Girlfriend Grinding Other Guys

[voidrunner]

How do you all feel about this situation?

I've got a girlfriend of about 4 months who I am in a very pleasant, trusting relationship with. She is going on a vacation to japan for about 2 weeks with her older sister and her friend, both 18, and while theya re there they are doing a lot of clubbing.

Do you think it is extremely inappropriate for my girlfriend to be grinding with other men/guys at these clubs? Keep in mind she is out with her sister and her friend in a foreign country on vacation, with booze readily available as well.

I've tried not to get too bent out of shape about it, because we're both young, and it doesn't really mean all that much. Additionally I don't wanna be a killjoy and tell her she can only dance alone or with her sister..

Thoughts?

 

[doctorj]

while she's out there grinding with other guys, why not enjoy yourself and do the same by going to bars and acting single

 

[BongDuy]

i was always really afraid of girls grinding on me when i was younger ( like middle school) because they mostly had boyfriends and i didnt want trouble. some people say its not a big deal, but some guys will totally flip out and start a fight over it.

 

[PeeGee]

She's in another country. She likes to have fun. She sounds like a fun girl.

Guys tend to have this expectation that women should be *****s in bed, but they have to be 'their' *****. Such an expectation is unrealistic and you will just piss off your girlfriend when you try to control her.

 

[voidrunner]

She's in another country. She likes to have fun. She sounds like a fun girl.

Guys tend to have this expectation that women should be *****s in bed, but they have to be 'their' *****. Such an expectation is unrealistic and you will just piss off your girlfriend when you try to control her.

So anotherwords a little grinding when she's out doin it up in the clubs isn't too much to worry about as long as it goes no further?

It's just that sometimes grinding can get pretty intense, and that would sketch me out a little.

 

[fertileTurtle]

Since you're only in high school, my response to her would be that you're going to do the same thing that she is doing. When you get a little older, relationships should be based more on trust and loyalty, but right now you are just kids having fun, so it's ok if she's not trying to disrespect you. Don't let her do that of course.

 

[voidrunner]

but right now you are just kids having fun, so it's ok if she's not trying to disrespect you. Don't let her do that of course.

No, I don't feel like it's a disrespect thing, because I just told her to have fun and that dancing and **** with guys was fine. In a perfect world to me, that just wouldn't be the type of dancing that's the norm, and it wouldn't be an issue at all, but whatever.

 

[curious]

It's up to you man. If you don't care that your girls grindin on other guys and you dont think she will go farther than that (or don't care if she takes it farther than that, which is not highly unlikely) then let her do whatever she wants. Don't be exclusive with her if it's gonna be like that though, and at the same time dont lie to her. There are plenty of girls out there don't get hung up on one.

 

[eaglez1177]

1. Dont try to control her and tell her what she can or cant do while shes away, cuz regardless of what you say, shes going to do what she wants.

2. There is definitely a chance that she will hook up with someone there. Just giving you a heads up. If your gf is the fun and exciting girl that she sounds like, and if shes good lookin, theres a VERY good chance that she have an opportunity to go further than grinding. Whether she seizes the opportunity or stays loyal to you will ALWAYS be a mystery, cuz she will NEVER admit that she went further than grinding.

I know your probably feel uncomfortable about this situation, and I would too, but theres really nothing you can do. Just tell her to have fun, and make sure you give her a kiss goodbye that she wont forget.

 

[Analyzeit]

Haha she'll do what she wants, you can't do anything and you'll never know. But really everything over once she gets back.. Just nothing you can do.

But yeah i do think grinding on other guys is innapropriate to do. I mean lets be honest here guys, Do you really think girls go to clubs and grind on guys so they can make friends and have some light interesting conversation afterwards?? uuuh no and is a girl going to come grind on you just to be friends?? uuuh no Does she think the guy she's grinding against going to think that she's doing this for fun, nothing sexual intended?? uuuh no. Ok so fact is you don't go grind against a guy if you don't wanna have sex with them but maybe it just won't led to something. Don't be naive guys.

But other then that listen to fertileturtle

 

[Cassanova_Child]

Haha she'll do what she wants, you can't do anything and you'll never know. But really everything over once she gets back.. Just nothing you can do.

But yeah i do think grinding on other guys is innapropriate to do. I mean lets be honest here guys, Do you really think girls go to clubs and grind on guys so they can make friends and have some light interesting conversation afterwards?? uuuh no and is a girl going to come grind on you just to be friends?? uuuh no Does she think the guy she's grinding against going to think that she's doing this for fun, nothing sexual intended?? uuuh no. Ok so fact is you don't go grind against a guy if you don't wanna have sex with them but maybe it just won't led to something. Don't be naive guys.

But other then that listen to fertileturtle

this my friend, is the sad truth.
but I don't really see why its a problem, while she's out having fun, you go out and have fun as well. Then, if she escalated and ****ed some guy, you break up with her and have other options available. If she didn't, you two are fine.

quite simple really.

 

[eaglez1177]

this my friend, is the sad truth.
but I don't really see why its a problem, while she's out having fun, you go out and have fun as well. Then, if she escalated and ****ed some guy, you break up with her and have other options available. If she didn't, you two are fine.

quite simple really.

But you're NEVER going to know. Its just a matter of trust and believing what she says. No gf would ever tell their bf that they f*cked some guy on vacation. Obviously they're just going to say some bs like "ohh I danced a little but didnt do anything with anyone".

Your never going to know the real truth.

 

[Cassanova_Child]

which is why he should go out, have his fun, and not worry about it. who really cares if she ****ed some guy? he can **** some girl.

Unless he's highly moral or something, and won't be able to live with himself if he cheats just because he thinks she might be cheating....

how serious is this 4 month relationship to you? are you to exclusive? if not, then you shouldn't even be posting here, lol.

 

[Korupt]

Get a temp girlfriend.