"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girlfriend just turned 21

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It was bound to happen, brother.

I've personally seen girls conservative as the Amish get turned out. It usually takes two things:

1.) A charasmatic "best" girlfriend to act as a bad influence. Usually not as good looking but definitely more social, dynamic, and with a magnetic personality compelling enough to convince your girl that the sun does indeed revolve around the earth.

2.) Male attention.

It all starts with that BFF, though. All.the.time.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Lot of good advice on this thread... And a lot of people have memories and experience that relate to your situation...

I used to have exactly the same, a feminine just-turned 21 y.o , who wanted to see the outside world ..

It didn't end nicely, for both of us.

and remember there's no such thing as having a "bubbly" personality for bubble's sake ...

Women feed off of attention, remember that, and good luck.
 
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I'm pretty much dead set on it ending, but at this point, I'm not going to break up with her. I enjoy the time I spend with her and don't want to drop her based on something that may not be trouble (the text). If her actions change drastically, then yea, I'll dump her. So far, so good though.

Thanks for the advice in this thread.
 
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She's 21 and wants to party. I'd start looking for other chicks if I were you. Young girls don't stay with guys that long because they get bored of them. They like their freedom to explore. She will get a lot of attention from other dudes when she is out. She might hook up with them. You wont be the wiser. I would say that you are on the bubble with her now. She wants to spend time partying with her friends. She is not spending her weekends with you. The bubble will pop soon. Ask to take her out on the weekends instead of her partying with her friends. Then see what reaction you get from her. Bet you anything she will choose her friends over you.
 
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Xenon said:
I'm pretty much dead set on it ending, but at this point, I'm not going to break up with her. I enjoy the time I spend with her and don't want to drop her based on something that may not be trouble (the text). If her actions change drastically, then yea, I'll dump her. So far, so good though.

Thanks for the advice in this thread.
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You have the right mindset. Just set your expectations low and hope she surprises you. If she fails, you can't say you weren't prepared.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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