"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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girlfriend always wanting to talk on phone at night..how/should to get out of it?

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I've been going out with her for almost 4 months, things a finne..good. We're both happy.

However, almost every night she will want to chat on the phone a little. I mean, just a few minutes ago she texted asking "are we talking tonight". I know it's no good to always talk on the phone at night..my choice would be to talk on the phone 3 times per week..no more

So how do i respond w/out coming off as an as*hole? I don't want to be cold and say..no i'm busy.

Usually i'll talk and just end the convo quick..but yeah need some help
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I know what you mean, I used to have the same problem, baiscally the only thing you can do is to tell her you are busy, I usually use something like

" I am busy baby (or whatever you call her) but I will call you later"

then you call her back in a few days

that is all the advice I can give you, I assume you do know chicks get bored of you when you talk to them everyday
 
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So if i say something like

"i'm busy..gotta finish up some work but i'll talk/see you tomorrow baby"

That will work? I see her kinda getting a little upset? Hmm.
 
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is she one of those uber-sensitive chicks or is she kind of laid back? Her reaction could depend on her personality, I know my g/f used to get upset when I would do that, but once she saw I was really doing something when i said I had work to do, she chilled out
 
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i'm in h.s. btw if that makes any diffrence...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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tell her straight up you would rather talk in person and the phone feels impersonal and your mind drifts a lot.
 
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there are a buncha things you can tell her....like....

"I'm eating, dont disturb me" (thats what I told a chick on the phone today)

"I hate you" is the TXT messege I got later on

cheers!
 
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Originally posted by escobar04
there are a buncha things you can tell her....like....

"I'm eating, dont disturb me" (thats what I told a chick on the phone today)

"I hate you" is the TXT messege I got later on

cheers!
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and then u make up with maddd crazy sex:p
 
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Originally posted by MetalFortress
dude, it's NIGHT.

Just tell her you gotta go to sleep.
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or fall asleep on the phone.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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If she gets upset because you don't want to talk, that's her problem, not yours. You are not the emotion police in the relationship.

If you don't want to talk, don't talk. Let her take care of her owm emotional state.
 
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Tell her your busy... say you'll talk tomorrow

Will she get upset? She shouldn't... but even if she does she's not gonna leave you or anything it just means she's more appreciative of the time you give her...

And if in the extreme circumstance that she does leave you... she wasn't worth the hassle, lol...
 
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Or call her for 4 minutes before you talk about how long of a day you've had and how tired you are, then yawn on the phone, etc. Within 3 minutes she should be saying "maybe I can let you go" and you can say "yeah, I better get to sleep".
 
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I love talking to my gf....it would suck major balls if I was with a women I had to make up excuses to not talk to.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Originally posted by shark
I've been going out with her for almost 4 months, things a finne..good. We're both happy.

However, almost every night she will want to chat on the phone a little. I mean, just a few minutes ago she texted asking "are we talking tonight". I know it's no good to always talk on the phone at night..my choice would be to talk on the phone 3 times per week..no more

So how do i respond w/out coming off as an as*hole? I don't want to be cold and say..no i'm busy.

Usually i'll talk and just end the convo quick..but yeah need some help
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Man stop living by the rules this site makes there are to many, they contradict themselves and all they do is limit you. If your Gf wants to talk to you every nigh talk to her every night. If you genuinely don’t want to talk to her then don’t. I doubt the latter is the case though. Just because you talk every night she wont break up with you ect this site has a lot of ridiculous rules and most of them are not based on GF/BF relationships anyway. That being said do not overdo it don’t have 6 hour long conversations 7 days a week.

People should stop trying to find and create rules for dating. The game is like water its fluid, malleable we should stop concentrating on rules and start concentrating on the game itself. All these rules restrict us they give us limitations and I myself don’t like to be limited.

I view the rules as guidelines so I am never limiting myself. If at sometime I feel like telling a girl she is beautiful I do it because I don’t have rules restricting me. I believe this is what makes my game strong.
 
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Originally posted by MetalFortress
dude, it's NIGHT.

Just tell her you gotta go to sleep.
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Exactly! Man up bro.

Stop lying and making up lame excuses so you won't hurt her feelings :rolleyes:.

A Real Man puts his foot down and isn't afraid to hurt her feelings.

Man Up!
 
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