Girlfriend is bad in bed

[seasonedplayer]

I am in the situation where my girlfriend is great in every way but she is bad in bed. She is simply not a very sexual girl - basic hand movements are a problem and she is doesn't like to go on top. Having sex with her is like having sex with a dead person

We have been going out for almost a year - everything is great and we are in to each other

Anyone else been in this situation? Is it entirely up to me to teach her or are some girls inclined to be bad in bed?

 

[Kumar]

I am in the situation where my girlfriend is great in every way but she is bad in bed. She is simply not a very sexual girl - basic hand movements are a problem and she is doesn't like to go on top. Having sex with her is like having sex with a dead person

We have been going out for almost a year - everything is great and we are in to each other

Anyone else been in this situation? Is it entirely up to me to teach her or are some girls inclined to be bad in bed?

Man, your girl sounds like she has self-esteem issues, maybe was sexually molested. The same happened to me with an ex and the way I got her to become more sexual was by being really patient in bed.

Role play, talk dirty to her and paint a whole picture in her mind with your words, then encourage her to let go.

Takes time, but the payoff maybe great.

K

 

[seasonedplayer]

I tried that at first and she just saw that as pressure. Anyone else had girls like this?

 

[crumpiteer]

I am in the situation where my girlfriend is great in every way but she is bad in bed. She is simply not a very sexual girl - basic hand movements are a problem and she is doesn't like to go on top. Having sex with her is like having sex with a dead person

We have been going out for almost a year - everything is great and we are in to each other.

Anyone else been in this situation? Is it entirely up to me to teach her or are some girls inclined to be bad in bed?

when not having sex, do stuff with her that allows her body to interact positively with yours...sign up for a dancing class with her, & play twister, couple yoga, etc...

 

[rock-star_brian]

I agree with crumpiteer....you definitely have to create that body chemistry when you are not in bed together. Dancing lessons is an excellent option. Or when out at a club or lounge definitely get some close dancing going on.

Question: does she have a problem with PDA?

 

[Tomatoes]

Are you not turning her on? If shes not reacting in bed then that could be the case. It also wouldnt be you if she is not highly sexually active. I had a girl like this once.....She was crap in bed. You just have to explore. There has to be something that makes her horny....she cant just be sexually dead.

The only issue you are going to have with the above is the pressure issue....If she is feeling pressured she could be hiding something....like being sexually abused or something.

 

[Fash]

You can also get her to watch porn with you. Some women find them selves being extremely turned on by porn and you never know, she might actually learn a thing or two.

Just one word of advice, DO NOT go for the hardcore fetish weird kinda porn, go for somethine between soft & hard and make sure there is some sort of storyline involved. Women love the buildup! I personally enjoy the parts when the women get glazed like krispy kreme doughnuts.

 

[Skilla_Staz]

For one night, make it all about pleasin' her. Simple as that. Just one night. It'll get her to relax next time shes with you. She'll have all that stuff you did to her last time running through her head.

Fash. Signature. Love that song.

 

[crumpiteer]

You can also get her to watch porn with you. Some women find them selves being extremely turned on by porn and you never know, she might actually learn a thing or two.

Just one word of advice, DO NOT go for the hardcore fetish weird kinda porn, go for somethine between soft & hard and make sure there is some sort of storyline involved. Women love the buildup! I personally enjoy the parts when the women get glazed like krispy kreme doughnuts.

if she already feels pressured when you tried to coax her, watching porn may cause her to feel even more insecure about herself & how she performs...

if she really had a bad sexual experience before, digging her past will increase the trauma (this should be left to professional counsellors).

It's still better to make her body feel comfortable with yours by doing non-sexual exercises/games as i mentioned previously...Salsa, tango, or swing dance lessons offer a reason to hold each other close, without the sexual stigma...once she masters some good dancing movements with you and appears ready, you can improvise them in the lovemaking room...