Girlfriend asked me to spank her

[ChapStick]

Me and my girlfriend have been going out for a little over 5 months now. Last night she asked me if I was okay with spanking her during sex because its something shes always wanted but was too afraid to ask. We have both become really comfortable with each other so the sex is getting kinkier and more fun!

Should I be worried? I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm happy to have a kinky sexual girlfriend that begs me to **** her, but I'm also worried about hurting her and leaving bruises.. Any suggestions?

Anyone ever have their girlfriend ask them to spank her? Or is this unusual? I'm not complaining, I just would like to hear your guys' stories.

 

[shaunuk]

Don't worry about it mate. I usually just spank girls during sex from the get-go anyway, most like it...or at least no girl has ever given me a negative reaction to it, it's all been positive for me.

You won't bruise her or hurt her, you're just slapping her ass, go for it.

 

[Rounder]

Girl I'm seeing now likes to be spanked, tied up, clothespins on nipples, hair pulled, choked (within reason), slapped across the face (again within reason), simulated non-consent situations, etc.

Slapping her @ss a little while you're behind her is pretty tame and very common.

Keep it reasonable at first, communicate with her, see what she likes and take it from there. Keep it light, see how she responds, vary what you do, maybe get a little rougher at times and gauge her reactions. You'll be able to tell if she likes what you're doing.

 

[brewbaron]

this is great news. congratulations

I think spanking is pretty tame bedroom behavior personally but it opens the door to a whole slew of things. who knows, maybe she'll be asking you to tie her up next.

start with gentle taps to her behind and if she likes it give her a harder one. also you might try rubbing her ass after you spank her and then switching up the timing. act like you are about to hit her and then as she tenses pause for a second and then when shes not expecting it *thwack*. as long as you aren't hitting her too hard in the same place many times you shouldn't have to worry about leaving marks or actually hurting her.

have fun.

 

[verysuave]

get ready to hide from the cops when they come looking for you

 

[ChapStick]

Well I think this is gonna change our sex life because after I ****ed her for a little bit and spanked her ass, I went down on her and fingered her as hard as I usually do and she squirt all over the sheets. She has never done that before. Normally she gets really wet, but never squirting and never that much! The sheets were drenched and I almost thought she peed!

Is that an orgasm? I mean it's a form of female ejaculation lol so I must be heading towards a good road ahead!

 

[DonGorgon]

You need to be more sexually agressive all round or she will tire of you quickly.. You need to find ways to make her feel more angsiety (sp?) that will stimulate her emotionally , she wants danger and uncertainty.. Dont just spank her her.. come up with your own freaky dangerous ideas... She will really love you for that.

 

[OneEyedJack]

Should I be worried? I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm happy to have a kinky sexual girlfriend that begs me to **** her, but I'm also worried about hurting her and leaving bruises.. Any suggestions?.

Yes! Talk to her! Give her a medium slap on the butt and ask: "Didja like that?" Then slap her a little harder, then slap her a little more harder until she says to ease up.

It is easier to assume permission than it is to ask for it

 

[f283000]

wow she had to ask YOU to spank her? dude you should have smacked that ass the first time you had sex with her. It seems to me you are a little shy in bed to the point she is telling you what to do.

maybe its just me since ive had my hand on their butt on first dates but you definitely need to be a little more sexually aggresive.

 

[DJDamage]

wow she had to ask YOU to spank her? dude you should have smacked that ass the first time you had sex with her.

Good call.

Don't be afraid of trying different things and being more adventurous. She will let you know if she enjoys it or not without asking for permission (use your judgement).

Good sex is suppose to hurt a bit for the woman, that's what makes it more intense and causes them to cvm harder. Your girl just wants you to naturally be more aggressive and dominate her.

Here are a few tips to try. Next time you are fvcking her doggy style (if she's got long hair) grab a fist full of it and slightly pull so that she would feel it in her roots.

Also if she is riding you on top you can turn her around and flip her so you will now be on top and pin her wrists to the side so she won't "get away" and have her way with her (alot of women have rape fantasies but they don't want to really get raped they just want to experience more intense and aggresive sex from their men whom they trust).

 

[MoveYourAss...]

Hmmm... the fun starts.....

Welcome to a another dimension of sexuality.

Book advice: "screew the roses, send me the thorns". Well-balancd stuff, no fantasy-crap.

Quick advice: Mix tender excitement with "sweet" pain and make her BEG you to fvck her (literally). She will love it.

 

[Lexington]

Are you kidding? That's awesome! You have a "problem" that most dudes would LOVE to have.

Give her a good spankin. You don't want to do it too soft, but just make sure you're not going full force. It's even alright if you leave a few small bruises. That is of course unless she's crazy and she then decides to file a domestic abuse law suit against you!

 

[mpimpin]

Smack that ass

 

[ima str8 up pimp]

Me and my girlfriend have been going out for a little over 5 months now. Last night she asked me if I was okay with spanking her during sex because its something shes always wanted but was too afraid to ask. We have both become really comfortable with each other so the sex is getting kinkier and more fun!

Should I be worried? I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm happy to have a kinky sexual girlfriend that begs me to **** her, but I'm also worried about hurting her and leaving bruises.. Any suggestions?

Anyone ever have their girlfriend ask them to spank her? Or is this unusual? I'm not complaining, I just would like to hear your guys' stories.

Personally I spank, breath hard in the ear, pull hair hard and work up to **** the ho as hard as I can, they appreciate it, they love it, they love me for it, as close to pimpin' a ho as possible. They *** on my penis so much it's ridulous. Eat a girl out the same, build to a climax and hold your mouth in place deep toungue deep as possible, I leave my ho's hooked.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

@ChapStick; It's fine to slap her a$$. You can slap it as hard as leaving a red hand print mark. If you do it too hard she will tell you. Then, you adjust.

@ima str8 up pimp; I don't wanna be a d!ck right now. But, I question you when, you call yourself a pimp. Now, if you bang lots of women. I congradulate you. But, I'm wondering if you are using the word pimp in another form. If you got 3-5 girls daily ho'n themselves for money. And you are living off that money. That is pimpin. Fvcking random girls for the pleasure. Not, making any money out of it. That ain't pimpin. Either your a mac/player/don juan. Or you got girls on the street making you money.

 

[Huffman]

Girls aren't as fragile as we guys tend to believe. Often they don't mind being treated a little rougher every once in a while.
Try biting also.

 

[slickaz]

dude are you joking!!!
you're worried about something most guys here would love to do..

you need to give new meaning to the line "BEAT THAT PU%%Y UP"

im for real tho man..you need to go hard on a chic that asks you for harder.

i mean last thing you want is for her to tell you what to do.

within reason, do what you wanna do to her..

ive had girls ive put on the wall and damaged em from behind, they loved it coz alota girls love the idea of being overpowered and se*ed. borderline rape..

ive told girls straight "ur ur head down n a55 up now" they love that sh!t..
be open n wild in bed..girls hate boring bedplay..
one time we were watchin a p0rn0 and the guy put his foot on her head..i was like im gonna try that on you..she was like ok..so i did..and she loved it..lol..


heres a tip..girls like her..when she tries to turn you on...you need to say "na!try harder..i kno u can do it"...its hard but try not to get a hard on and just act cold..but dont push her off too much..tease her with it..let her beg you and try her best to get u to tap her..then when she's about to give up u do ur thing..break some headboards n set some fire alarms off..hv fun dude

 

[ChapStick]

Thanks guys... She is exploring her sexuality more and I'll admit I have been conservative in the sack because I've felt kind of shy until now! She started asking me what I want and all this ****... Our relationship has progressed a lot in this month because we are really becoming more comfortable with each other...

I used to make fun of those couples in movies that think spanking is a turn on and my own girl gets turned on by being spanked.. lol I'll do whatever it takes to make it fun and exciting in bed..

Thanks for the book suggestion! I'll look into it..

Anyone recommend any online free available material to help spice up the sex? Thanks guys! I will stop being so nice and finally take control and dominate her during sex.. She has actually asked me to **** her doggy-style so I'm sure a dominant lover is someone she wants!

I decline sex and she practically begs me to **** her! I love it! It's such a turn on, and she knows I'm doing it to tease her and she loves the challenge of getting me to have sex with her! Gawd, women are amazing!

 

[ima str8 up pimp]

@ChapStick; It's fine to slap her a$$. You can slap it as hard as leaving a red hand print mark. If you do it too hard she will tell you. Then, you adjust.

@ima str8 up pimp; I don't wanna be a d!ck right now. But, I question you when, you call yourself a pimp. Now, if you bang lots of women. I congradulate you. But, I'm wondering if you are using the word pimp in another form. If you got 3-5 girls daily ho'n themselves for money. And you are living off that money. That is pimpin. Fvcking random girls for the pleasure. Not, making any money out of it. That ain't pimpin. Either your a mac/player/don juan. Or you got girls on the street making you money.

Right now I'm currently not pimpin'. Is it an option if that is the question you're trying to ask... No, it's not a matter if I can or not, not at all. The only matter is my compassion for women, because I do have square love for one, I at times have compassion for the ho's that truly want me while I manipulate them. The truth is, pimpin' the mind, yes that part is taken care of and I am fully capable of pimpin' for money.

At this time I have a married woman for example, ****ing her consistantly, she's doing all the paper work renting me an apartment for myself, and doing what ever I so please for me. I don't care about the ***** and don't really care to show it, she loves me. That is an example of pimpin' the mind, not for money at this time.

 

[Relationship-Buddy]

If she wants spanked, spank her.

Until she wants you to "choke her" (which happens), no worries.


Good Luck!