"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Girlfriend is insistent on buying me a Christmas present

El Payaso

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I got her a Christmas present this week because she will be out of state seeing family. Now she is insistent on buying me one even though I've told her I don't want one.

She asked for my house address but I insisted she doesn't. Now she's upset I won't let her buy a present for me. Lol. How can you get mad because I don't want a present. Women...
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Armourhead

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What do you do for hobbies or fun? Have her pay for something in regards to that.

Worst case scenario it'll save you money in the short term.
 

Julian

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sounds stupid (on your part)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Konada

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Go NC on this one, by letting her get you a present you are submitting your frame to her and serving your balls on a platter.

If you accept this, believe me while you're receiving gifts she's taking it in the a$$ from her milk man.
 

grayclif

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Go NC on this one, by letting her get you a present you are submitting your frame to her and serving your balls on a platter.

If you accept this, believe me while you're receiving gifts she's taking it in the a$$ from her milk man.
How you figure exactly, Konada?



3 months membership to your gym (A year if you go to planet fitness). Give her the address. Later when you dump her tell her your going to the gym.
 

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Why don't you want a Christmas present?
 

parkthebus

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I get you probably have a logical reason behind it. But you gotta let woman do woman things.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Guys wtf is wrong with you. If she wants to buy him a present then where's the problem? That later she might request a present aswell?
Don't buy her anything anymore then.

Let her do whatever she wants, you're always the winner in the end.
 

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Holy balls... some grade A bull**** in here.

Why are so many posters here salty and dimwitted?
 

El Payaso

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Why don't you want a Christmas present?
We never really grew up celebrating Christmas with presents and it's just something I've never done. I only got a present for her because she asked for one. I don't need anything and I just see it as a waste of time and money. No offense to those that celebrate Christmas like that.
 

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Go NC on this one, by letting her get you a present you are submitting your frame to her and serving your balls on a platter.

If you accept this, believe me while you're receiving gifts she's taking it in the a$$ from her milk man.

I second this notion :D you should next her immediately before she can damage your life .

Let her invest, its better this way since she will justify gifting you as a sence that you are worth it ( of course you are). If it bothers you, oh well.
 

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Doesn't matter if it's Christmas or the middle of July, she owes you one and is trying to pay you back. You should be thankful she is high enough quality to want to do that.

The only suspicious thing here is that you bought her a gift with no expectation of getting anything in return. Kind of sends a, "You're more important than me" vibe.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I see no problem with receiving gifts from a woman or giving one to a woman who has earned it. My thing is keep the two independent of each other. In other words if a woman buys me a gift that doesn't necessarily mean I buy her one. Or if I buy her one I don't expect one in return.
 

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I see no problem with receiving gifts from a woman or giving one to a woman who has earned it. My thing is keep the two independent of each other. In other words if a woman buys me a gift that doesn't necessarily mean I buy her one. Or if I buy her one I don't expect one in return.
The OP explained he got her a gift because,

I got her a Christmas present this week because she will be out of state seeing family
So sounds like she didn't do anything and it's a random Christmas gift. In which case why would he reject a gift in return? I don't get it
 

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So sounds like she didn't do anything and it's a random Christmas gift. In which case why would he reject a gift in return? I don't get it
Man brain doesn't like being given thing. It's a power play.
 

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Don Juan on Sosuave be like...

Lol I swear they always find a way to give the same generic answer.


Go NC on this one, by letting her get you a present you are submitting your frame to her and serving your balls on a platter.

If you accept this, believe me while you're receiving gifts she's taking it in the a$$ from her milk man.
 

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You could just make the issue disappear by accepting it but not commenting much on it. Which in turn is slightly rude so it's a good power play on your part.

Maybe she just was raised well and feels guilty for not reciprocating.

But you can also follow Sosuave posters' advice, dump her, stop masturbating and start meditating in a cave.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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