"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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adler321

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Hello there.

I have been dating this girl for 3 months now. Everything is great.
I just moved in with her, I know maybe too early, but what the hell.
Yesterday when I came home, I saw she was still logged into her email.
So I decided to snoop around a little bit... Well in the Sent folder I found
that she replied to Craigslist ad, in the Adult Gigs category. Title: Are you a good kisser?\
The posting read smth like this:
I am a 28 year old guy looking for someone to practice kissing with.
No sex, just kissing, since I am not good at it I feel.
I will compensate you for your time.
Her response was:
send a pic

Now, I don't know about you, but i was furious. I confronted her about this and she said it was just a joke. That she would not be interested in a "freak"
from the internet, and she only sent that message to see if he looked weird or smth.
Part of me wants to trust her and believe her, part says NO WAY! Bull$iit!
I mean why do you go to those postings anyway and why do you reply!?
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DJs what do you think?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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yama600rr

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haha that's some funny ****, " practice kissing"???? wtf???? how old are you guy? hhahahahahahahahahahahah
 

KontrollerX

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The answer to this question is within you.

Your gut instinct never lies.

You read this message and of course you want to trust your girl but it seems to me the stronger part of you knows that you cannot or else you wouldn't of posted here.

This disturbed you enough to seek our council as well that other part of you which you spoke of knows that this is bullsh!t.
 

Bunk 040

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You tripping brah. Yeah she probably is a slut but hell most of em are. Just no you cant trust her really and leave it at that. Start talking to other women, as friends though, don't just put your all into one girl unless you're married.
 

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WTF is this serious? I don't know which is worse.. her responding to a kissing ad, or you STILL dating someone that responded to a kissing ad
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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you moved in with a girl you have only been dating for 3 months?

Ouch
 

backbreaker

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damn.. I didn't even bother to read that far.

dude....just start over.
 

sav

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so it was ur girl that responded to my ad?

LOL!
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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adler321 said:
Hello there.

I have been dating this girl for 3 months now. Everything is great.
I just moved in with her, I know maybe too early, but what the hell.
Yesterday when I came home, I saw she was still logged into her email.
So I decided to snoop around a little bit... Well in the Sent folder I found
that she replied to Craigslist ad, in the Adult Gigs category. Title: Are you a good kisser?\
The posting read smth like this:
I am a 28 year old guy looking for someone to practice kissing with.
No sex, just kissing, since I am not good at it I feel.
I will compensate you for your time.
Her response was:
send a pic

Now, I don't know about you, but i was furious. I confronted her about this and she said it was just a joke. That she would not be interested in a "freak"
from the internet, and she only sent that message to see if he looked weird or smth.
Part of me wants to trust her and believe her, part says NO WAY! Bull$iit!
I mean why do you go to those postings anyway and why do you reply!?
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DJs what do you think?
[Deleted] nevermind...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Bible_Belt

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You should not have been snooping in her email. And even after you did, you should have not confronted her. If she was just joking with the guy or had no real intentions, then it will backfire. You'll get 'you don't trust me' pretty soon if you have not yet. Jealousy and possessiveness are not productive. I see a lot of guys on SS snooping through phones and email. I have been there and done that, and it's pointless.

If you want to know if your girl is cheating, here's the only way I've ever known: the sex goes downhill. You will start hardly ever having sex, and when you do, she'll be just going through the motions like a bored prostitute.
 

sav

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Bible_Belt said:
You should not have been snooping in her email. And even after you did, you should have not confronted her. If she was just joking with the guy or had no real intentions, then it will backfire. You'll get 'you don't trust me' pretty soon if you have not yet. Jealousy and possessiveness are not productive. I see a lot of guys on SS snooping through phones and email. I have been there and done that, and it's pointless.

If you want to know if your girl is cheating, here's the only way I've ever known: the sex goes downhill. You will start hardly ever having sex, and when you do, she'll be just going through the motions like a bored prostitute.
the *******s will stop before the sex...
 

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Bible_Belt said:
You should not have been snooping in her email. And even after you did, you should have not confronted her. If she was just joking with the guy or had no real intentions, then it will backfire. You'll get 'you don't trust me' pretty soon if you have not yet. Jealousy and possessiveness are not productive. I see a lot of guys on SS snooping through phones and email. I have been there and done that, and it's pointless.

If you want to know if your girl is cheating, here's the only way I've ever known: the sex goes downhill. You will start hardly ever having sex, and when you do, she'll be just going through the motions like a bored prostitute.
:yes:
 

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Yeah, what you guys say is true. Sex has gone downhill last month,
she didn't spend enough time with me, was not very cordial.
I put my foot down and walked out, she ran after me, things changed for a little while. We started having sex again. Now I find this in her email, and maybe I am insecure, but I think this is a deal breaker.
I mean why would you even look at $hit like that online, unless you wanted to see what else is out there? And she never told me that she liked making fun of people's ads. Normally she tells me everything, but not this.
So, I think am on my way to finally break it off.
I am 9 years older than her, she just turned 21. What more can I say?
Maybe it was not meant to be?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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sav

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adler321 said:
Yeah, what you guys say is true. Sex has gone downhill last month,
she didn't spend enough time with me, was not very cordial.
I put my foot down and walked out, she ran after me, things changed for a little while. We started having sex again. Now I find this in her email, and maybe I am insecure, but I think this is a deal breaker.
I mean why would you even look at $hit like that online, unless you wanted to see what else is out there? And she never told me that she liked making fun of people's ads. Normally she tells me everything, but not this.
So, I think am on my way to finally break it off.
I am 9 years older than her, she just turned 21. What more can I say?
Maybe it was not meant to be?

i just got back from our date... and she kinda sucks at kissing... but she gave me a good handjob...
 

j0n024

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sav said:
i just got back from our date... and she kinda sucks at kissing... but she gave me a good handjob...

HAHA I love how a lot of people are so immature...I mean this is a DJ forum and people are still immature hahaha even worse is this guy is asking for help and you make fun of him wow.
On topic though I say leave her you still got your whole life and you are asking DJ's what to do! I mean your here you already know how to talk to women just find a new one or two or three. Hell she doesnt give you sex anymore then why waste your time? She's probably trying to use you for money im sorry to say that but it might be true, just take your time start gaming on women again and if you find someone new then hey go for it other wise the "Paranoia" will start to eat you alive but hey do what you want good luck though.
 

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If she's lost your trust, it's going to be hard for her to get it back.

About 2 years ago, I had a gut feeling that my girlfriend (of about a month) had gone to a party and was kissing some other guy. Turns out I WAS RIGHT. I broke up with her the night after it actually happened (my gut instinct was that good). Then, a few days later, I found out that not only did she kiss him, but he laid the pork sword to her that night. I was a complete mess for weeks after I found out about it.

LOL. I'm not saying this happened to you, I'm just saying, go with what your gut tells you.
 

sav

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j0n024 said:
HAHA I love how a lot of people are so immature...I mean this is a DJ forum and people are still immature hahaha even worse is this guy is asking for help and you make fun of him wow.
On topic though I say leave her you still got your whole life and you are asking DJ's what to do! I mean your here you already know how to talk to women just find a new one or two or three. Hell she doesnt give you sex anymore then why waste your time? She's probably trying to use you for money im sorry to say that but it might be true, just take your time start gaming on women again and if you find someone new then hey go for it other wise the "Paranoia" will start to eat you alive but hey do what you want good luck though.
im sorry, i just had to... :p
 
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What would you expect from a hor who lives with a guy who is not her husband!! This is par for the course!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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