"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Wazzup ya'll...

iam a big fan of your articles..but i need Dj, advice..


Ok..so i have this friend..my classmate for 3 years now..were really good friends..sorta close...so iam trying to make moves you know?

ok..ill skip the whole story before the godd **** part...

Sorry for the long post..

DAY 1
ok i was i the house watching t.v...when my buddy texted me..he said that he was in "her" house.. lets Call HEr "A" and call my friend "B" so B is a guy but B and A are besties so no problem wid that one.. so B and i talk VIa sms..and we come to a point where i say... "hey tell "A" i miss her"... afterwards.. 'A' replies wid her own cellphone and says "i miss you too"... so thats some gud ****


DAY 2

A texted me and asked if i was coming to her party.. i was being funny and said.. "yup but i have to bring my mom though" she played along and said "sure ill bring my dad they can both have a date" .... i said "what will we do?" she said "have a date as well! lets get your mom and my dad drunk!" so we laugh and she said she was just kdding.....Then afterwards i ask her if she had watched the "movie" and she said "no...lets watch that someday"

kewl...

Day 3 PARTY

I went to her party.. no one was there yet..so i waited for awhile until she finally arived..no on was there so we talk for awhile..hehe.. i applied some KINo on her and she doesnt seem to have negative actions.. in fact she does some slight kino as well...touch on the arm..bringing her body close to mine when i crack a joke..once i craked a corny joke...which i never do..and she laughed..

so u think she likes me??
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Do I think she likes you? I think the only way you are going to know is if next time you are with her you make a move and kiss her. Thats pretty much the test right there. If she does like you then she will go with it and you will be able to tell.... if she doesnt like you... you will know. Any comments on taking it to fast or that she wants to get to know you better and you should be out of there man. No need to worry about it though, just go do it and have fun.
 

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there is a useful button called search on the top right, this question is always asked again and again. Unfortuantely there is no 100% way of knowing if she likes you other than going for the kiss (well even that can be false but . . . ).


The trouble with what you have posted is that it depends on how you normally act with other girls and how she normally acts ith other guys. If she is flirty, fun and gregarious then its possible that she has no interest and is just being flirty (im sometimes guilty of the same thing). However, if she is normally introverted and shy then she does like you.

But if she is (like most girls) a mix between the two, it depends whether this behaviour is symptomatic of how you two act together.

My usual advice in this kind of situation is go for it, i can't remember who but in the Bible there are posts on if you don't go for it you will never know. this is my attitude, i have kicked myself in the past so many times for missed opportunities (especially when i found out that she did like me, i was also hampered by never having kissed a girl). GO FOR IT

If just kissing her would go against everything you feel and do and is too much of a leap of faith for you, then ask her out (there are lots of posts on this - where to take her, how best to ask her out[and i dont want to repeat it as there is enough data redundancy here]). Whatever you do JUST GO FOR IT, otehrwise like me you will be kicking yourself for ever after.
 

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I sense either emotional attraction, or she's one of those people that flirts with everyone. Apply the kino and the C&F attitude, and see how it goes.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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pare, ako pa sa'yo, huwag mo nang problemahin ang hindi problema.

eh kaw na nga tong nagsabi nah ok naman ang kanyang mga reaction, diba?

tsaka di ko nah binasa ung mga ibang tugon ng mga tao basta't ako pa sayo, patuloy mo lang ang mga ginagawa mo.

pero di ako masyadong agree dun sa 'wat shall we do?' moh na linya. para bang binigyan mo siya ng pagkakataon na 'umayaw' sa kung ano mang plano mo. huwag mong ibigay ang control mo sa relasyon.

pero mukhang maganda naman ang mga resulta so ako pa sayo, tama na muna ang mga pagiisip masyado at gumalaw ka na. kesa naman maunahan ka pa nang kapwa-DJ mo rito. cge ka. :D
 

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ah tlaga?? so ok naman ah?

pero problema..yung sabi nga nang isang tao..yung Advice ni JSH, medyo mixture siya ng slightly flirts with everyone at shy sometimes ..

yung mga actions nya saakin..medyo madalas niya yung gawin sa ibang guyz eh..


ano tingin mong da moves! hehe na pwede kong gawin?
 

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ok, now that ive read the other posts, all i can say is that you should just go for it and 'ask' her out.

not your typical can i take you to the movies line which is so prevalent among us.

just the hey, im going to the movies [or whatever], you could come if you want.

it works for me.

and JSH, you're on target on that one.

short term, just kiss her.
 
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