Mr_Schlong
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Captain, thank you very much for your advice!
Captain, thank you very much for your advice!
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Girlfriend just hang up on me..
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Read the parts in bold. You did exactly the right thing. Keep it up.Mr_Schlong said:Last time when we talked on the phone, she just hang up. She wanted to meet me the other day, but I told her I was busy. Everything was fine two minutes before, but right when I told her I couldn't meet she just hang up. Without saying anything.
This is the second time within two weeks she does this. Last time she did it, she called the next day and made excuses. I stayed cool and told her that was unacceptable.
She doesn't seem to be great exclusive LTR material, you should date a few other women. That will make her appreciate your time more.
Dante420
Master Don Juan
Let her know you don't waste your time on the phone with that immaturity and disrespect and she's going to end up losing phoning privileges for awhile if she lets it happen again.
KontrollerX
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If you want to eliminate this problem for this relationship and any others you might have as well stop giving yourself headaches over women doing this do what Rollo Tomassi did for his current and only wife...
The story goes like this Rollo had a very disasterous relationship with some BPD slug who'd always hang up on him which he found to be very disrespectful and hurtful.
After that relationship ended he thought about how much that sort of behavior hurt for quite a while.
Then when he met a normal woman who would eventually become his wife they got into a little argument and she hung up on him.
Rollo remembering the pain of his last relationship and not wanting to perpetually relive and tolerate this particular level of disrespect let his soon to be wife know that if she ever hung up on him again they would be through and he made it clear he was deadly serious about this.
She never hung up on him again and they've had about 11 or 12 years of a succesful marriage to this date.
Now this doesn't mean if you do this you will necessarily have the same relationship success as Rollo but what it does mean is that if you stand up like a man you will always get what you want out of women.
That means when one woman makes it clear she is not going to behave towards you how you would like her to you don't whine at her, you don't try to control her, rather you let her know she has one chance only to change her behavior and if she doesn't you will control yourself and walk permaneantly out of her life.
Men who know their own value do not entertain long needless frustrating scenarios over one particular chick when there are millions out there who will give you what you want when your current woman turns into or reveals herself to be a lemon.
The story goes like this Rollo had a very disasterous relationship with some BPD slug who'd always hang up on him which he found to be very disrespectful and hurtful.
After that relationship ended he thought about how much that sort of behavior hurt for quite a while.
Then when he met a normal woman who would eventually become his wife they got into a little argument and she hung up on him.
Rollo remembering the pain of his last relationship and not wanting to perpetually relive and tolerate this particular level of disrespect let his soon to be wife know that if she ever hung up on him again they would be through and he made it clear he was deadly serious about this.
She never hung up on him again and they've had about 11 or 12 years of a succesful marriage to this date.
Now this doesn't mean if you do this you will necessarily have the same relationship success as Rollo but what it does mean is that if you stand up like a man you will always get what you want out of women.
That means when one woman makes it clear she is not going to behave towards you how you would like her to you don't whine at her, you don't try to control her, rather you let her know she has one chance only to change her behavior and if she doesn't you will control yourself and walk permaneantly out of her life.
Men who know their own value do not entertain long needless frustrating scenarios over one particular chick when there are millions out there who will give you what you want when your current woman turns into or reveals herself to be a lemon.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
"the manipulated man" by Esther Vilar
KontrollerX, I couldn't figure out how to PM you about "the manipulated man," but Vilar's polemic is a great subject for the discussion forum. I began yesterday morning and I’m now already moving on to Greene. Despite so many of my achievements that are in part accredited to this website, I still wondered why holes in my persona continued to exist and why certain pursuits always rendered inadequate.
We are slaves and victims, and we have every right to be free men. The most important messages that I received in the last 24 hours have removed a load of guilt. Time and further inquiry will set me free, and I feel the veil has just begun to lift.
I recommend this novel to many of you. It may clear some of the doubt in your lives. If anyone would like to discuss the novel, I'd like to hear earnest discourse or opinion. I'm sure by the time that I check replies, my awe will have settled and I won't be speaking in a capricious fervor.
KontrollerX, I couldn't figure out how to PM you about "the manipulated man," but Vilar's polemic is a great subject for the discussion forum. I began yesterday morning and I’m now already moving on to Greene. Despite so many of my achievements that are in part accredited to this website, I still wondered why holes in my persona continued to exist and why certain pursuits always rendered inadequate.
We are slaves and victims, and we have every right to be free men. The most important messages that I received in the last 24 hours have removed a load of guilt. Time and further inquiry will set me free, and I feel the veil has just begun to lift.
I recommend this novel to many of you. It may clear some of the doubt in your lives. If anyone would like to discuss the novel, I'd like to hear earnest discourse or opinion. I'm sure by the time that I check replies, my awe will have settled and I won't be speaking in a capricious fervor.