Girlfriend answers in riddles...help me out please...

[lookyoung]

Hey all,

I've recently finally decided to give up the man-***** lifestyle, and have committed to exclusively date one girl. She's beautiful (she's a model), smart, and has a great heart/personality. Pretty much your classic good girl as well...hasnt' ever tried any drugs, very monogamous...she doesn't even have any piercings...the kinda girl u wanna marry... Very classy, fairly traditional, etc.

Myself on the other hand... oh boi... I'm an exotic entertainer (yes, I take off my clothes for money), I smoke marijuana regularly (not a smart thing to do when you're taking 6 courses in university), I'm also naturally promiscuous (prior to her I'd normally date 3-4 women simultaneously), I also have very liberal values when it comes to drugs and sex.

We're just so different...and it bothers me because I can't for the life of me figure out why she's taking the chance in being in a relationship with me despite all my bad habits that she doesn't endorse. I ask her openly why she's with me and she tells me its "tough to articulate how i feel", and how "You just know what to do...", and "things just fall into place with you".....answers i find cryptic, almost riddle-like...Also she's the one and ONLY girl I've EVER dated who has NEVER complemented me on my appearance. I'm friggin confused, and starting to feel insecure because I don't know why she's even with me.

This is my first real relationship. Previously girls only seemed to want me for sex...in the last 5-6 months I hooked up with 10 girls and never made it past the 3rd date with any girl I dated without getting sexual.

This relationship stuff is really new to me and i have no idea how to interpret what my girl is telling me...am I overthinking? Your replies are appreciated because I'm lost/confused.

its like playing a ball control-style offense in football, whereas I'm used to a quick-strike offense.

Here is a guy that is an exotic dancer who has banged 10 chicks within the last 6 months. Many guys especially the younger guys at sosuave would look up to a guy like this. But this guy is miserable. He does drugs, never had a real relationship. He even states that he is starting to get insecure. He doesn't even know why she is with him. This is a perfect example of a guy who has many notches under his belt but is still an AFC.

This is a great post for the guys who think that being a DJ is about banging chicks. There are many more components into being a DJ. Fuglydude is the prime example.


As far as my advice to you. Is relax she likes you dude go with the flow. Your doing something right. Don't read into it. Have fun.

 

[lookyoung]

LMS. the guy is the exotic dancer. You got it backwards.


And, yep, Wyldefire is making a pass at him. "PM me and I'll try to help you out." Wyldefire says to the exotic dancer....I wonder what she is gonna help him with!!

LOL LOL LOL LOL:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:

 

[KarmaSutra]

If you run into a tricky patch you need help with...PM me and I'll try to help you out.

Whoa boy, someone is feeling frisky in the fanny

Fugly, do not fvck granny without bringing some arthritis meds and geritol. And please, for Christs' sake do not blow your chowder in her, she is a fvcking baby factory. Shat out 4 thus far . . .

I swear I hear the Love Boat theme song . . .

 

[Last Man Standing]

LMS. the guy is the exotic dancer. You got it backwards.

Yes, I knew that, but when he said, "Topless dancer" I assumed "female", and that she was in the businesss as well -- birds of the same feather flock together!!! What is the point of a topless male dancer!!

Lookyoung you made a good summary of this thread -- your best post thus far!!!!

 

[Fuglydude]

Yes, I knew that, but when he said, "Topless dancer" I assumed "female", and that she was in the businesss as well -- birds of the same feather flock together!!! What is the point of a topless male dancer!!

Lookyoung you made a good summary of this thread -- your best post thus far!!!!

Wyldfire won't be getting any action from me because my girl says she'll break off my weiner if I ever cheat...and its standard for me to avoid genital mutilation at all costs.

haha, ya I said "topless dancer" just to be funny/stupid while I was making a joke.

Lookyoung it depends on how you define "miserable"...furthermore, the definition of this term word would be contextually and situationally varied.

I don't really buy into the DJ stuff...cuz to me its fairly common sense. However, I do find the social psychology of attraction absolutely fascinating. This makes reading this forum really interesting.

I base "DJ-ing" around constant self improvement in areas of my life that I value...namely these are my education/career, my physique, personal life experiences, and trying to be the best human being I can be character wise. I don't really ever try to actively pick up chics. Sure I'll ask girls out, but I'll focus on having fun on dates rather than trying to get her to sleep with me. I never directly try to get into a girls pants...it just happens w/ me for whatever reason.

As for my drug use, I think its my choice what I put into my body. I have a degree in molecular biology, doing my second degree right now, and think about doing grad school in pharmacology after. Therefore, I think I have a little bit more knowledge to go off of when I decide whether it is prudent to use a drug recreationally... I don't drink or smoke...just smoke weed. I'm also in the gym 4-6 times week and my diet is normally pretty reasonable too.

I do have issues w/ rejection that I'm still combatting tho...just not used to being rejected, so when it happens, it still bothers me! This is one of the reasons I'm on this forum...I definitely also have insecurities about my body and other stuff too, just like everyone else. I guess the whole point of me being on this forum is to try and improve myself...

And 10 girls in 5-6 months is NOTHING... I could have easily hooked up w/ 20-30...but when you're taking 6 courses in university and work 2-4 nights a week, so that makes it tougher to go out. I've worked w/ guys who have over 400 kills...now that's a PLAYER right there! One of my friends hooked up with 28 girls in 31 days in July one time...

I've never had a one nights stand because I like the chase more than the prize at the end.