Girlfriend blasts me lastnight with "Im not sure" about moving in together/next level

[ima str8 up pimp]

Well me and my girl Nina have been together for a while now and last night we were only continuing our conversation with plans to move in and just see eachother more in general... I'm so loving towards her I let her not need anything emotionally and she's usually so damn sweet, she'll be the death of me I tell you..

We've been dating on and off for almost 3 years and I know everything about her and how to react in almost any situation, she said last night she "still has a major crush" on me... but she "isn't sure of what she wants"... I started off by saying "okay doll and I won't play the pity card" "we're gonna figure out whats right from wrong here"...

we began texting and I eventually flipped **** because I mentioned my ex from 2 months ago and she got all pissed off but then most info she'll give me is shes "not sure" or "you're not exactly irreplacible yourself" ...

It's just extremely frustrating... we don't live very close to eachother so it's a big hassel to begin with and finally finally when the time is nearing that I'm joing the Army and will live very near her we're seeing eachother in a couple days too 5-6 tops... she comes out with this, she leads me to believe we're madly in love and that all she wants is me to guide her and protect her, to love her, and that's so sweet, but she has another side that'll just ditch without question, or ***** and be a ***** without question without real reason, like a wiplash, all I can do is be patient, and wait, and she'll be the death of me I swear, of all the experience I have I know I can handle her but the distance and me not always having a car is ****ty, I've had hotter girlfriends or at least one who I occasionally cheat on her with Hayley who's a nearly a 10 of 10HB... but that's another story and not an influencial factor it's just that Hayley is the only confidence I have to lie back on if this heads way south for us....
Anyone have any insight?

 

[brownbear.]

is this a trolljob or what?

on and off for three years? your ex from two months ago? hayley, who you occasionally cheat on her with?

these dont sound like the ingredients of a relationship that is ready for "the next level"

 

[ima str8 up pimp]

excuse me? trolljob???

really seriously that's not appreciated man? Take those comments somewhere else I need real advice, if you really don't understand and maybe I'm jumping the gun, Nina and I were'nt dating a few months ago and Hayley and I were and Hayley thought she might be pregnant so I had to tell Nina about it recently maybe 2 weeks ago, and she flipped **** yes but forgave me as far as she knows I don't talk to Hayley, I still do though and we're at the point where we have been wanting to move on to the next level and last night we were adjusting last minute details when she said all she did...

Listen man, don't come on my thread questioning me about a troll job I've probably already hooked more girls than you will in your lifetime for starters and two this relationship is my life and that's just ****ing insulting, question anything you want don't even go there.

 

[Rounder]

Been with her for 3 years and you're 19 now. So you've been with her since you were 16 yeah?

You're 19 - try being single for a while. You're too young to be tied down like this. Go explore life, see what's out there and see what life has to offer. Quit making her the center of your universe.

I'll predict you don't leave this girl - she'll leave you at some point, but you're going to try to make it work. Best of luck.

 

[ima str8 up pimp]

I ran out of posts for the day so the answer to Bible Belt is this:

That is what's going on... she told me however last night probably the last time she responded that she has a major crush on me and that there's noone waiting in line, that she just isn't sure...

I'm confident space is the factor...

My ego gets in the way that I've hooked up with alotta girls and I know that hooking up with girls like Hayley and that compared to Nina, it's like in my head "how can she get tired of me? she knows she loves me and we both know in comparison I'm better looking anyway, how can she even pull that?" so I try and deny in my head that maybe she isn't always as infatuated as I might come to believe...

I'll give her space, I know she won't go anywhere else and I could definately see it in her if she would... man I've hooked up with just around 36 girls, Nina is sometimes desperate for me... but I know I need her in the end and when she does this it seems like she knows she doesn't need me... I need to drop the ego and give her space it's a decent adjustment, manipulating certain attributes of mine like that could change the relationships direction completely, I could work with that... how do you honestly feel about this?

 

[Rounder]

Perfect relationship? How can you judge that? What's your benchmark?

You are needy for her. You need to move on - for your own well being.

You aren't going to leave though, so best of luck. I'm not going to go on and on to convince you to leave. I think you're a lost cause.

 

[Bible_Belt]

She is telling you that she wants space. Give it to her. Stop calling her and go fvck other girls, and don't give it a second thought that she is fvcking other guys. That's how a pimp would handle it