Girlfriend having trouble orgazming

[Ll Principe]

Hello all...

Last night my girlfriend and I had just gotten back from a movie and were both looking forward to bed time .. she than pleasured me and afterward i proceeded to finger her.. she cudnt orgazm.. i tried both hands, did it the same way i always do, kissed her etc to even get her more horny.. etc etc.. than... on fri nite aswell she cudnt orgazm..I have been with her for over a year now and..

The last time this happened was over a year ago when she said she had a mental block cos she and her boyfriend ( x ) had just ended so i understood... so for the last year she been loving being fingered etc and orgazming easily etc

all of a sudden the last 2 times ive tried, not working. I asked her what the issue is, if she is stressed or thinking of something or not keen or what etc etc... she said "i dont kno wat it is." --- what am i ment to make of this?

 

[horaholic]

Use your tongue, or your penis, dude.

 

[Ll Principe]

She for the last year we been together (except) the first month she has enjoyed the fingering and all of a sudden the last 2 times i have done it , it never worked... what could be the problem though?

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

she's feeling stress. let her know you will be patient, and will be happy to oblige her as long as it takes. whisper soothing, relaxing words to her as you finger her. keep reminding her to relax and enjoy the feeling and to take her time.

breath deeply and slowly with her, help her to focus in the present moment without thinking the future or the past. Only here, now.

No rush, only pleasure.

 

[darkstarrr]

she's feeling stress. let her know you will be patient, and will be happy to oblige her as long as it takes. whisper soothing, relaxing words to her as you finger her. keep reminding her to relax and enjoy the feeling and to take her time.

breath deeply and slowly with her, help her to focus in the present moment without thinking the future or the past. Only here, now.

No rush, only pleasure.

good info. yes, when there have been time constraints (like when one of my plates came (not literally) over to my place and was in a rush and said ok i only have 15 minutes lets get this over with) it took me extra long and also her extra long because of the time thing.

tease her all day even remotely but not overboard. flirt with her. massage her legs where they meet the hip. do everything you normally do but in slow motion and see where it gets her. also might want to teach her to clench her septum or whatever its called. that usually gets all their muscles clenching down there and helps them have orgasmic contractions. once you master the process you can really start having some serious fun (post 7 mentioning "plugs"). haha have fun.

good luck!

 

[sodbuster]

A possibility not mentioned so far-she's going to get rid of you and is starting the emotional separation. She isn't into sex? One of the first signs of a breakup.

 

[Warrior74]

maybe you should not do it the same way you've always done, and try something different

 

[darkstarrr]

A possibility not mentioned so far-she's going to get rid of you and is starting the emotional separation. She isn't into sex? One of the first signs of a breakup.

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