Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
int3l said:they've got to have something going for them.
jokes.
But hasn't society always depicted black people as having large penises?
Because some people have to sleep & workDonJuan11 said:why hasn't the original poster responded to all this advice?
This is what my feelings were, and agree with others who are saying maybe I've become too reliable and predictable! I'm still sceptical about what is happening.Teflon_Mcgee said:I have to agree with Leporello.
How many of you guys have been in an LTR for more than a year?
Everybody goes through a slump. I don't care how old you are.
A year is a long time to have sex with the same person everyday.
You can't stay excited forever.
I lose interest in sex sometime even if I'm horney.
Other times I need 3 hits a day.
That's just the way LTR's are.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Me! I did 8 years.... great girl who tuned into B!TCH etc......Teflon_Mcgee said:How many of you guys have been in an LTR for more than a year?.
Thrust your gut, its telling you somethings wrong, you said she loved sex with you and now all the sudden she doesn't? People don't change overnight...lloyd_bank$ said:I imagine this happens to a certain extent naturally in all relationships, but this really bothers me, and affects my confidence somewhat, that she's had such a drastic change!!
Everything else in the relationship is mostly great, and always has been, except she does seem more moody with me too recently, and loses her temper with me for literally nothing!
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
if she black and getting tagged by a well hung asian guy you could tell too.TanzaniaMan said:If she is gettin tagged by a well hung black guy, you will be able to notice how loose she got
andI.A.F.Y.B. said:Unfortunitly... she may be getting it from someone else. Loss of sex life out of the blue is a high sign of cheating. I would be prepared to start moving on without her.
Although a person may not like hearing such things j0n024 said, i accept their well mannered opinion, especially as they give an example of experience they hadTanzaniaMan said:Its too late,
Some dude is already hittin it better than he was...