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Girlfriend is Sick... What to do?

foomee

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So I just started dating this girl and I'm trying not to see her very often, but we go to the same college and life literally a 30second walk from each other. But she's pretty sick, with a harsh cold and I was wondering if you guys had any suggestions? I'm thinking maybe cooking her some soup... or possibly just leaving her alone till she gets better. What'd be the wisest thing for a good boyfriend to do? I don't want to get sick though, so I'm not gonna go over there and sleep with her or anything.
 

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The soup idea sounds good.

Especially if its chicken noodle lmao.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Since you just started dating, just stop by to see how she's doing and ask if she needs anything. You may need to do it a couple of times over the course of her ailment.
 

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Women tend to go for the 'take care of me when I am sick' thing. I have seen two relationships end over a perceived failure to do so. But you are just dating, so soup is plenty.
 

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You bring her soup and she will fall in love with you! How could she not?!
 

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thanks for the advice. i brought her some soup and cough drops. worked like a charm. and we cuddled and talked for a little bit. no kissing tho. hope i don't get sick :p
 

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My girlfriend is currently ill and I got her medicine for her illness (I have also been dating her for over four months or so).

She ate it up and knows that I will take care of her if she gets ill again.

Plus, I take a really good friend of mine to cheer her up all the time. Just go cheer her up if you are just starting to date her.

comic_relief
 

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Soup is good idea. But that means that you come in contact with her and probably might catch her cold and end up passing it back and forth between you two.

Or you can try something unexpected, like taping a bag of hot chocolate or tea on her door with a nice note written on it. I'm sure she'd appreciate the gesture.
 

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Ugh..none of you guys can cook!

Fortunately for foomee I am a chef in training.

GINGER VEGIE CHICKEN SOUP

1/2 chicken cut in pieces (you can use chunks of chicken breast if its 2 much hassle)
1 chunk of fresh ginger peeled (about 4" long)
1 carrot cut into slices
1 celery stalk cut into slices
3 good fistfuls of raw spinach
5-6 branches of kale
1 cup of green soup noodles or wild rice
1/2 zucchini diced in chunks
1 potato cut into large chunks
1 onion diced
6 cloves garlic minced
1/2 red bell pepper diced
1 tomato (remove hearts with seeds)
Thyme, Rosemary and Paprika to taste
1 gallon water

Grab a big pot and line the bottom with olive oil, just enough to cover the area.

Flame on medium heat and toss in the chicken, garlic, onions, red pepper and carrots.

Simmer for a couple of minutes then add a little water and potato

Simmer for 5 min then add 4 cups more water with zucchini and tomato

Stir and raise heat till water comes to a boil, then reduce heat and add the rest of the water and ingredients.

Leave on medium/low flame for about an hour.

Salt to taste and maybe add some black pepper for kick. You can also squeeze some fresh lemon or lime for a little citrus flavor and vitamin C, just make sure to do it in the plate so vitamins are conserved.

This soup should last her a couiple of days and will definitely kick whatever she's got

Bon apetit!
 

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Come over to her house dressed like a doctor. Give her some dirty talk and say theres somthing in your pants that will make her feel better!!








Haha naw i'm just playn. Suprise her with some hot soup and a cold sprite!
 

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So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
Since you just started dating, just stop by to see how she's doing and ask if she needs anything. You may need to do it a couple of times over the course of her ailment.
Agreed. Forget the soup thing in the early stages of dating because you could come of inadvertently as someone who is trying too hard even if your intentions are good as result you being seen as a challenge might fly out the window with her interest.

Even though I might sound heartless (its a cold she will be fine) this clears out your schedule to go and date other girls in the meantime. If the shoe was on the other foot, she won't be saying no if another handsome guy asked her out- it beats staying at home and wait until you get better.
 

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If she is already your girl, there is no need to be that distant. It's good to have your space and maintain some mystery, but c'mon..she is sick!

If you swoop in and make her some banging soup, and THEN vanish for a few days, who do you think will be on her mind?

Play it smart
 

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DJDamage said:
Agreed. Forget the soup thing in the early stages of dating because you could come of inadvertently as someone who is trying too hard even if your intentions are good as result you being seen as a challenge might fly out the window with her interest...
A lot of guys still feel that they have to fix whatever is broken, I wonder whether if in this situation (just started dating) they feel that actually cooking something shows value. I wonder if they'd do it if she wasn't sick.
 
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