"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Girlfriend calling too much?

TheOneForce

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Okay i usually talk to my past girlfriends at least once a day. But my current girlfriend calls me about 4-6 times a day. I don't think it would be so bad, but she calls just to "Talk" and she tries to stay on the phone for more than a hour. Maybe thats why theres alot of silence on the phone because i really can't talk for that long if there is nothing to talk about. So what do yall think , is she calling to much ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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4-6 times a day!!!

Nah... thats not a lot, its just when you eat breakfast youll talk to her, when you eat brunch youll talk to her, when you eat lunch youll talk to her, and when you eat dinner youll talk to her!

Unless your a pyschiatrist of some sort... stop talking to her so much... david d. suggests in his emails to call your girlfriend twice a week... or else youll get really boring really fast!
 

Yagrash

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Even if I was long-distance with a girl I wanted to stay together with, I wouldn't talk to her 4-6 times per week. And we're not talking about an hour, we're talking 5-15 minutes.

I personally wonder how you guys have that much to talk about. If you live in the same area code as your girlfriend, your conversations should all be less than 5 minutes long, and you should be having a lot more physical time.
 

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Man.... 4-6 times a DAY! That is a lot...

Just tell her that you're in the middle of something, that you'll call her back in a while (like a couple of hours...) and do something different than talk on the phone: get together....
Talking this much can REALLY screw YOU up (in terms with how she looks at you)... since you can become boring pretty fast (like the other people on this thread said).
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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