Girlfriend and I Taking A Break

[Juggalo]

My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 3 months and recently she's been going through a lot of stress and been having troubles at home so she decided that she wanted to take a break. We're taking a break for a month and then if she's ready getting back together. A lot of people say that she's just doing this because she's afraid of breaking up with me. I lost my virginity to her...

I talked to someone close to her and she told me that whenever she breaks up with a boyfriend she doesn't have anything to do with them so the fact that she still talks to me and talks about me says that there's something there...

She promised me that we'd get back together.

What do you all think? I know that you don't KNOW...but opinions would be appreciated.

 

[Luscious]

You should not be putting all your eggs in one basket. Diversify your options - have other women available.

 

[Canibus27]

I would take her word for it, but I'd also talk to other girls, just in case the worse happens.

 

[Mr. Debonaire]

if shes talking about taking a break, then its because she has stopped feeling the attraction that she did. go hang out with other girls, she will feel like she is missing out, and will want you back

the question is whether or not you will want HER back

 

[Bling]

You'll soon realize that the relationship isn't worth waiting for... move on.

 

[True Wolf]

Taking a break is just a different way for them to break up with you. Just move the on, and she wil realize she fvcked up, then you can sit back and laugh at her while she squirms as your pimping another chick.

 

[steroidsrule]

sounds like bad news to me.. girls are emotion about this kinda stuff... she might be tryin to let you off easy... get new girls and make her jealous and she'll come back... but then again.,.. id rather have the new girls and say **** you to her

 

[oakraiderz2]

People take breaks to hook up with other people.

 

[Juggalo]

She's taken breaks with other guys before and gotten back with them...I think only one guy and they stayed together for awhile but there were a lot of breaks...

She's supposedly taking this break to straighten all the **** that is going on in her life right now...she has a lot of stress and her parents are having troubles and she's having troubles....so she just needs the break...she says that we're getting back together. She told me yesterday that she's 100% sure of it. She said I could date other girls but not if I want her...

I find it weird though...we both work at the same place and she told this guy out of the blue that her and I are taking a break and she said she's going to work tomorrow because someone is bringing some hot sauce or something and he said he would cry like a little baby and "she wants to see that"

I don't know...I'm putting the pieces together and I don't like what I get...should I talk to this guy? He's told me everything she says to him and he told me today that she told him that we're getting back together...

I'm a really paranoid person because past girlfriends have lied to me and done me wrong....I trust this girl and she's the type that if she didn't want to be with me...she'd just break up with me. Everyone tells me that and she's told me that herself...so if she didn't want to be with me she would just break up with me...instead she's taking this break because she needs time to herself...

What do you all think?

 

[VegasGuy56]

Two things:

1. When a girl says she wants to take a break, it almost always means she's planning on breaking up with you.

Originally posted by Juggalo
She said I could date other girls but not if I want her...

2. Don't let her TELL YOU what to do. Like I said, it's probably going to be over anyway, but if she says that she wants to take a "Break" AND that you can't date girls if you want to be with her, that's a big sign that you're letting her control you. If she really does want to take a break from the relationship, you can go out with whoever you want.

Sorry man, but things aren't looking good. You obviously don't want to break up with her, but I can tell you from experience that it's better than letting her control your life.

Just my opinion, from a guy who's been in the same situation.

 

[Juggalo]

Thanks Vegas and thanks to everyone who took the time to reply with their opinions...I'll keep everything that everyone said in my mind and I'll be really cautious with this situation...I really care about this girl and I love her...if I find out that she was just playing with me and she never wanted to get back with me...all hell will break loose!

 

[stalluproar]

Vegasguy is right, you are letting her control the situation. I don't know the rationale behind why family problems caused her to take a break. You are not part of the family. The best way to deal with this test is:

Her: I need a break. Blah Blah Blah (reason)

You: What? You need lunch break?

Frame it that what she is doing is ridiculous. If the likelihood she is doing this to nicely break up with you, don't get stuck on breaking hell loose. All that will do is make you look insecure and validate why she wanted to take a break in the first place.

 

[LikRetsam]

Originally posted by oakraiderz2
People take breaks to hook up with other people.

 

[AC/DC]

Originally posted by LikRetsam
Originally posted by oakraiderz2
People take breaks to hook up with other people.

 

[Maeisgood]

I have a question. How did you get her to be your girlfriend in the first place?