Girlfriend cut her hair, how do I punish her?

[Atom Smasher]

I'm a quite surprised at some of the replies too.

How short is it now that it's been cut? Is it only short relative to its former length, or is it short by every standard?

Because of the newness of the relationship, I would probably stop short of pushing meetups till later, but I would absolutely indicate that I don't like it (if I didn't like it). I might ask her why she asked my opinion about her hair if she was going to cut it anyway.

You're going to have to see if she has other qualities that eclipse this test. She may have been thinking about it for quite some time, before meeting you, and she may feel that it's too early in the relationship to acquiesce to your wishes about it. There hasn't been enough of an investment yet.

So if it were me, if I didn't like it I would tell her that I wasn't crazy about it, while looking away in the distance, as if I didn't really want to look at it. Don't play it up big, just voice your displeasure (again, only if you don't like it) and while moving forward evaluate her further to determine if she develops a submissive or rebellious spirit with you.

If this was a long-term relationship and my woman cut her hair short, I would punish her very severely as I would view it as direct defiance. My girl would never do that, but as I always preach to the guys here, I've already covered that in conversation, in a subtle way. She readily agrees and loves the fact that I set parameters. But that's not the case with you guys. I'm thinking it has been on her mind for quite some time and it's just too early for her to accommodate your wishes.

So subtle disapproval is your best bet in my opinion, and I personally would also ask why she asked my opinion if she was going to cut it anyway. Putting women on the spot is very important in terms of being a dominant man (which is what healthy women want).

This should all be done in a non-chalant way, not an angry, direct way. A little subtle, quiet conveyed disappointment is a nuclear weapon with women, while direct confrontation is a boomerang that will only swing back and hit you in the head. Never discuss things like this... quiet disapproval or disappointment will move mountains.

She sees you as responding, not reacting, with self-control. This tends to make women crave your approval.

Nutshell: Convey disappointment if you don't like it but give her and the relationship a chance. You hold all the cards.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Depends. If it's half an inch or just getting rid of split ends, hey you shouldn't flip. But if it is the feminist dyke haircut, ABORT MISSION ABORT MISSION ABORT MISSION.

 

[zekko]

This isn't advice, just throwing this out there:
If you are wanting to give her some grief over it, you could act disappointed and say something like "Oh no, you cut off your beautiful long hair".

Then if you really want to punish her, from that point out you could occasionally see another woman with long hair and say things like "Wow, doesn't she have pretty hair?".

 

[wifehunter]

Buy her a wig?

 

[Desdinova]

Don't even acknowledge that she cut her hair. It makes her wonder why you haven't mentioned anything. When she finally does push for a comment, just say "Yeah, I noticed". If she asked what you think, just say "It's fine".

Don't make a big deal out of it. If you hate what she's done to it, then just dump her.

 

[zekko]

Buy her a wig?

Or some extensions

 

[Slash Dolo]

Dude, it's f*cking hair. My exes liked my hair long and I cut it because it was f*cking annoying. If she wants to cut her hair and you don't like it either leave or deal with it. Being a little butthurt baby about it will make her drop you first. Stop overthinking it.

 

[penkitten]

If a haircut upsets you so much that you are sitting around trying to figure out a way to punish someone you just met 2 months ago, then she's not the one for you. Too much energy spent thinking of ways to make negative waves.

 

[zekko]

I don't think women in general understand how guys feel about long hair on females. I notice this not only here, but in most places whenever this subject comes up.

 

[Atom Smasher]

I agree with you 100% Zekko. This is an example of what I call "lost knowledge"... Knowledge that was self-evident 50 years ago and back but is now a casualty of feminism and our sickly, unnatural and contrived society. I will add that a percentage of feminised men don't get it either.

A woman's hair is the fundamental manifestation of her femininity. Short hair is an undeniable and very direct statement about her values and her femininity. Its one thing I cover very early in a relationship. I usually tell her that when shopping online on a dating site, I immediately NEXT women with short hair, and her reasonably long hair was one reason I chose her. After that compliment I mention that hair is very important to me and if she cut it I would lose interest immediately and wouldn't look back.

At that point they profusely reassure me that they will never cut it short and they also go on and on about how they love the fact that I'm direct with them and they know where they stand. And they simply love the fact that I value their hair. The women I date want to please me.

If any women are reading this, perhaps lurkers, know that to most men, cutting your hair short is alarming and akin to a slap in the face. It's an insult and looked at as extreme defiance.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

Is it? LOL... If you say so.
So long as there is enough to grab when I am f**king I don't care that much. Maybe, just maybe, she cut it because she thinks it makes her cuter, and you will find her more attractive...and it might.

Maybe it is a **** test, she is testing whether you are a macho overly sensitive domineering douchebag or adult enough to realise it is just a f**king haircut.

Had you expressly forbidden her to get a short hair cut and told her the consequences. "you have such beatiful hair. It's very sexy. I wouldn't be nearly as attracted to you if it was short." If you didn't then you haven't got the right to ***** about it. Besides 2 months! You aren't exactly married.


If you don't like it, say you preferred her with long hair. Conversation over.

 

[oOh Nasty]

Dude, it's f*cking hair. My exes liked my hair long and I cut it because it was f*cking annoying. If she wants to cut her hair and you don't like it either leave or deal with it. Being a little butthurt baby about it will make her drop you first. Stop overthinking it.

I think it's more of the fact that he openly expressed his preference for longer hair. She even responded to it:

She once asked what I'd think if she cut it and I joked that the next date after that would be when it grew back.

Whether it was in a joking tone or not, he made a good implication that cutting her hair would be going against his wishes.

Sh*t test much?

Forget about the content. It's the fact that he stated what he wanted and what he expected, and despite understanding and knowing those particular wants, she still had the nerve to do the exact opposite. Whether it was a sh*t test or not, this shows that it's very possible that she's not that afraid of losing him, or she just doesn't take him seriously enough.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

I mean if you think it was deliberate provocation or a **** test then say that you liked long hair and withdraw affection for a while. At 2 months of dating though there is a risk she will just think you are being a bit controlling and bail.