"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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onemorerobot

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Alright, she's pretty cool most of the time, but like tonight, she tells me that I was being really annoying last night. I barely said anything to her because she was in a ****ty mood. She tells me I should have tried a different approach, like asking her what the problem was. Thing is, I've tried that before and she always tells me nothing is wrong and to stop bothering her about it. How do I handle this? I try to stay cool and not overreact, not let her know she's pissing me off severely. She really does though.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Maybe you should tell her that she's a bad communicator, and to shape the fk up.
 

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Tell her the truth. She's obviously taking you for granted, which is why "she has the time" to think about silly sh1t like that. Tell her that she can't act like that.
 

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Well, I told her I wasn't going to apologize for something I didn't do. I told her that she makes me feel like ****. She says I shouldn't take it personally.
 

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When your girlfriend is being unreasonable or unpleasant, simply ask her to leave, or excuse yourself if you are at her house. Don't argue or fight, there's no point. Simply tell her that you find her behavior displeasing and withdraw your presence.

Do not get angry. Do not shout. She is an adult, let her communicate like one. Remain calm and dignified.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Brother, MOST girls will pull this **** if you let them.
It's just human nature. You cen't let it go on any longer or you'll reach "the point of no return". Avoid her and when she asks why just tell her that she's not been very fun to be around because of the moods. Or, if you catch her stepping on you like this just say you gotta go and you'll catch her later. She'll know what's up. And, if you're scared of her just saying "screw you" then you know she's not worth keeping anyway.
 

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mr_elor said:
Okay, that sounds like a typical answer from someone who's just read the bible (so fait play in that regard) but hasn't actually put it into much practise. Feel free to prove me wrong but I won't hold my breath (plus the fact that you joined VERY recently tells me I'm right)
Ha Ha kid, you think I have no experience w/ chicks because I recently joined the forum?!? I came to GIVE advice because they're are a lot of guys who need it and my heart goes out to them.
Son, I am one of the 'gifted' who does as he pleases w/ women. I'll "prove you wrong" by posting a pic of myself or any number of the girls I've dated.
I NEVER ask girls for their number because I have too many approaching me as is. Next time you wanna insult someone on the computer you should consider the possibility that you don't know sh*t from shinola.
You're obviously one of the boys that should be listening and not talking.
 

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mr_elor said:
You're right, I'm one of the 'boys' that should be listening, of course I never pretend otherwise and don't go around with this while 'gangsta' attitutde so prevalent on this forum.
Well, that took a lot of balls. I guess I get "defensive" because the internet is a frustrating place for me when it comes to chats. In real life I don't have to prove anything. No so easy on the internet.
You're cool in my book man.
I'll even give you reps (if I have any).
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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