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Title says it all... Late at night when my girlfriend got home from a frat party she drunk dialed me and said she thinks she made out with someone at the party. She said it was her girl friend. The morning after, she didn't remember calling me the night before and called me and told me again that she thinks she made out with someone, but this time she said it was a guy and also her girl friend while she was drunk. She drinks but isn't the type to get smashed, though I suppose it happens every once in a while. Anyway, she called and told me, because she is an honest one. She was very sorry and was pretty much prepared to get dumped. I told her I'm most likely going to break up with her, but would like to think about it because I always want to be 100% sure of my decisions so I won't regret them later.
Some details about the incident:
The guy she made out with is someone I know. He is in a frat that she is a little sis for at our school. I got the story from both him and her. He said he was drunk, and she showed up at the party. She had 7-9 shots (she can't really remember). They danced together for about 10 seconds and stopped because it felt awkward. Then the two of them went to the back wherever that is and made out for I don't know how long. They said they don't remember who came on to who but the guy says he thinks he may have. He has sincerely apologized and said they agreed to stay away from each other in parties.
The situation right now is that I gave her another chance. I met her after I thought about things and told her though it's hard, that I'll try to move past this. I was at first going to break up with her, and maybe try give it another shot later in the future if possible, but it was the fact that this was a drunk mistake. I mean, I can definitely recall moments that I made drunk mistakes that I regretted later sober, and have seen the same in many others. So I empathized and was hoping that she would learn from this event and hopefully never make the same mistake again, otherwise that time I'm not forgiving it. My line of thinking was that a breakup is necessary if we needed time apart to grow and fix something, but a drunk mistake didn't really seem like something you can get rid or grow from by spending time apart. It has now been 3 days and everything has been good. Better than before, actually, because our relationship has recently been suffering from the spark dying down, and me telling her my decision plus a long overdue date has boosted our status a little.
However, it keeps popping into my head, the image of them making out and loving every second of it. Since I wasn't there, I can only imagine what it was like. It's pretty vivid too, and bothers me a lot. Behind my smile, I am so disappointed and angry with her: I want her to feel what I feel, but I know that she already is sorry, and that she can't do anything to reverse her mistake. I also know that doing something like that won't solve any problems and that I'd regret whatever I do to her later. I can't handle the topic of drinking or parties with her because it makes me recall this incident, and I am becoming more insecure about her.
My question is basically if you guys think my approach is okay or if you think it's a mistake that I didn't breakup with her, and what you guys would advise further. Do you think with time it will fade away, this painful memory and insecurity, or is it something I will have to fight always? Thanks.
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Title says it all... Late at night when my girlfriend got home from a frat party she drunk dialed me and said she thinks she made out with someone at the party. She said it was her girl friend. The morning after, she didn't remember calling me the night before and called me and told me again that she thinks she made out with someone, but this time she said it was a guy and also her girl friend while she was drunk. She drinks but isn't the type to get smashed, though I suppose it happens every once in a while. Anyway, she called and told me, because she is an honest one. She was very sorry and was pretty much prepared to get dumped. I told her I'm most likely going to break up with her, but would like to think about it because I always want to be 100% sure of my decisions so I won't regret them later.
Some details about the incident:
The guy she made out with is someone I know. He is in a frat that she is a little sis for at our school. I got the story from both him and her. He said he was drunk, and she showed up at the party. She had 7-9 shots (she can't really remember). They danced together for about 10 seconds and stopped because it felt awkward. Then the two of them went to the back wherever that is and made out for I don't know how long. They said they don't remember who came on to who but the guy says he thinks he may have. He has sincerely apologized and said they agreed to stay away from each other in parties.
The situation right now is that I gave her another chance. I met her after I thought about things and told her though it's hard, that I'll try to move past this. I was at first going to break up with her, and maybe try give it another shot later in the future if possible, but it was the fact that this was a drunk mistake. I mean, I can definitely recall moments that I made drunk mistakes that I regretted later sober, and have seen the same in many others. So I empathized and was hoping that she would learn from this event and hopefully never make the same mistake again, otherwise that time I'm not forgiving it. My line of thinking was that a breakup is necessary if we needed time apart to grow and fix something, but a drunk mistake didn't really seem like something you can get rid or grow from by spending time apart. It has now been 3 days and everything has been good. Better than before, actually, because our relationship has recently been suffering from the spark dying down, and me telling her my decision plus a long overdue date has boosted our status a little.
However, it keeps popping into my head, the image of them making out and loving every second of it. Since I wasn't there, I can only imagine what it was like. It's pretty vivid too, and bothers me a lot. Behind my smile, I am so disappointed and angry with her: I want her to feel what I feel, but I know that she already is sorry, and that she can't do anything to reverse her mistake. I also know that doing something like that won't solve any problems and that I'd regret whatever I do to her later. I can't handle the topic of drinking or parties with her because it makes me recall this incident, and I am becoming more insecure about her.
My question is basically if you guys think my approach is okay or if you think it's a mistake that I didn't breakup with her, and what you guys would advise further. Do you think with time it will fade away, this painful memory and insecurity, or is it something I will have to fight always? Thanks.