"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Girlfriend left purse in my car.

Phat

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I know i've seen something a bout girls something of theres at there boyfriends house or car.. But anyone know wat this means? I have an idea on wat it means.. i just wanna make sure.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Stop overthinking:

You have two choices

1. She actually forgot it: Probably thinks somebody stole her purse. Tell her you found it, don't just give it to her. (reduces creepy stalker factor)

2. Left it on purpose: Wants to meet you more. Tell her you have it, but don't give it to her.

Either way, tell her first. Don't just hand it over. Try to arrange a meeting if she gives IOI's

-Damian
 

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i already told her... yeh i was over thinking .
 
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