Girlfriend keeps mentioning ex

[JLW]

Girl keeps mentioning her ex.

At first I thought it was just a bunch of **** tests, but now its starting to get on my nerves. The guy did something REALLY ****ty to her and cheated on her and she mentions about what a ****ty person he is constantly, but it sort of gets on my nerves.

The first few times I just ignored it but I feel like I should call her on it.


Suggestions? Should I just keep ignoring it, or say something?

I've been going out with this girl for about 2 and a half months.

 

[DMan77]

Personally I'd put my foot down pretty soon.
Obvousily shes looking out for her own well being by trying to make it clear what she doesn't want.
so just be firm, explain you're not like that (as long as you really arent like that) and that you want to focus on the 2 of you moving forward.
or something like that. Im no expert.

 

[SeldomSeen]

RE:

keep mentioning your ex

"my ex had big breast"
"man she such bad girl, you dont find naughty girls like that anymore"
etc,etc

LOL!!

 

[flexion_]

Its not a good sign when a woman talks about her ex.

I'd say something like... "Don't you have any girlfriends you can talk to about him?" Something that essentially says you don't want to hear about it. And if she can't do that then something else is going on.

 

[backbreaker]

i mean, let's be honest here... she is going to talk about him.. she is probably even going to have some type of feelings for him if they were togther for a while.

What matters is, what she is sa ying and the type of feeling she still displays.

If she keeps comparing you to him, don't put your foot down, no point.. move on She isn't over him

But if something happens that reminds her of him every once in a while and she might mention it here or there, on occusion, nothing wrong with that.

 

[JLW]

About 90% of the time, when she does mention him, it's because my girlfriend sees something that reminds her of him. EVERY time she mentions him, it is something that's negative.

Every once in a while, (only like 1 or 2 occasions) she'll compare her ex-boyfriend with me. But once again, in a negative way. For example, she'll say,

"You have such nice muscles. Ex-boyfriend had bad muscles, he took steroids" (that was one occasion)


Now that I'm thinking about it, it doesn't seem like I have much to worry about.


I think the reason she mentions him often is because he did something REALLY ****ty that gave her a somewhat traumatic experience.

 

[MightyMate]

Do not ignore. Tell her to shut up.

 

[Tomatoes]

I would have a word with her about it.

Change the subject when she does it.

Dont let it get to you.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

She's obviously not completely over him yet.

Take a step back from her for a couple of days.

When she gets anxious because you haven't been trying with her, she will ask you what's up.

Then mention nicely that you don't think she's completely over her ex and that's why you think she needs a little time and space perhaps. Don't get mad or anything.

If she asks why you think that, then mention how often the ex comes up.