because by the time most guys notice something, the girl has mentally left the relationship weeks/months ago.

4 years hey? If you're over 25, then she could be annoyed that you haven't asked her to marry her yet. Has that come up in any conversations in the last year or so? If this is the issue and you want to keep her around, then there's one solution for you.

Another one is to just become that cool, fun guy again that she first met (I'm not saying you aren't, but she's just used to you now) and mix things up a bit. You might want to try doing some different things, preferably active stuff like kayaking or mountain biking. Make sure you invite her along, but also make it clear that you'll do these things with or without her.

Good luck

 

[Hogwild]

Is anything else happening in her life right now that could account for it? How do you feel the relationship is going? After 4 years you must have some idea about whether you see a long term future with her, which would determine whether you want to continue with her or not.

"Less interest = Give up and move on"--- This is clueless advice for real world relationships....

I guess she has some family and money issues, she is trying to go to grad school. I have a better job than here though. I do see a future with her but it's funny cause I always have had conflicting thoughts about marriage, I think she is aware of this. However I think she may see me as a "sure thing" now and is taking me for granted.

 

[Hogwild]

I'm hoping you're particularly perceptive, because by the time most guys notice something, the girl has mentally left the relationship weeks/months ago.

4 years hey? If you're over 25, then she could be annoyed that you haven't asked her to marry her yet. Has that come up in any conversations in the last year or so? If this is the issue and you want to keep her around, then there's one solution for you.

Another one is to just become that cool, fun guy again that she first met (I'm not saying you aren't, but she's just used to you now) and mix things up a bit. You might want to try doing some different things, preferably active stuff like kayaking or mountain biking. Make sure you invite her along, but also make it clear that you'll do these things with or without her.

Good luck

This is the type of thing I was thinking of doing. It is not a marriage issue, this I am sure of. We are still trying to establish ourselves after just completing school a little over a year ago. I need to try and spice it up a bit I think, be mysterious or make her jealous or miss me or something! haha. We are kinda boring at this point. Thanks for the reply bro, This one will work out fine Im sure, im just trying to find the quickest and or easiest route there because I do recognize a obvious change with us

 

[gravityeyelids]

I take it you're not losing interest for her? Honestly...after 4 years the obvious implication is that you two are going to get engaged soon. You're only 25. Don't marry this girl. The relationship is probably stale.

She may be cheating on you...But unless you know for sure don't be a **** and cheat on her. Others here may disagree. But i'd rather just break up with her than cheat. Break up with her before she dumps you. You will feel much less worse than if she dumps you.

I encourage you to take a long, hard look at what you like about her, and what you don't like about her. Focus on what you don't like and amplify it. You'll be able to see through a clearer lens and detach yourself from emotion. If you feel her slipping away your emotional kneejerk reaction is to get worried and panic a little, and you tend to focus on the positive things about her. Dont do this. I'm not saying she's a wonderful girl. But there's so many great girls out there.

Honestly if you really want to save this, you could try to spice up the relationship. Do something exciting. Experiment with crazy sex fantasies....dont get your hopes up though.

Break Up With Her Before She Dumps You.

 

[Poop1337]

Things will only get worse from here and marriage wouldn't help. You need to spin them plates. Cheat! It's the only thing that might save your relationship and even if it doesn't save it you get some sex to fall into when you're current stream runs dry which from the sounds of it might already be happening.

 

[Hogwild]

Things will only get worse from here and marriage wouldn't help. You need to spin them plates. Cheat! It's the only thing that might save your relationship and even if it doesn't save it you get some sex to fall into when you're current stream runs dry which from the sounds of it might already be happening.

Who here actually believes that cheating helps relationships? And does this mean that the girls cheated must find out? How does it help? Im not sure if this would do more harm than good.

 

[thatfeel]

I mean, would I be wasting my breath or am I crazy for suggesting that the OP ask his gf what's going on? I mean a 4 year relationship is different from the 6 month ordeal where expressing your emotions makes you look like a beta fag

 

[Epimanes]

Women losing interest is not always cuz she's sucking another guys kock. Cheating is no answer. Why not ask her what's bothering her? Tell her you feel she's being distant and your curious if she needs to talk about anything.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[JoeMarron]

Standard protocol. When she shows less interest you show even less than her. You should always be showing less interest than her anyways. Think of it in reverse, if you were less interested in her there wouldn't be much she could do besides becoming hotter. If she started fading away however you may start to wonder what's going on and your interest would rise.

 

[Epimanes]

Joe. That might work in short term flings but they have been together 4 years... If you pull away she's going to feel like he doesn't care and continue to pull away.

I would sit her down over a cup of coffee and ask her what's on her mind. Tell her you can see something is bothering her and you would like to help her talk it through. Ask her about her and she will feel validated and valued. She will see that you sense her and you will spark her thought process and feed her feelings that you care. Don't ignore her more... She could have something on her mind that is really buggin her. Womens problems float in the forefront of their thought process and they can't compartmentalize the issues like us men can. They are global thinkers so problems going on in their heads (real or precieved) need to be taken care of for her to move on. I guarentee.

Epi

 

[JoeMarron]

Joe. That might work in short term flings but they have been together 4 years... If you pull away she's going to feel like he doesn't care and continue to pull away.

I would sit her down over a cup of coffee and ask her what's on her mind. Tell her you can see something is bothering her and you would like to help her talk it through. Ask her about her and she will feel validated and valued. She will see that you sense her and you will spark her thought process and feed her feelings that you care. Don't ignore her more... She could have something on her mind that is really buggin her. Womens problems float in the forefront of their thought process and they can't compartmentalize the issues like us men can. They are global thinkers so problems going on in their heads (real or precieved) need to be taken care of for her to move on. I guarentee.

Epi

I'm thinking that it's an attraction issue though. The OP himself said that she seems bored. Talking about why she's bored isn't going to solve anything. She's a grown woman, if something's bothering her she can open up her mouth and say it. As a matter of fact your "All women are psychos" thread is perfect for this issue. Instead of trying to fix her issues let her work it out on her own and when she comes back you'll be there waiting.