ezily
Senior Don Juan
yeah don't worry about it. She's not nailing him so just let it go. These guys in the FZ don't really have a chance of getting out. I mean does anyone know someone who has gotten out of the deep FZ?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Here is how it goes..BustedKnucks said:I've found that girls will **** their friends (even ugly ones) to make you jealous during rough patches and brief break ups.
It happens. If it's gonna hurt your feelings, don't date a girl with close guy friends.
well if the girl is like that then forget about her and break up now. If she really is only friends with a guy then I don't see why there is any reason for concern. You can't expect her to give up her friends for you. I mean none of us would give up our friends for some girl (or at least we shouldn't).BustedKnucks said:I've found that girls will **** their friends (even ugly ones) to make you jealous during rough patches and brief break ups.
It happens. If it's gonna hurt your feelings, don't date a girl with close guy friends.
You shouldn't be friends with a women that your not fawking.ezily said:You can't expect her to give up her friends for you. I mean none of us would give up our friends for some girl (or at least we shouldn't).
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Why shouldn't someone be friends with a woman they're not fawking?MacAvoy said:You shouldn't be friends with a women that your not fawking.
But did she say that I love you and respect you so I won't be his friend anymore.jadeona13 said:again, me and my GF talked about this issue..
she finally said...
"I like him, but I love you. I only want to be with you. I am not attracted to him at all (he is ugly), i just really like his personality. But i only want to be with u''
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
What is worse about this situation compared to most with having male friends is that she's already slept with him multiple times.jadeona13 said:once again..i just fond out they slept in the same bed together a month be4 we started going out =\\
actually, IDK..this guy is ugly..but has an awesome personality..my gf even said so...he bags chicks alll the timeMacAvoy said:What is worse about this situation compared to most with having male friends is that she's already slept with him multiple times.
I can honestly say I've had 5-10 women "friends" who had b/f's and I've been the the "platonic friend" however I was really nailing her when buddy' wasn't around.
But I bet that your g/f's male friend's aren't as DJ as me, so your ok, don't worry about it.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
SHE'S AN ATTENTION HORjadeona13 said:They started going out the summer before my gf met me. They went out for 3 days, she broke up with him and then a month later for a week, but then she broke up with him again. She treated him like pure sh!t, no respect at all.
She goes to see a friend, then ends up with him? I think notjadeona13 said:Then my gf met me. We hit it off well. However, she still hangs out with this guy, alot. He was first her brothers friend, but they became friends and went out. So he goes to her (mf gf's house) everyday. Mostly to meet u with my gf's boyfriend, but they always end up hangin out together.
You say he's your friend and he wouldn't do anything, how do you know? If she play hits him (if there is such a thing) THATS CALLED FLIRTING, SHE LIKES HIM NOT YOU. Why can't you make her smile when she's mad? WTF?jadeona13 said:This guy is also my really good friend. A really good friend. I'm pretty sure he wouldnt do anything. He was LJBF'd. However, they tell each other everything, have so many inside jokes, and she play hits him all the time. He always makes her smile too, even when shes mad..something i cannot even do.
It's good you stood up for yourself here, but if she's hitting him playfully, taking walks and visting him then there's soething going wrong....jadeona13 said:Now a couple of time i told my gf i dont like that idea of them hanging out, etc. But until recently, we had a HUGE fight. My GF got mad at me and walked around the block with this guy, and even flirted with him in front of me and looked at me with dirty looks. I felt like pure sh!t.
You need to be through, how much more evidence do you need?jadeona13 said:I told my GF she disrespects me too much and if she continues it, we are through. She repeatedly said, "he is my very good friend and we were not flirting thats just how we are whether u like it or not''?
SOMEBODY on this board has some sense3countriesPlan said:fvck this b1tch--- just downgrade her to fvckbuddy and go out and start prospecting for others. emotional check out at the love hotel..
That's It!!!!jadeona13 said:ok..so me and my girlfriend talked about it and she said she would stop...
wow, what a lie
the other day we were all hanging out (me,my gf, the guy and a couple of my cousins)..my GF and the guy when a few feet away from us and were chatting for 20 mins straight..lauhging, giggling, play hitting..
then we all get in the car and me, the guy and my gf are in the backseat. The guy is in between both of us and my gf and him are flirting, touching, singing.. and whenever i said something..my gf would have a 'y r u talkin to me' expression on her face...i even asked her a question and she was like .''idk wtf r u asking me''
then the guy left, she went inside and went to sleep..all without saying a word to me
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.